posted May 12, 2016 03:43 PM            

I played soccer the other night against my friend's team and his girlfriend who I haven't formally met was on it. She is friends with a lot of my ex's friends (people who I was really close with and played soccer with for a number of years). She was my defender and we were playing the pretty standard physical game without any fouls or dirty play, but then it got to the point where she shoved me on several occasions while I was walking past her, with no ball near us. I finally told her to stop shoving me to which she responded, "it's soccer and you can shove people in soccer". I had a chat with my friend, her boyfriend, after and asked him to talk to her about shoving people on the field, which she apparently flipped out about.

I think Mercury in retrograde is showing its head because she Facebook messaged me today with a long novel about how she talked to several of my former teammates (my ex's friends) and to sum it up she is saying that they told her I'm basically a terrible person, a dirty player, and a "pathological victim".

It hurts me of course that not only is she continuing this "drama" but also getting people involved who I was once close with, who I thought had been my friends, who are now saying very mean things about me. She ended it by saying she doesn't want any communication with me ever and was only writing it to me because we'd probably be playing each other in playoffs. I was going to respond to her politely and say I don't want to be on bad terms with her but now I don't know if I should.

posted May 12, 2016 04:47 PM            

For all we know, she could even be insecure or jealous of you (some people are weird like that and think someone's ex, or one's partners platonic friend, must be a threat) and she could have shoved you because of that, and made a lot of the stuff she wrote up to cause you trouble and drive you from the social circle. Best ignore her - if it was me I'd probably block her from social media and overlook her whenever I met her accidentally, but would not stoop down to her level. But if she'd continue to shove or physically provoke me on the field, I'd give her one more verbal warning before retaliating in kind, just a little more strongly than she'd probably expect. But I admit that's the ugly side of Scorp AC raising its head so I wouldn't necessarily recommend this to you. But neither would I condemn you if you felt you had to. Some people only understand one kind of language, sadly.

*edit* I think I would maybe consider forwarding her epistle to her boyfriend, and maybe to those friends of your ex's she supposedly talked to - without any comment of my own. Some things simply speak for themselves, and depending on the content of her letter, she might have "earned" herself the honor to have her "work" appreciated by a larger audience. At the very least it might teach her to refrain from writing silly letters, but it might also escalate the conflict so think about this carefully, especially in terms of whether it would do you more harm than good.

posted May 12, 2016 11:28 PM            

Also, Saturn is retrograde with Jupiter, squaring each other.

I would imagine anyone with mutable placements would be a bit on edge (or more than a bit) right now.

posted May 13, 2016 07:57 AM            

And to get all these other people involved with a message? She sounds like an immature psycho.

She is making an a$$ out of herself, by trying to make a point that you are one, wich you are not.
Yeah don't play her game and stoop to her level, my sister always tells me "You can't fight crazy, it will just make that person act more crazy."

I would show her boyfriend the message. I doubt that he likes this quality in her.

posted May 13, 2016 08:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
I would not simply believe her what she reported those people had said about you. Some people are manipulative and make up such stories to get at people they dislike or feel threatened by. I made the mistake of believing such stories once and only found out ten years later they were wrong - bad mistake.

For all we know, she could even be insecure or jealous of you (some people are weird like that and think someone's ex, or one's partners platonic friend, must be a threat) and she could have shoved you because of that, and made a lot of the stuff she wrote up to cause you trouble and drive you from the social circle. Best ignore her - if it was me I'd probably block her from social media and overlook her whenever I met her accidentally, but would not stoop down to her level. But if she'd continue to shove or physically provoke me on the field, I'd give her one more verbal warning before retaliating in kind, just a little more strongly than she'd probably expect. But I admit that's the ugly side of Scorp AC raising its head so I wouldn't necessarily recommend this to you. But neither would I condemn you if you felt you had to. Some people only understand one kind of language, sadly.

*edit* I think I would maybe consider forwarding her epistle to her boyfriend, and maybe to those friends of your ex's she supposedly talked to - without any comment of my own. Some things simply speak for themselves, and depending on the content of her letter, she might have "earned" herself the honor to have her "work" appreciated by a larger audience. At the very least it might teach her to refrain from writing silly letters, but it might also escalate the conflict so think about this carefully, especially in terms of whether it would do you more harm than good.

