posted January 16, 2016 08:41 AM              

Esp. the conjunction, but other aspects also welcome.

What are you like, romantically? I get the sense that you guys tend to keep long-term lovers at arm's length and feel alone even while in a relationship? You're very responsible towards your lovers & family, but you don't actually let emotional vulnerability show. Is that so? If not, what are your personal experiences?

Also, more importantly - what do you need/want in a partner? (Do include your moon sign in your answer).

posted January 16, 2016 09:11 AM            

Notice to readers:

Randall banned Elysia without ever explaining to her or anyone else why she was banned.

Such a high-quality person and excellent astrologer, coldly removed from this site, while hateful people have been allowed to stay.

That says everything about this place.

posted January 16, 2016 09:18 AM              

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Originally posted by Faith:

ETA: Oops, it's 5.59 degrees.

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I hear your 6th house sun, ma chérie.

posted January 16, 2016 09:36 AM            

One thing I notice about us is that our relationship gets better with time. We love each other 100x more, and work 100x harder to ensure each other's happiness. In the beginning there were times we should have broken up. Somehow, we keep evolving though. We even fight differently than we did before. In the beginning, we fought with anger, trying our best to hurt each other. Now when we argue, it's to try to understand where the other person is coming from, and to get our points across because we're actually care about the outcome. In a lot of ways, we've grown up and gained maturity through the course of the relationship, which is totally Saturn.

posted January 16, 2016 10:09 AM              

bananaz, Good to hear that.. Guess both of you having those aspects helps, as does similar interests.

Faith, wow.. that's quite a lot going on. I absolutely get the over-sensitive bit. Also, come to think of it, Sag venus considers shared values an important part of love - but you love deeply and stick around in spite of some of that (such as astrology), being missing (for lack of a better word). Maybe that's Saturn too...?

posted January 16, 2016 10:13 AM            

What are you like, romantically?

- I'm pretty romantic. Well, more like very romantic, but I think that comes from venus conj neptune. Saturn makes me think of responsibilities, terms and conditions. I usually get the saturn-related stuff out of the way first, then I dish out the romance.

I get the sense that you guys tend to keep long-term lovers at arm's length and feel alone even while in a relationship?

- No I don't do this. Saturn likes love and partnership. To me, a good relationship requires honesty, transparency, understanding...etc... all that good stuff. Keeping people at arms' length doesn't help me to get those good things.

You're very responsible towards your lovers & family, but you don't actually let emotional vulnerability show. Is that so? If not, what are your personal experiences?

- I do let emotional vulnerability show. Obviously it depends on how much I like the other party, or how much I trust them, how much I value the connection...etc...

The only time when I don't do that, is when the other party isn't the type that is comfortable with such things, or they're not emotionally collected. Or when I don't trust them, or don't want the friendship/connection to go deeper.

Plus, with people whom I have my eyes on, showing some parts of my soft belly is a great way to find diamonds among the rough stones. In time of conflicts, I'll watch to see if they use it against me. Heh, the people who I keep close, have never struck low, even when they're angry.

Also, more importantly - what do you need/want in a partner? (Do include your moon sign in your answer).

Aries moon - 3rd house.

I'll just describe my s.o.

Lol.

Nah, my list works even for acquaintances and friends. Don't mess with my personal life choices. They can offer comments and give advices though. Don't try fighting my battles unless I ask for help. I respect my friends and loved ones as individuals, and I'd like to receive the same treatment.

For romantic partners, well I like someone who can take care of himself/can function as an independent person. Spends his money wisely, can survive on a tight budget, can cook and do household chores. Knows how to express himself- this is especially important, I value communication. Resilient, people who have been through hardships and know how to deal with them efficiently.

posted January 16, 2016 10:16 AM              

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
Venus conjunct saturn in capricorn.

What are you like, romantically?

- I'm pretty romantic. Well, more like very romantic, but I think that comes from venus conj neptune. Saturn makes me think of responsibilities, terms and conditions. I usually get the saturn-related stuff out of the way first, then I dish out the romance.

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posted January 16, 2016 10:23 AM            

Dishing out terms and conditions is more to get both parties on the same page from the get go. All cards on the table.

Like with my s.o, right from the start I told him about what I didn't like and wouldn't tolerate, what I could offer, and what I expected. I asked for his requests, likes and dislikes too. It's a drag so just do it all in one go, and get to the good stuff. Rather than finding out little by little, and god forbid, by hints.

posted January 16, 2016 10:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I really cannot stand TV and wouldn't want one in the house. But that's standard for most homes.

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posted January 16, 2016 02:26 PM              

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Originally posted by Vegasdlt36:
Bare with me I'm new. I have a lot of problems relationship wise.

Venus conjunct Neptune
Moon conjunct Venus
Venus square Saturn
I also have Saturn square Neptune which all I keep finding is gloom.

My husband has Venus opposite Neptune.

I'm in a shaky 11 years marriage right now.
I want a peaceful household/family life. I need a spouse that communicates, that is honest. I need peace and comfort. After a long day I don't want to come to fighting, drama, etc. I'd rather be alone than be stressed out. My moon is in Capricorn.

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Vegasdlt,

That's awful. Yes, home should be a place of peace, away from the chaos of day to day life. I'm sorry that you have a tough time of it.

Don't know much about your situation, but have you guys tried couples therapy or something?

posted January 16, 2016 02:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I relate to all of this.

My husband has Venus square Saturn. His Saturn is conjunct my Venus.

We should have broken up many times.

Only recently I was thinking it was over.

But we seem connected by forces outside our control, I fall in love with him again at the most inconvenient times! It's really strange.

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posted January 16, 2016 02:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:

The person I know has zero shared interests with their loved one. Personally, I think a mix of similar and different interests are good. And in love, we mutually explore what the other finds fulfilling. In this case, the loved one is not even willing to explore or tolerate any of them (as a small example - won't accompany partner to a movie/to the theatre, ever. Or even watch at home together). Things like that - big and small, make the other person feel unhappy and stifled eventually. I was wondering if Venus-Saturn is the glue that holds it together.

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What a stubborn person lol. I feel like my husband and I let each other be who we are. The things we're interested in, we participate together and the things we're not, we are free to do in our own time. My husband is out golfing now for example, and Im here chatting with you lovely people

posted January 16, 2016 03:07 PM              

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Originally posted by bananaz:
My husband is out golfing now for example, and Im here chatting with you lovely people

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..and we are pleased to have you here. *courtesies*

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Originally posted by bananaz:

I can't imagine being with someone who won't even make the effort to try.

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Yeah, that's what baffled me - I mean, if you give it a shot and still find you really hate it, fine - but to not even deign to try is a bit harsh.

posted January 16, 2016 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Vegasdlt36:
Bare with me I'm new. I have a lot of problems relationship wise.

Venus conjunct Neptune
Moon conjunct Venus
Venus square Saturn
I also have Saturn square Neptune which all I keep finding is gloom.

My husband has Venus opposite Neptune.

I'm in a shaky 11 years marriage right now.
I want a peaceful household/family life. I need a spouse that communicates, that is honest. I need peace and comfort. After a long day I don't want to come to fighting, drama, etc. I'd rather be alone than be stressed out. My moon is in Capricorn.

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What's your husbands moon sign?