posted May 22, 2016 09:24 PM            

I can relate...in a way. I am personally homosexual, but the way other homosexual people act completely disgusts me. The female personality they wear, the problems made over ridiculous issues, stereotypes; it makes me disgusted that I have to be surrounded by these people. In fact, I often wish that I never was this way because I hate being generalized in such a way, since I highly identify with masculine energy and my personal expression of feminine energy can upset me.

I think the only solution out of this is to believe in yourself and the idea that you're better than what others make it out to be. Be confident and prove that you're not the same, and go out there and show them all!!

posted May 22, 2016 09:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:

In fact, I often wish that I never was this way because I hate being generalized in such a way, since I highly identify with masculine energy and my personal expression of feminine energy can upset me.

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It's somehow rooted in your brain that expressing feminine energy is seen to be regressive, submissive, and weak. You despise being seen as such. I'm not sure how your astrology plays into that but that's an influence of your society and/or upbringing.

posted May 22, 2016 09:37 PM            

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Originally posted by cchampliss2:
It's somehow rooted in your brain that expressing feminine energy is seen to be regressive, submissive, and weak. You despise being seen as such. I'm not sure how your astrology plays into that but that's an influence of your society and/or upbringing.

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It may be because of my dad's strong conservatism and huge disgust for gays. Furthermore, he constantly plays jokes as being a disgusting gay person, which has somehow rooted it into my brain.

Astrologically though I'm giving this to my Mars-Saturn opposition. If I'm more manly, I feel more comfortable.

posted May 22, 2016 09:39 PM            

Other than that, it doesn't bother me at all to (lightly) stroke a man's ego so that he feels like the leader and the one who came up with my great idea.

Part of my power is they'll never know.
I don't need validation.

Sun/Aries
Asc./Sag

posted May 22, 2016 09:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
It may be because of my dad's strong conservatism and huge disgust for gays. Furthermore, he constantly plays jokes as being a disgusting gay person, which has somehow rooted it into my brain.

Astrologically though I'm giving this to my Mars-Saturn opposition. If I'm more manly, I feel more comfortable.

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Dads, they don't know how much their joking and teasing can affect their children.

I hope that someday you can express whatever energies you feel in terms of your sex, sexuality, gender expression, etc with more authenticity, acceptance, and tolerance. Eff everything else, just be cool with yourself because what you don't hate in yourself, you won't hate in others.

posted May 22, 2016 09:43 PM            

I don't think it's self hate thing at all. To a young woman the endless abuses of women might make it seem like the world hates her

Being born a woman abandoned by my father, torn between two cultures, I've definitely struggled with my place in the world and what I need to do to be comfortable in my skin. I've experimented and crushed my own heart many times. I've also accepted the challenge to love and fight, to see the advantages others have over me as an opportunity to excel and succeed. But as me, as my weak or strong (depending on the situation), frightened or unphased self.

posted May 22, 2016 09:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Queen Salome:
It probably have roots in human biology, so I doubt it will ever change.

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Roots in human biology? What and where are you getting these ideas?

posted May 22, 2016 09:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Queen Salome:
Electro DGX
Unfortunaly, many act that way because it works. Men will pay so much for female p**** and zero for female heart. Then they will complain how all women are nothing but goldiggers. It probably have roots in human biology, so I doubt it will ever change.

cchampliss2
I'm 24 years old.

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This is where you must have faith that one day, you will find the man that thinks differently and sees you as who you are, not as a tool or some idiot they saw on TV. It will come with time...

posted May 22, 2016 10:02 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I think the issue here is that you cannot bear being born as the person you are, seeing other people who are supposed to be like you screwing everything up. These ludicrous mistakes that they make probably makes you feel as if people in general will view you in the same way, which you dislike greatly and wish to get away from, hence why you're uncomfortable as a female.

I can relate...in a way. I am personally homosexual, but the way other homosexual people act completely disgusts me. The female personality they wear, the problems made over ridiculous issues, stereotypes; it makes me disgusted that I have to be surrounded by these people. In fact, I often wish that I never was this way because I hate being generalized in such a way, since I highly identify with masculine energy and my personal expression of feminine energy can upset me.