Anyway, this lady seems to have issues and it would be best if you would not take it too much to heart.

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So much yes!

posted May 13, 2016 10:40 AM            

I rose above her level and said I had fun playing the game, I only got angry when she shoved me which is why I asked her boyfriend to talk to her, that I like her teammates and I'm friends with many of them. I also said I have no ill will towards her, and if she wishes to feel otherwise about me, then that's solely her choice. I said life is too short to make enemies over recreation soccer games and I extended the offer to her to go out sometime for a maragarita and talk about soccer or whatever.

I am certain she will not respond and I'm okay with that. I just know I will see her around again because we will probably play each other in playoffs but also because I am friends with her boyfriend and I don't want there to be some childish hatred there if I see her. Im not the type of person to hold grudges.

posted May 13, 2016 10:54 AM            

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Originally posted by polkadotstars:
I was wondering if there are any aggressive transits going on right now? Or transits that make people be really rude. I know a few planets are in retrograde right now and I'm wondering if any of them could be triggering it?

I played soccer the other night against my friend's team and his girlfriend who I haven't formally met was on it. She is friends with a lot of my ex's friends (people who I was really close with and played soccer with for a number of years). She was my defender and we were playing the pretty standard physical game without any fouls or dirty play, but then it got to the point where she shoved me on several occasions while I was walking past her, with no ball near us. I finally told her to stop shoving me to which she responded, "it's soccer and you can shove people in soccer". I had a chat with my friend, her boyfriend, after and asked him to talk to her about shoving people on the field, which she apparently flipped out about.

I think Mercury in retrograde is showing its head because she Facebook messaged me today with a long novel about how she talked to several of my former teammates (my ex's friends) and to sum it up she is saying that they told her I'm basically a terrible person, a dirty player, and a "pathological victim".

It hurts me of course that not only is she continuing this "drama" but also getting people involved who I was once close with, who I thought had been my friends, who are now saying very mean things about me. She ended it by saying she doesn't want any communication with me ever and was only writing it to me because we'd probably be playing each other in playoffs. I was going to respond to her politely and say I don't want to be on bad terms with her but now I don't know if I should.

Is this Mercury in retrograde causing this? Is Mars doing anything crazy? Mars is currently in my 5th house but I don't think it's doing much else to my chart.

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posted May 13, 2016 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
I would not simply believe her what she reported those people had said about you. Some people are manipulative and make up such stories to get at people they dislike or feel threatened by. I made the mistake of believing such stories once and only found out ten years later they were wrong - bad mistake.

For all we know, she could even be insecure or jealous of you (some people are weird like that and think someone's ex, or one's partners platonic friend, must be a threat) and she could have shoved you because of that, and made a lot of the stuff she wrote up to cause you trouble and drive you from the social circle. Best ignore her - if it was me I'd probably block her from social media and overlook her whenever I met her accidentally, but would not stoop down to her level. But if she'd continue to shove or physically provoke me on the field, I'd give her one more verbal warning before retaliating in kind, just a little more strongly than she'd probably expect. But I admit that's the ugly side of Scorp AC raising its head so I wouldn't necessarily recommend this to you. But neither would I condemn you if you felt you had to. Some people only understand one kind of language, sadly.

*edit* I think I would maybe consider forwarding her epistle to her boyfriend, and maybe to those friends of your ex's she supposedly talked to - without any comment of my own. Some things simply speak for themselves, and depending on the content of her letter, she might have "earned" herself the honor to have her "work" appreciated by a larger audience. At the very least it might teach her to refrain from writing silly letters, but it might also escalate the conflict so think about this carefully, especially in terms of whether it would do you more harm than good.

Anyway, this lady seems to have issues and it would be best if you would not take it too much to heart.

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Very true. She does have issues. She said in her message to me, "and FYI, since you're so adamant on involving my boyfriend, do not fret, I have already sent to him what I'm sending you".
*roll eyes*

I don't really want to go back to the old friends and talk about it to them. I don't want to drag others into this childish war she has started. I think what goes around comes around, and if this is who she truly is, she has her own demons to battle.