posted December 20, 2015 08:13 PM            

That how you know they love/care about someone. LOL

My mom has embarrassed me at times with this. But then I think my Aquarius Mars enjoys the reaction I get most of the time.
She told me I was dressed like a biker chick from the 70's last week.

Oh and then my sister has her Moon in Virgo. And she says that the hand me downs she gives me, keeps me from dressing like a weirdo all the time. haha

They are capable of saying nice things though. And since they are so critical, you know they actually mean it when they say something nice.

My boyfriend liked my dress today. A few days ago, I wore pjs to his place and he pointed out a coffee stain that I did not even notice on my thigh.

I have a cousin that's a Virgo and when I go shopping with her, she will be honest. I tried on these heels, and she told me I was walking like I had a stick up my a$$.

posted December 21, 2015 12:23 AM            

Still, Virgo is an earth sign and symbolized by a woman. They're sympathetic and warm underneath that icy exterior. They respond best to calm, rational communication. They're generally reasonable people who can understand where other people are coming from. Have you tried having a calm sit-down and discussing how her nitpicking makes you feel?

posted December 21, 2015 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:

I really hope this doesn't turn into another Virgo-hating thread.

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posted December 21, 2015 08:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Liliya:
Nah, don't worry. When we had a poll about mens favourite Venus signs, Virgo was on top - voted by guys.

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Really? Thanks, that helps.

Dreaminess,
Well, yes they can and they do. However, if the nitpicking is overshadowing your perception of the other aspects of their love, then the solution is pretty simple - just let them know. This Venus will really and truly listen to what precisely angered you and why. Will make a mental list of do's and don't's and will soften their approach.

Of course, you may also receive an added bonus analysis of their own whats and why's into the bargain. But they will be more than willing to work on themselves, you and the relationship to make you happy.

posted December 21, 2015 09:02 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
What helps to remember is that Virgo types are usually much more critical of themselves. However much criticism they're dishing out, they're giving themselves about five times that amount, several times a day. They're not saying those things to hurt your feelings, but because they really do want to help you. It often has a hurtful effect on many people, though.

Still, Virgo is an earth sign and symbolized by a woman. They're sympathetic and warm underneath that icy exterior. They respond best to calm, rational communication. They're generally reasonable people who can understand where other people are coming from. Have you tried having a calm sit-down and discussing how her nitpicking makes you feel?

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posted December 21, 2015 09:07 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
Well, I don't know what else to tell you, then.

I really hope this doesn't turn into another Virgo-hating thread. We already have enough of those on this forum. I'm getting the vibe that you just want to complain about Virgos and your mom in a thread, though. I guess I made the mistake of thinking this was a productive discussion.

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Seriously?? lol. I wanted to know if its possible to make a virgo venus be less critical and more pleasant in how they show their love or whatever not to bash them.. lol. Every sign has a bad trait and a good trait why is it so wrong to talk about a sign`s bad traits? I`ve been dealing with this my whole life from my mom and now i want some answers to how to make her stop all the critical nonsense. Its annoying to deal with..

posted December 21, 2015 09:35 AM            

My husband and three of my best friends have virgo venus (and other virgo placements). Giving constructive criticism is one of their best traits. That, and extreme attention to details, along with practiced, almost "clinical" precision.

posted December 21, 2015 09:45 AM            

When in Venus, the individual usually considers the qualities associated with Virgo as "admirable".

When on the Moon, the individual usually considers the qualities associated with Virgo as necessary to feel "loved" and nurtured.

Usually parent-child relations- just like any other relationship really,comes from an agitation i.e opposition,square/inconjunct aspect of one personal planet to another.

This usually translates to two people just rubbing each other the wrong way or being
unable to read each other's emotional cues.

A Gemini Moon parent may find that they way they "nurture" their Cancer Venus child misses the mark.

The child may express themselves through emotions , whilst the parent will expect the child "talk it out".

The parent could also be more social whereas the child is more introverted. So they may(through trying to "nurture"(Moon)) push the child to be more extroverted.

The thing is that with parental relationships is that it is intensified. You can't break up with family when they irritate you.

posted December 21, 2015 09:49 AM            

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I suppose it depends on what "better" and "pleasant" mean to each person.

My husband and three of my best friends have virgo venus (and other virgo placements). Giving constructive criticism is one of their best traits. While they're not antagonistic or go out of their way to peck at me, they don't hold back and don't go easy or coddle me either. Shrug, oh well that's how I like it.

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posted December 21, 2015 10:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I dated 3 Moon in Virgo people. And my brother also has Virgo Moon.

When in Venus, the individual usually considers the qualities associated with Virgo as "admirable".

When on the Moon, the individual usually considers the qualities associated with Virgo as necessary to feel "loved" and nurtured.

Usually parent-child relations- just like any other relationship really,comes from an agitation i.e opposition,square/inconjunct aspect of one personal planet to another.

This usually translates to two people just rubbing each other the wrong way or being
unable to read each other's emotional cues.

A Gemini Moon parent may find that they way they "nurture" their Cancer Venus child misses the mark.

The child may express themselves through emotions , whilst the parent will expect the child "talk it out".

The parent could also be more social whereas the child is more introverted. So they may(through trying to "nurture"(Moon)) push the child to be more extroverted.

The thing is that with parental relationships is that it is intensified. You can't break up with family when they irritate you.

What is your Moon/Venus/Sun/Mars sign?

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posted December 21, 2015 10:15 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
I really hope this doesn't turn into another Virgo-hating thread. We already have enough of those on this forum.

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posted December 21, 2015 10:15 AM            

So what are your mums other placements? Where are her Sun and Mercury?

posted December 21, 2015 10:21 AM            

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Her other placements influence too, you know. As a VIV myself, I HARDLY ever critisize anyone or anything (I don't go easy on myself, though). I notice flaws, some may irritate me, some I find cute, but I mostly keep it to myself, unless my opinion is asked for. Then again, I have a Saggi stellium and Jupiter is my dominant planet, so it just doesn't bother me most of the time This is about day-to-day matters and how I am in relationship with others. My husband is a Saggi Venus with Earth Void and mostly air in his chart, I really don't thinks we'd be together, if my VIV (conjunct Asc, I also have Mercury in Virgo) was so horrible

So what are your mums other placements? Where are her Sun and Mercury?

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posted December 21, 2015 11:23 AM            

But for example the coffee stain on the pj's. I would do the same. I know that I don't want coffee stains on my clothes.
I wouldn't want to walk like I have a stick up my butt while walking in heels. (I don't want to walk in heels LOL).

posted December 21, 2015 02:17 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:

We're critical because we want the best for you if we love you.
In a nutshell. I don't think I'm as critical as we're made out to be but I don't think any of us realize it if we are. It's not our intent.

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posted December 21, 2015 02:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Yes. "Better you hear it from us, than some outsider" is usually also part of the intent.

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posted December 21, 2015 09:42 PM            

My way of showing love is doing things for you such as running an errand, cleaning, buying a gift, treating you to lunch, etc. I will criticize you but it's only because I care; I want to "fix you".

I am not at all affectionate, and I feel most appreciated when my lover acknowledges all that I do for him.

I'm very shy when it comes to matters of the heart. I am not flirtatious, and if I like someone I won't pursue them unless I know for a fact that they like me too.

posted December 21, 2015 11:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Liliya:
Nah, don't worry. When we had a poll about mens favourite Venus signs, Virgo was on top - voted by guys.

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