posted October 19, 2016 05:29 PM            

I have Mars in Aries, which I've never been able to wrap my head around since it's far from my preference. Thus, inspired by a thread in the Interpersonal Astrology section (http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/006067.html) I discovered that Jupiter describes my preferred man MUCH more accurately.

So, what do you say: Do you fall for your Jupiter or your Mars?

I went with the description from Cafe Astrology and applied it to my Jupiter in Cancer instead and it fits perfectly!

https://cafeastrology.com/articles/idealmanforawoman.html

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If a woman’s Mars is in Aries, she is often attracted to a strong, independent, and forthright man, perhaps athletic in appearance, but more importantly, direct, confident, and straightforward. Ultra sensitive or shy men are not usually the most attractive men to these women, as they tend to prefer strong and independent types. Men who don’t beat around the bush, who state what they want, and who display a certain level of confidence are ideal.

If a woman’s Mars is in Taurus, she is often attracted to men who possess a stable, secure, and very strong aura about them. Meat-and-potatoes types are definitely these women’s “cup of tea”. Unstable, overly intellectual, or “flaky” men are simply not what these women would define “real men”. These women like their men simple to please, traditionally masculine, and strong. They often are especially turned on by men who work with their hands (as opposed to “suits”), men who can build things, and sexually simple but sensual men.

If a woman’s Mars is in Gemini, intelligence ranks very high on her list of ideal qualities in a man. An athletic or tomboyish look, sometimes on the slim side, is often preferred. Wittiness is a huge turn-on for these women. Versatility, liveliness, and playfulness are qualities in men that these women find devastatingly attractive. They’re not especially impressed with what they might consider “less evolved” types of men who display more typical, or traditional, masculine traits. Depressed or boring types won’t do. These women want to be stimulated, and their brains are their biggest sexual organs.

If a woman’s Mars is in Cancer, she may prefer the “sensitive type” of man who is compassionate, sensitive, and protective. These women sometimes are attracted to temperamental sorts, finding moodiness in a man rather intriguing. They want men with “layers” (remember Shrek?). However, they are not into the type of “sensitive” men that Mars in Pisces women are most attracted to. In fact, they generally want men who are strong and traditionally masculine. Generally, these women prefer men who are physically strong or at least look that way–remember that they love to feel protected.

If a woman’s Mars is in Leo, she may be attracted to men who are proud, outgoing, and perhaps even gaudy. Aloofness or a dignified, confident aura is usually appealing to these women. These women are more inclined to enjoy men who possess a rather bold, confident manner–and style! Playfulness and fun are very important to these women, and the uptight type or overly serious man is not going to do it for them. Stinginess is a huge turn-off, too. These women want their men generous, dignified, and confident. These women do want their men to be a little possessive and jealous, as it makes them feel more alive, wanted, and attractive.

If a woman’s Mars is in Virgo, an appealing man to her is usually an understated, rather simple appearance without too much glamour or ostentatiousness. Healthy, natural, and clean are most appealing physical qualities, and a certain amount of intelligence as well as a modest, sensible approach to life. These women are turned off by men who are overly confident, bossy, or unkind. They are looking for perceptive men who are kind and helpful. Competency is important, but these women aren’t big on men who are show-offs. A quietly competent aura is best.

If a woman’s Mars is in Libra, she is most attracted to men with understated charm, good manners, and a pleasing and balanced appearance. Coarseness or rudeness is often a turn-off, and so is independence! These women prefer men who are cooperative and who are willing to please. Romantic men are a huge turn-on, and these women truly appreciate classy sorts.

