posted September 11, 2016 12:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Why are most of you saying dump him?

Sorry Joy, you slept with someone else before he did. If anything, he should dump you but he's a WEAK Scorpio..or an undeveloped Scorpio.

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posted September 11, 2016 12:41 AM            

QUOTE]Originally posted by Gemini30:
Just forget about him. He's a weak Scorpio or an undeveloped Scorpio to put it better.

He should've never been with a light hearted person like you in the first place. He'll learn and as well as you. [/QUOTE]

posted September 11, 2016 09:21 AM            

Do I regret my actions? Absolutely. Do we all make mistakes? Definitely. Does it mean I didn't have feelings for him? No way. I didn't know where he was coming from. I can't stand rejection and he cancelled dates on me not once or twice but 4x. I verbalized to him that I can't handle being cancelled on and take it personal. I told him if he cancelled again we shouldn't see each other because he clearly wasn't into me and yet he cancelled again. Also, he got jealous anytime a guy commented on my fb and called me an attention ***** for posting a profile pic. I was like "um it's a picture of my face. Everyone has that." Lol. I get jealous too depending on the relationship so I understood and found some of it flattering but being called a name over it is just disturbing.

I shouldn't have to defend my actions. Im just letting you know where I'm coming from. I may be a Leo but I have an extremely guarded and sensitive heart as well.

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Originally posted by panzi:
"I'm confused on what to do because I still have feelings for him and we all make mistakes."

Excuse me but if you ever had feelings for him than you wouldn't have slept with your ex in the first place.Feelings mean you wait some time,not just say:"eh...if he doesn't wanna date me tonight,let's just hump my ex since he's available".Someone who has feelings cannot and doesn't want to see anyone else,let alone have sex with another one.To have feelings for one means you close all doors for others.
Everyone hates Scorpios because they are too intense.Well yes,if you don't like it,just leave.
I am a Scorpio Sun,Moon,Mercury and i understand your bf behavior.He felt the need to revenge on you only because he was really hurt.There is no point to get back with him as he will never truly forget or forgive the cheating.
Leos and Scorpios are very much alike in many ways but a Scorpio is intense and stalker-ish and everything else you mentioned. He told you that he loved you and pulled back to test you.He most likely expected you to insist some more and WAIT/give him some time.
Even if there are similarities in your characters,you are lighthearted and will never be able to understand the core of a Scorpio so it's best to leave him...The chances for him to revenge on you the second time are huge because scorpios just don't forgive betrayal.EVER.
I'm sorry for the Scorpio rant but i get inflamed when the claim of feelings is involved.

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posted September 11, 2016 05:59 PM            

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Originally posted by joyful1:

He stalked you for three years? Omg I would've had a nervous breakdown. Lol! And I know I should run. That was my initial response. I hate these darn things called feelings. Lol

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I didn't have the breakdown. I was the one who caused him to have a nervous breakdown. I'm a lighthearted Gemini, but if someone pushes me too far, then I destroy them. I've even broken Scorpios before.

As for this man and Scorpios in general: go for an evolved Scorpio. They are amazing! They can be the sweetest and most loyal people you ever meet. However, the immature types are dangerous and will only bring you heartache.

Look at it this way: you've only been on a few dates or so with this guy (i.e. not enough to even think this was an exclusive relationship) and he's already pulling these stunts and testing you. It will only get worse from here. This man is in his 30s and is still playing these silly mind games. This is the behavior I expect from people in their teens and early 20s. While a person in their 30s is still young, they should have acquired some degree of maturity.

By 25-26, even a Scorpio should be mature enough to communicate effectively instead of relying on these silly tests and mind games. I once dated a Scorpio who tried to test me and I called him out on it much to his surprise. I promptly dumped him. I refuse to be anyone's little test subject. Please respect yourself. You deserve so much more than the treatment you are receiving from this "man."

