posted September 19, 2016 03:16 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
The concept of fitting in to me is a very cancerian idea - banding together with others for fears of losing security and protection.

I dont think most people are fully comfortable with who they are and that's why they have troubles standing alone on their own feet.

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posted September 19, 2016 04:22 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
Very interesting observation, it definitely resonates with my experiences. Also explains why Cancerian and Aqua types tend to repel each other more often than not.

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Hmm, I'm not so sure. I actually have 3 personal planets in Cancer (Sun, Venus, and Mercury) plus my IC and I had a very difficult time fitting in and still do. I was always the outcast and wallflower in almost every social circle and never had many friends in school. Then again, my Aries Ascendant squares my Sun and Venus tightly, and I have Pisces Moon in the 12th with Aqua Saturn in the 11th squaring my Scorpio Pluto in the 8th, so I think those contribute to my alienation.

I also generally get along well with Aquarians and had two friends in grade school who were too. I always related to the Uranian description of marching to the beat of one's own drum and being untraditional, yet Uranus is not dominant in my chart. I never related to the whole Cancer motherly stereotype at all. I am a homebody though, at least that's for sure, but I don't have this desire to fit in with everyone. Quite the opposite actually, and I like it that way too.

One of my sister's best friends is also a Cancer and an extreme individualist, and honestly, we are both pretty similar in ways. Both of us never want to get married, don't want/care to have children, and are both artsy fartsy with eclectic interests.

posted September 19, 2016 05:04 PM            

Cancer suns usually dont fit in either. But there is an awareness of that need.