posted November 16, 2016 02:19 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I meant, what I'm taking in when it comes to what others are dumping out. People being dismissive of what I'm feeling, and what others are feeling.

This is exactly what I meant: trying to explain something that some people refuse to see or acknowledge. I'm not "dumping" anything into the world, I'm trying to avoid being dumped on.

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Both are important not dumping energy into something you can't change and not letting others dump their negative energy unto you. The latter is more challenging.

Last week all I was doing was absorbing the negative energy of others around me (all that hate and anger) and it was very hard on my body, I have never experienced anything like it.

posted November 16, 2016 02:22 PM            

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Originally posted by violet7887:
^^ this is very true. when moon is transmitting your natal moon people are generally more emotional.

very sorry to hear about your loss teasel. I cant imagine what you must be going through but something i like to remember when anything is ending is everything is one. Your mother is still around somewhere, and most importantly as a part of you.

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posted November 16, 2016 07:14 PM            

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Originally posted by soren:
no problem. also it's possible to turn any screen recorded video using quick time into a gif.

not sure if it was peaceful today

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posted November 16, 2016 07:50 PM            

I was so emotional. Very low mood, with my fears and insecurities rising to the surface. I found it odd that with such supportive aspects it would be so rough?

posted November 16, 2016 11:45 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Unless I was mistaken in what I read from you. I appreciate you trying to be kind, even if it doesn't always feel that way.

I lost my mother. My depression won't ever completely go away.

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I'm so sorry to hear that teasel losing a mother is something that no one else can actually understand unless they went through the same.
Stay strong and remember her the way she would love to be remembered.

Grief can become depression. My father lost his dad 8 years ago. They were super close and he is still grieving the loss. At times, it got so bad that we had to take him to the hospital because he wouldn't eat. I can tell that my father is not the same as he used to be. But we were and still are here for him and he's getting better.

posted November 17, 2016 12:27 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Yes grief can turn into depression but in MOST cases grief doesnt turn into depression and telling yourself that you will ways be depressed and that this is the only outcome to losing a loved one will not help you at all get better nor will wallowing in self pity and feeling sorry for yourself, all those things keep you stuck in depression.

My husband loss his father at the age of 12 and he did not fall into depression neither did my parents when they loss their parents or my friend who loss her mother to cancer when she was a teen. Like I said yes you will think of them and miss them, I think of my grandpa weekly and miss him but I am glad to be alive and grateful daily for all that I have and celebrate his memory by keeping him alive in my heart yet I am content in the midst of life's up and downs and struggles.

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True, I agree with you. But I think it differs from one person to another ? Some would recognize grief for what it is and move on. Some, not so much.

I think it also depends on how close you are to that person you lost. The closer you are to them, the harder it will hit you. I think that's one of the reason why my father's grief turned into depression and got the better of him. His dad was the world to him. My dad lost his mother young, he never knew her so my grandpa was to him both, a mother and father. They were also friends and not just child-parent. Grandpa was his emotional rock so to speak.

When I ask him about it, he tells me that losing grandpa was like losing a limb to him.
Now he is better, he's more social and engaged in life.

But yes, we eventually need to accept that death is a part of life but for some, that process might take longer than others.

posted November 17, 2016 12:13 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
When you lose someone that is called grief not depression and most people when they lose someone they grief but do not go on to develop depression and live a happy life. Death is part of life and the cycle of life and we all lose our parents some sooner than we hope which can be hard but its cycle of life and it helps to see that way as something natural.

Everyone's grieving process varies and some people take longer to grief than others. Telling yourself that you will always be depressed because your mother died is not healthy. Yeah you will celebrate her memory and miss her and at times really long to see her but that does not mean you cannot be happy.

For how long have you been grieving the loss of your mom?

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Yes I had mentioned earlier that everyone's grieving process varies (see above) but is important to be clear that most cases dont transition to depression and that you can live a happy life even if someone you were very close to dies if you approach the process in a healthy way and engage in healthy coping skills. Telling yourself you will always be depressed tells me that you are married to your misery and in some level comfortable there and that you are more interested in staying there in a subconscious level than been happy perhaps bc you feel you don't deserve to be happy.