If a woman’s Mars is in Scorpio, a complicated, dark, powerful, and passionate man is the biggest turn-on. This woman wants a man with “layers”–one who has depth and is complicated enough to intrigue her. She is especially attracted to men who ooze sensuality, who are perhaps a little dark and mysterious (even brooding), and who have a magnetic and powerful aura. Intensity is a turn-on for these women–flighty, superficial, and indifferent types need not apply! These women generally do enjoy a certain level of possessiveness in a man

If a woman’s Mars is in Sagittarius, she is most impressed with a man who is playful, fun, intelligent, and honest. An energetic, happy aura in a man is often most appealing. Joking around is a must, and a huge turn-on for these women! They want to have a good time, and to have long conversations with their men as well. They are not especially attracted to men who are overly groomed, generally don’t like too much “decoration” or men who put on airs. A tousled, casual appearance is just fine with these women–in fact, it’s preferred. A man’s status is not of huge interest to these women–they are looking for honest guys whose egos aren’t tied up in what they do for a living or how they look.

If a woman’s Mars is in Capricorn, she is generally attracted to competent men, perhaps well-established business types or otherwise accomplished men. She doesn’t necessarily go for status, but she does want a man who has an aura of competence about him. She is looking for a certain level of security, and is unimpressed with men who are drifters, irresponsible, or flighty. A stable, directed man with goals in life and a responsible, even serious, attitude to life is important to this woman.

If a woman’s Mars is in Aquarius, she can be most impressed by men who are somewhat unconventional or kooky in their choice of clothes and overall style. She wants an interesting man. He can certainly be handsome, but boring? Hardly. A man with a brain is important, although she won’t be attracted to a brainy type. Somebody who is perceptive, a little unconventional, and perhaps somewhat aloof is most attractive. Rigid or boring types simply won’t do.

If a woman’s Mars is in Pisces, she is often impressed with a man who is sensitive, compassionate, and intriguingly complicated. Lacking in confidence is just fine, and so is a touch of helplessness. A “starving artist” type may be appealing, or a man who is downtrodden in some way, as these women enjoy men who have a distinct soft side. The strong, independent types are not turn-ons for these women.

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posted October 19, 2016 06:32 PM            

Romantically, Cancerian types and I don't speak similar love languages. However, I do have a tendency to date Capricorns (that's where H10 comes into play).

I don't usually date Virgos (H6), but I definitely date Neptunian types. One boyfriend has a Pisces ASC, another a Pisces Moon, current one has Neptune conj ASC. I'm not inclined to date "artists", drug addicts, or flighty types, but I do love it when my partner is an empath, intuitive, sensitive, and familiar with the dream world.

posted October 19, 2016 09:34 PM            

I have mars in the 4th house, and he has taurus NN in the 4th house (falls into my 4th house ). We like beautiful, comfortable home environment.

posted October 19, 2016 10:11 PM            

So, I felt with axis Taurus - Scorpio.

posted October 19, 2016 11:12 PM            

However, I believe there might be a misinterpretation of the statement, "Men are attracted to their Moon/Venus, Women are attracted to Sun/Mars"

While it is true that Moon/Venus is the feminine expression of the male psyche, conjunctions to these planets isn't exactly what he's looking for in relationships. In romantic synastry a male is looking for conjunctions, trines, oppositions from Moon/Venus in a woman's chart to his Sun/Asc/Mars. Specifically, a woman is most attractive when her moon is CONJUNCT his Sun or Asc. Along with this he's also attracted to her Venus in conjunction, trine, or opposition to his Sun. Preferably the trine.

The same is true for women with regards to Sun/Mars aspects. As "masculine" planets they denote her masculine expression, however, a woman isn't looking for sign exact expressions of her placements. First she wants his Sun/Asc to CONJUNCT her Moon. He gets bonus baby-making points if his Mars conjuncts her Sun or Ascendant. Or, his Sun to her Mars, though this one is quite acrimonious.

posted October 20, 2016 02:22 AM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
Both... Mars in Aries, Jupiter in Gemini.

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Hey me too!

posted October 20, 2016 03:30 AM            

My Venus is in Libra (yours too?)

Venus is really important no matter what gender you were assigned at birth...