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posted May 22, 2016 10:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I can relate...in a way. I am personally homosexual, but the way other homosexual people act completely disgusts me. The female personality they wear, the problems made over ridiculous issues, stereotypes; it makes me disgusted that I have to be surrounded by these people. In fact, I often wish that I never was this way because I hate being generalized in such a way, since I highly identify with masculine energy and my personal expression of feminine energy can upset me.

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In my experience, most gay guys don't like the ones you're describing, with many describing themselves as "straight acting" and prefer "Masc4masc."

Of course, those not particularly involved in the gay community tend to only be aware of the most obvious, which tends to be those who defy gender norms, though straight men can be considered "effeminate" quite easily, even "sissies" or like to dress up as women, just as some straight women can be independent short-haired tomboys who eschew fashion & makeup, but naturally they can easily be mistaken for being gay & lesbian by those who confuse sexual orientation with gender behaviors.

posted May 22, 2016 10:47 PM            

Granted, I don't see how anyone who studies history can honestly believe that the "meek will inherit the earth." (Unless in the gallows humor way.)

posted May 22, 2016 11:29 PM            

Granted, I did find myself having to flee at times when I lived in a terrible neighborhood, but any lone man with any sense would've ran just as I did. As I learned in various self-defense groups I trained with, our brain (and staying alert) is our best defense. (Note, there's a difference between martial arts focused on sports/competitions and those for self-defense, and furthermore some places are more into selling you products, including belts, which means advancements is based on money--time includes money--than by actual skill, so shop carefully if you go that route. Also, I don't think there's one "best" style of martial arts for every single person, it depends on the mind and body of the individual.)

Even before I received formal training, I managed to defend myself, once against 3 guys (though they hadn't expected me to fight back, and the crowd rushing forward to watch the fight was surely a contributing factor on why they ran). I could not have possibly beaten any one of them at arm wrestling, but fighting is more than physical strength (and frankly, I find plenty of men to be pain wimps). And once I actually got some formal training by experienced people, my ability to defend myself became so much more. Though in the case of fighting off the 3 guys, I wasn't treated with respect as a guy would've been, but rather those guys were treated with contempt, which was subtly reinforcing the wrong idea that femininity is weakness to me, and why I subconsciously accepted it.

Luckily, I was raised in a family where women were assertive, sometimes even aggressive, and that combined with my choice of media that did not promote traditional gender norms of our society gave me an edge as I got older, and once I learned that being feminine didn't mean being submissive or weak, I was even better off. So I don't hate being female, nor do I live in fear (though I am aware of the dangers out there, perhaps ironically more so than many other women who do live in fear), but I recognize so many negative messages for females as they grow up (for males, too)...but it's getting better, IMO.

posted May 22, 2016 11:29 PM            

Up until I believe the Edo period, women in Japan could be fierce warriors, even samurai (though in this case they usually defended the homes from attackers while their samurai husband attacked others, who might also face female defenders) which makes sense given that their fighting styles emphasize grace and dexterity over raw strength (it only takes a few pounds/kg of pressure to slit an artery, or even stab the heart if done right, and knowledge of pressure points can allow a weaker opponent to take out a much stronger one, as both smaller men and women have done enough times). In the Edo period, the roles of women changed and their historical role as leaders and warriors was also downplayed. (ETA: more )

There were also female pirates (some openly so who led the men), and you can find plenty of detailed examples of female warriors and commanders in Women Warlords which are but a few (and while focused more on leaders, it does include many women who changed the course of battle by joining in, the females bolstering the demoralized males), and it skipped others (example ). Also (very short):
http://youtu.be/uNpQ742m50g?t=49s

You'd probably enjoy this as well (she's not the only woman listed in the badass files, btw):
http://www.badassoftheweek.com/index.cgi?id=454977124513

And that goes into other things. All sorts of ways exist to equalize or even take advantages away from men, and perhaps why women have, at times, been characterized in the more brutal societies as poisoners of those who threatened them and their ambitions or otherwise caused them grief. (Poisoning can also be subtle and an indirect cause of death.)

posted May 23, 2016 05:47 AM            

Yes its harder to be a female. But most people acknowledge that fact that's why Mothers Day always outsells fathers day.
I can tell you of many Dads that aren't even sure if they will even get a phone call, but for mothers day a phone call is the expected minimum.

