posted January 16, 2016 10:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Yeah and my husband is a Libra moon, too!

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Wow. And I remember you said you had a Pisces moon too. Crazy.

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I can't say he has low confidence, he is extremely smart and handy, talented in many areas, and he knows what he is capable of. But he doesn't think much of himself. It's always ho-hum, no matter how huge the project or accomplishment. Ho hum, what's the next thing? [/B]

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Hmm...I wonder if the square causes us to undervalue ourselves?

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You don't seem like you have low confidence I'm surprised you say that. I think it's sweet your husband wants to change that about you, it seems truly caring for him to wish that you could change, just so you could enjoy yourself more. [/B]

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posted January 16, 2016 10:47 PM            

I should point out that as I was not born straight (and I seem to have a lower than usual sex drive) that I was pretty much raised on scifi and such rather than what most other girls around me were raised on, and that affected how I came to view and prioritize romantic relationships...to be more like a guy in that respect (well, if a guy wasn't horny all the time).

I am responsible, yes, I don't know any of my partners who would've said otherwise. Most would say I'm open as well, though one fling, and perhaps my current relationship (in which my other half has a Cancer moon and Scorpio Venus & Mars), might be inclined to say I keep them at arm's length...it's really a matter of perspective rather than something that can be objectively assessed. (In any case, I'm worth it...at least for now.)

Vulnerability? I show love and affection, but I try not to burden others with my fears. Some--those who love drama or need emotional intensity--probably think of me as hiding that because I don't let my changeable moods and feelings dictate my actions and have melt downs or seek continuous comforting (well, not most of the time), my feelings are backseat drivers rather than at the wheel (and in the long term my feelings are better off for it), which of course goes into the responsibility thing. I've only had one relationship that was filled with drama and fighting, but she was the type that when I was too literally exhausted (and nodding off) to argue with her anymore while on a road trip she went through the talk radio shows just to argue with them out loud so she wouldn't get bored.

posted January 17, 2016 06:08 AM              

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Originally posted by Faith:
Thanks, Elysia, I'm tempted to constantly marvel at your amazing social graces, but I fear the repetition will look excessive. So from now on, just know I'm marvelling.

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Gee, thanks! Your Sag Venus makes my Jupiterian Venus feel goood. I like to pretend we're all sitting with each other at a tea party.

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Originally posted by Faith:

As for the TV, how does anyone live with that thing?

As muddy says, "With the glorious internet, I don't need a TV."

And I'm not really into fiction, or the news, or commercials. Maybe I would watch The Food Network if there were no commercials.

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posted January 17, 2016 06:11 AM              

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Originally posted by Vegasdlt36:
Thanks. Astrology aside, I really don't want to work on it anymore. We are both nice people just not good for each other.

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posted January 17, 2016 12:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
PixieJane, Any 3rd house action in your chart?

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posted January 17, 2016 06:11 PM              

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[b]cchampliss2: Slow dance. Wow, that is really what it feels like when associating with Venus-Saturn folks. Maybe its hard for you 'coz you don't like to be tied down while at the same time, need a solid commitment? Just a thought... [/B]

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posted January 19, 2016 04:22 AM            

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What are you like, romantically? I get the sense that you guys tend to keep long-term lovers at arm's length and feel alone even while in a relationship? [/b]

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No, not all. They are probably the only one who truly knows how I feel. I tend to keep my feelings to myself unless asked, though. So I guess I got lucky with my hubby's 3rd house moon. He's not afraid to ask if he notices something is wrong and I know he won't judge me for whatever it is.

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You're very responsible towards your lovers & family, but you don't actually let emotional vulnerability show. Is that so? If not, what are your personal experiences?

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Responsible towards loved ones, yes definitely. I And emotional vulnerability is a no-no on a regular basis. If something traumatic happens, well then yeah, I could let my gaurd down and talk about it, but more than likely I bottle it up for personal viewing at a later time. I think these 2 tie into each other. How can I be the rock they lean on if I'm spongy?

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Also, more importantly - what do you need/want in a partner? (Do include your moon sign in your answer).

Please discuss...

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I need someone who is honest and entertaining. Someone that will build a life with me and take interest in my likes and dislikes, whether or not it was something they had interest in it before. Like astrology and my husband. He couldn't care less about studying it himself, but encourages me and answers any questions I may pose to him. Or his interest in electronics, half the time I have nooooo clue what he is talking about, but I will ask questions to better understand. And he eagerly explains, having something to teach to someone makes him happy. I love this give and take.

It's also important for him to understand that I want quality over quantity. In everything. For me, that means that I WILL spend $300 on boots I don't have to replace (unless I want a new pair ) instead of spending $50 on a pair that might get me through one season. Or I would rather purchase a new vehicle than a used one.

Reliability. Without it, I can't trust you. And without trust, I can't love you. I have to know I can trust that they will do what they say and say what they do, I'm not even interested otherwise. I've had someone ask "Well haven't you ever planned on doing something and then not be able to do it?" And of course I have, but if that's the case, as soon as I'm aware of the situation I let it be known that I won't be able to keep my commitment. We were talking about people saying they would be somewhere and then never showing up. I think it's disrespectful. And that is another thing I need.

Respect. You respect me, I respect you. It's easy. And I can't hold someone near and dear if I have no reason to respect them. I think this applies to everyone, but I don't think respect regularly leads to attraction for everyone.