And Venus Libra REALLY wants people to be nice to one another!!

posted October 20, 2016 04:16 AM            

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Originally posted by thingsgoneby:
Mars is supposed to symbolize what a woman finds attractive in a man. But according to Vedic astrology Jupiter represent the husband in a woman's chart.

I have Mars in Aries, which I've never been able to wrap my head around since it's far from my preference. Thus, inspired by a thread in the Interpersonal Astrology section (http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/006067.html) I discovered that Jupiter describes my preferred man MUCH more accurately.

So, what do you say: Do you fall for your Jupiter or your Mars?

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I am not a woman.But I also read the same thing and theoretically,it made sense.

Jupiter is about expansion and growth. Jupiter is the teacher and imparts wisdom/growth etc.

So when one gets married(a 7th house activity),they expand (Jupiter) by having children and having their roles change from "girlfriend" to wife/mother or from boyfriend to husband/father etc.

Also,one would think that the woman would want a husband that is going to bring them joy,abundance, teaching and imparting wisdom to children(Jupiter again and to a certain extent Chiron too).

Mars I don't see as the "settling down" type.Not by a long short.Mars in Vedic is the soldier and fights,is aggressive, antagonistic and easily agitated.

Would one rather have a teacher(Jupiter) or a soldier(Mars) around their kids?

But in my opinion there is this psychological imprint in many women that there is somehow a lurking danger out there somewhere and if they are "weak" or "unprepared for it,it will come and wreak irreparable harm etc.

To a large extent, media,religion and society feed this perception with cheesy soapies ,church,crime statistics of rape and talking of women and children as "vulnerable groups" etc. And this can certainly dis-empower women into believing that they are just not "able" by themselves

Mars is the "muscle power",strength, brutishness and all that.Even going as far as to be extended to a males fertility( of which I think is erroneous as Venus rules that and muscle power has little to do with ones ability to have children)

This feeds to the skewed idea that gay men (more especially effeminate men)are "infertile" or that their "stuff" is handicapped in some way i.e "He can't be gay.He has two kids" etc.

This is because they contradict the typical externally accepted characteristics of Mars/ how a "real man is supposed to be .

I think the appeal of Mars is the classic "provider" who will go out and hunt to bring back the food/kill etc.

But we also have to admit that Mars does not an easy living partner make- impulsive, reckless and often argumentative(even violent).

Look at the 7th house in the chart of a woman and when Jupiter is there,the mate a woman has is often gregarious, positive ,moral, optimistic etc. (unless badly aspected then the not-so admirable traits of Jupiter can manifest).

Put Mars in the 7th house( and even if "well aspected") and you will find a mate that argues,can be antagonistic,makes decisions independently from them,very stubborn to get their own way etc. Not exactly "Prince charming".

posted October 20, 2016 06:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Look at the 7th house in the chart of a woman and when Jupiter is there,the mate a woman has is often gregarious, positive ,moral, optimistic etc. (unless badly aspected then the not-so admirable traits of Jupiter can manifest).

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Oh dear, I'm screwed .

posted October 20, 2016 07:52 AM            

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Originally posted by bonsai:
Oh dear, I'm screwed .

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posted October 20, 2016 08:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I am not a woman.But I also read the same thing and theoretically,it made sense.

Jupiter is about expansion and growth. Jupiter is the teacher and imparts wisdom/growth etc.

So when one gets married(a 10th house activity),they expand (Jupiter) by having children and having their roles change from "girlfriend" to wife/mother or from boyfriend to husband/father etc.

Also,one would think that the woman would want a husband that is going to bring them joy,abundance, teaching and imparting wisdom to children(Jupiter again and to a certain extent Chiron too).

Mars I don't see as the "settling down" type.Not by a long short.Mars in Vedic is the soldier and fights,is aggressive, antagonistic and easily agitated.

Would one rather have a teacher(Jupiter) or a soldier(Mars) around their kids?

But in my opinion there is this psychological imprint in many women that there is somehow a lurking danger out there somewhere and if they are "weak" or "unprepared for it,it will come and wreak irreparable harm etc.

