posted February 28, 2016 08:45 AM            

Generally it's assumed that:

- Moon: what we need (but what men want, also?)
- Venus: what we want (for men only? Mars for women? what about the Sun?)
- DSC: what we actually get

Yes?

I'm confused about the "need" part.
How can you know what you need or what's good for you? Is that solely the role of the Moon?

Does the Moon have a different function in a male vs a female chart? (do men desire their Moon while women "need" it without necessarily desiring it?...)

(I'm using traditional/heterosexual significators here... Apologies for the non-heterosexual people out there, I have no idea how significators work for you guys.)

In my experience, I get my DSC mostly, but I can see no trace of my Mars or Sun (or Venus or the Moon, really).

But from what I've seen, men tend to "get" the whole combo: Moon, Venus and DSC...

Just curious about what you guys think of this.

What do you "want", and what do you "get"?

And do you know where to look for to find what you "need" (and is that very different from what you want?)

posted February 28, 2016 08:53 AM            

And seriously, I think the whole chart should be taken into consideration if we're to create the profile of someone who'd be attractive and compatible. First of all, we need to figure out what kind of person the chart's owner is. Completing patterns, even if not romantic, is probably important too.

What one gets depends a lot on how mature and wise they are. Some people are simply bad at choosing partners.

posted February 28, 2016 10:50 AM            

I once heard this saying:
You won't know what you need until someone gives it to you.

Often people who touch me deeply catch me unawares because I didn't know I even needed what they were offering. Sometimes even a simple gesture can awaken a feeling of need...like Oh that! That's available?? I need more of that!!!

Almost the same way the consumer culture functions, we don't really think of products until they are options. (?)

Anyway, yes, I think emotional needs are determined by the moon. I think people are increasingly disdainful of emotional needs, though...I think we aren't too in touch with our emotional needs because we are conditioned to focus on becoming emotionally low-maintenance and self-sustaining. So the primary need becomes, to remain in a position where self-care is possible and supported. (I don't think this is healthy, I think we all need connection on a deeper level, but these are the social norms that I think we're dealing with.)

With Venus, yes, it's more a matter of "want," it's a happy planet that wants more of the same...I think it's geared towards attaining a pleasant state, whereas the moon is open to a wider variety of sensations and experiences.

The DSC seems to function mainly as an indicator of who we'll single out for a monogamous relationship...I don't see much use for it beyond that, except in event charts, it highlights partnership themes.

Ideally there is harmony between our DSC, moon and Venus, and we find a compatible harmony in our partner, but that is rare.

posted February 28, 2016 11:22 AM            

The Sun may be what you need in a more superficial sense like career, interests, ego( ego in a good way, not bad)

Venus is what you love

When *I* am all said and done, I am a Cancer Moon lol

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posted February 28, 2016 02:06 PM            

If the Moon and Venus are badly aspected to each other, there is a possibility of an affair in marriage/relationship.

What the person reads as love(Moon) is not the same as what they idealize(Venus). So there is a chasm that needs to be relieved.

The Moon person will always be the person the individual falls back to. No matter how many other people tickle their interest.

If Moon and DSC disagree,one may feel like they have shallow friends or have a false public image.

posted February 28, 2016 02:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Oh that! That's available?? I need more of that!!!

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Yeah, thing is...when you find something your Venus 'likes', but something still feels a little off - that's probably your unmet emotional needs making themselves felt. It's different signals for different people, but I mostly realize it only after a long period of them having gone unnoticed... In this case, it's more of a process of elimination, rather than an outward *seeking*... (I like him. He's great. He's fun. He's so smart. What's wrong??? Oh wait....).

posted March 01, 2016 11:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
I'm all you need, silly

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Oh, you.

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What one gets depends a lot on how mature and wise they are. Some people are simply bad at choosing partners.

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I agree with the first point. But I wonder if "some people" aren't simply supposed to learn some lessons, and that's the reason why they make "poor choices"... Now, I think a lot of people stay in relationships that have outgrown their purpose, but I really can't tell if that's their own choice or if that's somehow related to higher purposes like karma, destiny/fate, etc.

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Originally posted by Faith:
I once heard this saying:
You won't know what you need until someone gives it to you.

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Hi Faith.
I really enjoyed your post, and fully agree with you.