A mature Scorpio would have communicated his reasons for being distant or dumped you altogether. What he did is what young teens do. I hate to think what he is teaching his child about relationships.

posted September 11, 2016 07:40 PM            

Serious face on--

As someone who is heavily plutonic/scorpionic (although I am airy too) and been with a few scorpio men, I have to say that it's a huge turn off for me when I find out that someone I dated - exclusive or not - moves on and beds other people so quick and easily. My respect for them will drop to probably about negative 10. It's like they have no sense of self respect for at least allowing some time to pass (sort out feelings and all that, if they claim they have feelings for me) before getting involved with another person - superficially or what have you. I know this sounds like I'm being judgmental, and I know it's normal because we all have needs and sexual urges, but if you want to see it in the eyes of people who are a bit more "intense" and sensitive with their feelings then I'm dishing it to you as it is.

If I were the both of you, I would have cut off contact. As him, I would have cut off contact with you the moment I found out you slept with your ex. If I were you, I would have cut off contact that moment he told me he slept with his ex but "let's continue anyways" - as if nothing happened. Nope. That doesn't fly.

However, I'm not either of you and nobody here who replied on this board is. People's convictions are their own. If this scorpio man is really willing to work at fixing this up then he will show it. However, if you don't give a clear cut/defining answer with him then he will probably strike back yet again. Scorpios are sensitive and retaliation is eminent if they are hurt and their sense of emotional security is threatened.

posted September 11, 2016 07:46 PM            

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Originally posted by panzi:
"I'm confused on what to do because I still have feelings for him and we all make mistakes."

Excuse me but if you ever had feelings for him than you wouldn't have slept with your ex in the first place.Feelings mean you wait some time,not just say:"eh...if he doesn't wanna date me tonight,let's just hump my ex since he's available".Someone who has feelings cannot and doesn't want to see anyone else,let alone have sex with another one.To have feelings for one means you close all doors for others.
Everyone hates Scorpios because they are too intense.Well yes,if you don't like it,just leave.
I am a Scorpio Sun,Moon,Mercury and i understand your bf behavior.He felt the need to revenge on you only because he was really hurt.There is no point to get back with him as he will never truly forget or forgive the cheating.
Leos and Scorpios are very much alike in many ways but a Scorpio is intense and stalker-ish and everything else you mentioned. He told you that he loved you and pulled back to test you.He most likely expected you to insist some more and WAIT/give him some time.
Even if there are similarities in your characters,you are lighthearted and will never be able to understand the core of a Scorpio so it's best to leave him...The chances for him to revenge on you the second time are huge because scorpios just don't forgive betrayal.EVER.
I'm sorry for the Scorpio rant but i get inflamed when the claim of feelings is involved.

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I agree with the first paragraph. If you have truly strong feelings for someone you wouldn't go and sleep with someone else. I think what is especially hurtful here is that not only did you sleep with just any other man, it was with an ex, someone who you had a meaningful history with. You dipped into the ex basket and delved back into familiar Territory. If there was a guy I liked and I heard he hooked up with his ex, even if we weren't officially together I'd start asking questions and wondering if he still has residual of unresolved feelings for his ex, and even if he were with me, would he still be thinking about her?

posted September 11, 2016 08:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Astra:
I didn't have the breakdown. [b]I was the one who caused him to have a nervous breakdown. I'm a lighthearted Gemini, but if someone pushes me too far, then I destroy them. I've even broken Scorpios before.

As for this man and Scorpios in general: go for an evolved Scorpio. They are amazing! They can be the sweetest and most loyal people you ever meet. However, the immature types are dangerous and will only bring you heartache.

Look at it this way: you've only been on a few dates or so with this guy (i.e. not enough to even think this was an exclusive relationship) and he's already pulling these stunts and testing you. It will only get worse from here. This man is in his 30s and is still playing these silly mind games. This is the behavior I expect from people in their teens and early 20s. While a person in their 30s is still young, they should have acquired some degree of maturity.

