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Topic: Parent with Aura of Negativity
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Electro DGX
Knowflake Posts: 156
From: Uranus before I ran into Mars
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted March 03, 2016 08:06 PM
  
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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I'm so sorry.
Thank you for your condolences. The same for everyone else  IP: Logged |
Elysia
Knowflake Posts: 938
From:
Registered: Aug 2015
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posted March 04, 2016 05:20 AM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I appreciate the advice but for that last bit, I absolutely cannot succumb to his wishes. I will hate myself for eternity and never forgive myself for being so subservient ever again. My Aquarius side will hate it and having an Aqua stellium of 5, also with a Mars asc conjunct in Scorpio and an Aries Saturn, I will probably explode at some point. I've struggled with issues relating to assertiveness and by doing that, it'll make things more problematic for me :/I do plan on moving away somewhere. That's definitely been on my mind. But this is me being honest with how I feel.
Yeah, I suppose distancing yourself from all that negativity should help. Or the resentment will keep building up. It sucks, I know. And there's almost no way you can't take it personally when it's your dad. Don't let anything break your spirit. IP: Logged |
SoStellarOne
Knowflake Posts: 95
From: Charleston,SC, US
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted March 04, 2016 05:50 AM
ElectroDGX,
Yeah, I believe that is the best option you have. I relate to this so much, but the thing that's funny is that my dad WANTS ME TO LIVE WITH HIM because he thinks that it will force me to favor him over my own mother as a way of hurting her for divorcing him 30 years ago. Of course he failed miserably because his true colors came through the seams very quickly. When I made a decision to become a therapist, he tried everything trick in his book to destroy my efforts by trying to find out when I was going to take my exam for my license. I gave him a fake date for my own protection and coicendently, when that date was getting near? He would start an argument the day before just because he thinks that it would stress me out to get me to fail the exam in the worse way. He says to me that my brother and sister are better than me and then added that he's gonna see what I'm going to do once my mother drops dead. Seriously? You don't wish death on people and it took every fiber of my being to restrain myself because with me being a military veteran who's fought for his country in Iraq 2003, I could've put my boot in his face and choke his ass out using the guillotine chokehold to make him tapout, but no I restrained myself because I know how much of an ignorant, dramatic fool he really is. But anyway dude, you're doing the right thing by moving away. Also, get ready because he may try to manipulate you by taunting you into thinking that moving away is actually running away, when really its not. That just shows you have the wisdom to foresee the outcome of the situation not being a good one so you're taking measures to prevent it.IP: Logged | |
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