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Topic: How do water dominant people deal with depression/intense emotions?
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@lycat74
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posted August 03, 2016 08:05 PM
  
How do water dominant people deal with depression/intense emotions?
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yungang_grotto
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posted August 03, 2016 10:03 PM
Immersing themselves in comforting and consuming activities... through self expression and art is ideal. Any form of that will be soothing. Art therapy, highly recommended.IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
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posted August 03, 2016 10:07 PM
But there are unhealthy ways of dealing with it I guess, ways which don't relieve suffering, so comfort can turn to escapism, and self-expression can turn to whining and drama, etc., or trying to control the situation.. depends on the sign emphasis and a million other things... I personally think all these things are ok really, because they reflect that person's state where they're at at the time, but I'm a bit radical in terms of the behaviour I deem healthy and acceptable because of the breadth and scope I try to use when perceiving and having compassion for other people's actions... especially when they are in pain..IP: Logged |
Radium
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posted August 03, 2016 10:14 PM
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Electro DGX
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posted August 03, 2016 10:21 PM
I don't deal with my emotions. I let them flow without restraint, because dealing with them only causes more pain and makes things harder when they are already difficult. Yet, strangely enough, it's as if I don't want to deal with them, yet don't want to be feeling upset, yet would rather feel upset than try to put on a happy face because it is less frustrating to deal with. I'm not water dominant, but my water influence is just as strong as my air influence (counting house influences), so I am quite watery myself. With Pluto though, when it hits, that's it. It's the only thing that flows through me at that time, and it's all I can feel. ------------------
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TensionEmpire
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posted August 03, 2016 10:31 PM
we cry, we always end up crying, and this is reliefing :PIP: Logged |
Electro DGX
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posted August 03, 2016 10:35 PM
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Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
we cry, we always end up crying, and this is reliefing :P
It's when one releases all the built up tension through tears that the emotional world is cleansed and they feel at peace for the time being. But then it all comes back and the process repeats, which can turn out to be painful anyways. ------------------
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Yanmorg
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posted August 03, 2016 11:43 PM
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Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
we cry, we always end up crying, and this is reliefing :P
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TensionEmpire
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posted August 03, 2016 11:57 PM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
It's when one releases all the built up tension through tears that the emotional world is cleansed and they feel at peace for the time being. But then it all comes back and the process repeats, which can turn out to be painful anyways.
yeah, after crying there can be peace.
but sometimes while crying is very painfull..
but crying is realy what helps, once i cried before the actual situations that made me sad happened, so I took that situation more easelly, because I had alredy cried before hahaha IP: Logged |
Gemini30
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posted August 04, 2016 01:02 AM
Lots and lots of uninhibited sex. IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
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posted August 04, 2016 03:04 AM
Lol you folks know where it's at.IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted August 04, 2016 07:00 AM
I talk it out. Or atleast try to put some words in how i feel.If depression is the issue,i try to take long walks or go to places where people are i.e malls, restaurants and parks. Sometimes depression is as a result of practising a focus of "lack". And if you continue to observe "what is". You get more of it. Distracting the mind deliberately is of great value. And raising the emotions is no easy feat if you sit alone in contemplation. Do something frivolous and relaxing. Nature works for me Moon-3rd house
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meyray
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posted August 04, 2016 07:10 AM
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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Lots and lots of uninhibited sex.
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meyray
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posted August 04, 2016 07:19 AM
Personally I isolate and focus my attention on some kind of imaginary escapism - through Internet, movies, music etc.Talking to people and letting it out is a great relief but it is a tremendous double-edged sword. Finding the right person to talk to is a difficult task because [as a water dominant] you're looking for an empathetic outlet and most people are not good at that at all - at worst they judge you or laugh off your problem as nonsense, at best they give you cold unsympathetic advice that, even if it's true and they mean best, leaves you feeling misunderstood and your pain unsoothed. I hate impulsiveness though and I never engage in self-destructive or quick fix behavior. (but this is Saturn talking) IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted August 04, 2016 08:26 AM
As a Cancer sun op. Cap Moon (in air and fire houses) with both square Pluto I can safely say I don't like emotions AT ALL!! I like calm waters because when I feel it just never ends!
Took me a good few decades to control them in a constructive way.
I exercise, spend time in nature and watch a lot of movies to "escape". Showers seem to help 
As a comparison I'll take my husband's daughter with a Pisces NN 8H and Cancer ASC, Venus, Moon. Her emotions are out of whack and really hard for me personally to deal with. She's quite a mess and I hope things will be better for her, with a little help.
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Ami Anne
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posted August 04, 2016 08:32 AM
I try to realize that God has it covered. Every time I do a chart, I see God. He made the charts. He made the people. He has the whole world in His Hands.------------------
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posted August 04, 2016 01:22 PM
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Originally posted by @lycat74:
How do water dominant people deal with depression/intense emotions?
I dont know lol.... But actually, reading books about psychology has helped me a bit. And being with friends or loved ones, always. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted August 04, 2016 01:24 PM
Walk it off. Yelling doesn't help (I never used to be much of a yeller, but in recent years, I have been). Showers, gardening at times, getting out of the house, crying in the shower, sleeping as long as I need to, distracting myself with TV/movies, but I have to be feeling somewhat better at that point, otherwise I won't be able to focus.I keep forgetting flower essences. SAM-e. Vitamin B12. I used to play computer games, or spend the day in bed with tea and doughnuts. When it was a minor depressive thing, and I would be able to get past it in a day or two. IP: Logged |
PixieMG
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posted August 04, 2016 05:26 PM
It's hard. My Moon is in Capri (8th) so I tend to repress everything, I don't like feeling vulnerable so I try to hide as much as I can, even from my dearest ones. I also tend to focus on work more than I should (Saturn in the 6).