To a large extent, media,religion and society feed this perception with cheesy soapies ,church,crime statistics of rape and talking of women and children as "vulnerable groups" etc. And this can certainly dis-empower women into believing that they are just not "able" by themselves

Mars is the "muscle power",strength, brutishness and all that.Even going as far as to be extended to a males fertility( of which I think is erroneous as Venus rules that and muscle power has little to do with ones ability to have children)

This feeds to the skewed idea that gay men (more especially effeminate men)are "infertile" or that their "stuff" is handicapped in some way i.e "He can't be gay.He has two kids" etc.

This is because they contradict the typical externally accepted characteristics of Mars/ how a "real man is supposed to be .

I think the appeal of Mars is the classic "provider" who will go out and hunt to bring back the food/kill etc.

But we also have to admit that Mars does not an easy living partner make- impulsive, reckless and often argumentative(even violent).

Look at the 7th house in the chart of a woman and when Jupiter is there,the mate a woman has is often gregarious, positive ,moral, optimistic etc. (unless badly aspected then the not-so admirable traits of Jupiter can manifest).

Put Mars in the 7th house( and even if "well aspected") and you will find a mate that argues,can be antagonistic,makes decisions independently from them,very stubborn to get their own way etc. Not exactly "Prince charming".

I get it.

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You're usually very insightful, but much of this was way off the mark.

posted October 20, 2016 08:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Why?

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posted October 20, 2016 09:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
You're usually very insightful, but much of this was way off the mark.

Mars is a provider? Venus is fertility? Marriage is 10th House?

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Don't take it literally Nine.I was basing this on the ideas of Chaldean astrology. And I would love to be contradicted with examples.

The 3rd house there is ruled by Mars and it governs skills, working with hands and a persons bravery(as it is in Vedic)

When we think "hunter". We often have the picture of a guy(usually) with bulging muscles,a spear and agility to escape danger or foresee it.

Men's health did a survey once of what women find to be the most attractive part of a man's body.And it could have been borne to serve their own agenda,but I found the results interesting.

They tie up with what most women I talk to find appealing in a man's physique- the chest and arms.Why? Because they say "provider" and "protector".

With Venus being fertility in a man's chart(that is Vedic I think but you can research this). This is how a man passes over his genes to his offspring.

posted October 20, 2016 09:15 AM            

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she may prefer the “sensitive type” of man who is compassionate, sensitive, and protective. These women sometimes are attracted to temperamental sorts, finding moodiness in a man rather intriguing. They want men with “layers” (remember Shrek?). However, they are not into the type of “sensitive” men that Mars in Pisces women are most attracted to. In fact, they generally want men who are strong and traditionally masculine. Generally, these women prefer men who are physically strong or at least look that way–remember that they love to feel protected.

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I love to feel protected so yeah I like the physically strong part but most women want that!! lol MOST WOMEN WANTS TO BE PROTECTED!!
-Moodiness is not intriguing for me
-I dont like when they are sensitive.My gemini moon doesnt know how to deal with that!! Perhaps they could teach me something about letting the emotions go hehe

posted October 20, 2016 09:16 AM            

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she may prefer the “sensitive type” of man who is compassionate, sensitive, and protective. These women sometimes are attracted to temperamental sorts, finding moodiness in a man rather intriguing. They want men with “layers” (remember Shrek?). However, they are not into the type of “sensitive” men that Mars in Pisces women are most attracted to. In fact, they generally want men who are strong and traditionally masculine. Generally, these women prefer men who are physically strong or at least look that way–remember that they love to feel protected.

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I love to feel protected so yeah I like the physically strong part but most women want that!! lol MOST WOMEN WANTS TO BE PROTECTED!!
-Moodiness is not intriguing for me
-I dont like when they are sensitive.My moon doesnt know how to deal with that!! Perhaps they could teach me something about letting the emotions go hehe