By 25-26, even a Scorpio should be mature enough to communicate effectively instead of relying on these silly tests and mind games. I once dated a Scorpio who tried to test me and I called him out on it much to his surprise. I promptly dumped him. I refuse to be anyone's little test subject. Please respect yourself. You deserve so much more than the treatment you are receiving from this "man."

A mature Scorpio would have communicated his reasons for being distant or dumped you altogether. What he did is what young teens do. I hate to think what he is teaching his child about relationships.

If you want drama, then stay with this man, but I strongly suggest you leave him alone with his drama and find yourself a mature man who knows how to be direct with you about his wishes and expectations. [/B]

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posted September 11, 2016 09:49 PM            

He does sound like a child, however. Sleeping with the ex just to get back at you, THEN he comes crawling back ?

This is not a sign of a Scorpio MAN but a Scorpio BOY

Edit: But I cant lay it all on him, because you went to sleep with the ex first ... That's telling him you can't be 100% trusted to be loyal if something goes wrong.

posted September 12, 2016 05:42 AM            

You live by the sword, you die by the sword

In the sense that it's understandable that you moved on when it wasn't working out, especially if not familiar with Scorpio mentality, but then you have to really move on in a sense - at least, mentally trust in yourself. I'm a Scorpio ascendant and react very much like this guy once I start feeling but I'm aware how odd the behaviour is too and make allowance for reactions to it.

posted September 12, 2016 08:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
By 25-26?? Mmm i believe every Scorpio should be evolved after their Saturn Return. So by early 30's is when Scorpios should be evolved. However this guy i think is nearing his 40's so i doubt he changes now, but you never know with Scorpios.

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posted September 12, 2016 11:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Astra:
Yes, by 25-26, the human brain is fully developed. Most people are done with college and have started their careers. I I do expect people (not just Scorpios) to not act like 14-year-olds by this age. They are well into adulthood at this point and should know how to communicate in a relationship.

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posted September 14, 2016 11:35 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Well many people still act like 14 year olds at that age and change as they get older. People can still change.

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If someone is acting like a 14 year old when they are well into their 20s, then something is seriously wrong. While I wouldn't expect a 25 year old to be as worldly or mature as a 50-year-old, they should have basic communication skills., and they should have the sense to leave the game-playing to high school and traditionally-aged college students. If you think it's normal or typical for a 25year old to act like a young teen, then you must also believe that 25 year olds are too young to be making their own decisions and need adult supervision.

While it's usually true that the Saturn Return is the time where people reassess their life and grow up a bit (hopefully), I fully disagree with the notion that you are just a foolish child until you reach 28-30. There is a happy medium. 25 year olds are running companies, getting married, having kids and planning their futures. So, yes, I would assume that someone who is 25+ is capable of communicating their feelings or thoughts. If they can't do this simple task, then they are not ready to date or have sex.

Of course people can change, but it's pretty unlikely that this Scorpio man (who is in his 30s and has a child) will grow up. Also, it's not a good idea to date someone and assume they will change or try to change them. Many marriages end for this reason. People will show you who they are through their actions. Your choice is to accept them as they are or move on.

posted September 14, 2016 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Plus Joy, are you a 100% sure he cheated on you? Unevolved Scorpios are some of the best liars.

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haha true. Why should they do something to hurt themselves?

posted October 13, 2016 10:36 PM            

Your post seemed to be spot on. 👌🏻 Wow. Can you please explain what you meant by "sun square sun and what ascendants being square means exactly? I don't really understand all that yet. I think I get the cancer moons thing. I am a very sensitive person in relationships.
This "dating" him has been a rocky road and I just broke it off with him for probably the 3rd time since I've written this post due to some behavioral clashes. However we seem to have a love/hate thing going so I'm trying to be strong and not give in again when he comes back asking. Thanks for all your insight

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Originally posted by iQ:
This is not going to work out. There is a strong chance that the only reason he wants to get back with you is so that he can break up in a more vengeful manner.

Sun square Sun is strong, Ascendants are square by Sign and with both having Cancer Moons it will be too difficult to forgive and forget.

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