That's the most unhealthy thing to do, plus people think I'm cold and egoist for not caring (when in reality I'm dying inside). I started therapy a month ago and is really helping me to be more open about my feelings. I also have the Sun opposing the Moon so I always feel full of contradictions... quote:
Originally posted by meyray:
[B]Personally I isolate and focus my attention on some kind of imaginary escapism - through Internet, movies, music etc.
I do this a lot too. quote:
Originally posted by charlie:
As a Cancer sun op. Cap Moon (in air and fire houses) with both square Pluto I can safely say I don't like emotions AT ALL!! I like calm waters because when I feel it just never ends!
I also have SUN/MOON square Pluto (in Scorpio), and totally gets you! ------------------
Gemini Rising.
Cancer Sun.
Capricorn Moon.
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Valentine
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posted August 04, 2016 06:51 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I try to realize that God has it covered. Every time I do a chart, I see God. He made the charts. He made the people. He has the whole world in His Hands.
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@lycat74
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posted August 04, 2016 07:40 PM
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Originally posted by meyray:
Personally I isolate and focus my attention on some kind of imaginary escapism - through Internet, movies, music etc.Talking to people and letting it out is a great relief but it is a tremendous double-edged sword. Finding the right person to talk to is a difficult task because [as a water dominant] you're looking for an empathetic outlet and most people are not good at that at all - at worst they judge you or laugh off your problem as nonsense, at best they give you cold unsympathetic advice that, even if it's true and they mean best, leaves you feeling misunderstood and your pain unsoothed. I hate impulsiveness though and I never engage in self-destructive or quick fix behavior. (but this is Saturn talking)
@meyray: You are killing me softly with your words ...lol. I agree on finding someone to talk to. It is hard. People like us need people we can trust, be vulnerable with, and who can actually listen. Do you think there a way around talking it out? Like different, nonhuman way to talking it out. IP: Logged |
Gemini30
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posted August 04, 2016 09:48 PM
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Originally posted by meyray:
Personally I isolate and focus my attention on some kind of imaginary escapism - through Internet, movies, music etc.Talking to people and letting it out is a great relief but it is a tremendous double-edged sword. Finding the right person to talk to is a difficult task because [as a water dominant] you're looking for an empathetic outlet and most people are not good at that at all - at worst they judge you or laugh off your problem as nonsense, at best they give you cold unsympathetic advice that, even if it's true and they mean best, leaves you feeling misunderstood and your pain unsoothed. I hate impulsiveness though and I never engage in self-destructive or quick fix behavior. (but this is Saturn talking)
What is considered SYMPATHETIC advice to you? I mean my girl is water dominant as she is Scorpio and Cancer dominant. I always try to give her the best advice i can for her, despite me being Air dominant. She claims i get "bored" of hearing her problems, which is absolutely NOT TRUE. I love that she relies on me that way but lately she's been distant. Then again, my Scorpio Saturn conjuncts her Moon/Mercury conjunction  If only i was born 12 hours later i would've been a Scorpio moon. I hate my Libra moon sometimes.
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Selenite
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posted August 04, 2016 10:54 PM
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Originally posted by meyray:
Personally I isolate and focus my attention on some kind of imaginary escapism - through Internet, movies, music etc.Talking to people and letting it out is a great relief but it is a tremendous double-edged sword. Finding the right person to talk to is a difficult task because [as a water dominant] you're looking for an empathetic outlet and most people are not good at that at all - at worst they judge you or laugh off your problem as nonsense, at best they give you cold unsympathetic advice that, even if it's true and they mean best, leaves you feeling misunderstood and your pain unsoothed.
This is totally what I had a problem with, with my friend. I consider that to be 'dwelling,' which is fine, but in that case, it would be better to say that you don't actually want any advice, so i can know in advance not to try to help and be deemed unsympathetic because i don't want to be an enabler. :/
I felt like, nothing i said was good enough, and i had to actually take on her pain for her to be satisfied. well, i refuse! wish she would have let me help her help herself. IP: Logged |
@lycat74
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posted August 05, 2016 01:13 AM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I don't deal with my emotions. I let them flow without restraint, because dealing with them only causes more pain and makes things harder when they are already difficult. Yet, strangely enough, it's as if I don't want to deal with them, yet don't want to be feeling upset, yet would rather feel upset than try to put on a happy face because it is less frustrating to deal with. I'm not water dominant, but my water influence is just as strong as my air influence (counting house influences), so I am quite watery myself. With Pluto though, when it hits, that's it. It's the only thing that flows through me at that time, and it's all I can feel.
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Brendan34
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posted August 05, 2016 01:28 AM
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Originally posted by meyray:
Personally I isolate and focus my attention on some kind of imaginary escapism - through Internet, movies, music etc.Talking to people and letting it out is a great relief but it is a tremendous double-edged sword. Finding the right person to talk to is a difficult task because [as a water dominant] you're looking for an empathetic outlet and most people are not good at that at all - at worst they judge you or laugh off your problem as nonsense, at best they give you cold unsympathetic advice that, even if it's true and they mean best, leaves you feeling misunderstood and your pain unsoothed. I hate impulsiveness though and I never engage in self-destructive or quick fix behavior. (but this is Saturn talking)
As a water dominant person, I entirely identify with this and feel the exact same way. IP: Logged |
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