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Originally posted by Queen Salome:
..... I'm especially annoyed by the fact that majority of the women I can see in media are brainless creatures showing off their fake a** or t***.....

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Sound as if your in an environment filled with immature females and even females that never grew up.

When I lived in Toronto, I can tell you of many driven females specifically in the corporate world.

Ever since I moved to Ottawa I just see 20-26yrs olds that will never grow up because:

a)They are from the country and raised backwards(Traditional view of women,
Ottawa is not very urban believe it or not).

b)Never seen women in high positions outside of government/public service jobs.

c) Never grew up with the influence of dedicated/responsible people.

d)Combo of all thee above.

Anyway, your not them and it shouldn't bother you.

As long as people know your not like them that's all that matters and more importantly you know your not them.

If you go to a club, mall or any public place you can instantly recognized what class and what type of person someone is.

So I say, let those people you describes above f*ck up there lives, your not them and you have a lot better things going for you.

Stick to your plan of success/game plan. Slow and steady wins the race.

Your efforts will bare fruit later down the road.

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Gemini Sun,
Capricorn Rising
Aries Moon
Gemini Mercury
Venus Taurus
Mars Cancer

posted May 23, 2016 07:17 AM            

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posted May 24, 2016 08:30 AM            

No one is safe,a man can get killed because he gets more attention from women ,drives a better car or just looked another man in a way the pschyho didnt like it. You shouldnt dislike yourself because of it, but if you can protect yourself by not going somwheare alone or dressing tasteless - what happened in Cologne is on governments and countries soul for big part,because they dont care of their peoples safety, that happens when you let in enmass people that come from different cultures and mentalities in addition with only social life they have being disturbingly full of various outcasts from all sorts of lifes - people that without guilt left their families behind and spent their last dime on crossing illegaly state boundries - they lose little morality or social conceousnes they had.

posted May 24, 2016 08:49 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I thought I'd also point out that historically, women have also been valuable warriors, though this was usually in the nomadic cultures (in which case plenty of settled folk couldn't easily tell the difference between the men and women--I recall reading somewhere that the so-called "Amazons" were actually a once widely ranging nomad group that included men and women, but adorned in ways that no one could tell the gender before they were shot down with arrows).

Up until I believe the Edo period, women in Japan could be fierce warriors, even samurai (though in this case they usually defended the homes from attackers while their samurai husband attacked others, who might also face female defenders) which makes sense given that their fighting styles emphasize grace and dexterity over raw strength (it only takes a few pounds/kg of pressure to slit an artery, or even stab the heart if done right, and knowledge of pressure points can allow a weaker opponent to take out a much stronger one, as both smaller men and women have done enough times). In the Edo period, the roles of women changed and their historical role as leaders and warriors was also downplayed. (ETA: more )

There were also female pirates (some openly so who led the men), and you can find plenty of detailed examples of female warriors and commanders in Women Warlords which are but a few (and while focused more on leaders, it does include many women who changed the course of battle by joining in, the females bolstering the demoralized males), and it skipped others (example ). Also (very short):
http://youtu.be/uNpQ742m50g?t=49s

You'd probably enjoy this as well (she's not the only woman listed in the badass files, btw):
http://www.badassoftheweek.com/index.cgi?id=454977124513

And that goes into other things. All sorts of ways exist to equalize or even take advantages away from men, and perhaps why women have, at times, been characterized in the more brutal societies as poisoners of those who threatened them and their ambitions or otherwise caused them grief. (Poisoning can also be subtle and an indirect cause of death.)

ETA: The point being, women don't have to live in fear, and we don't have to be victims. And it's not that women can't take part in society, that women must be protected like children, or that the only thing we have to contribute is being pretty baby machines for the menfolk. And, most of all, it's not that society can't change the software or that women will always suffer (at least no more than anyone else).

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Schyntian women warriors are tought to be inspiration behind the story of Amazons http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2014/10/141029-amazons-scythians-hunger-games-herodotus-ice-princess-tattoo-cannabis/

Vikings and Slavs also had female warriors

Spartan women were equal to men

Female war godesses are present in almost all ancient cultures.