posted December 22, 2016 09:07 AM            

Please talk about it! What did you learn? How did you first try it out? What were the rules? Would you do it again? Was it healthy? Was it truly what you wanted?

posted December 22, 2016 12:55 PM            

My sisters are both Scorpio Venus and they don't deal well with the idea of sharing and in fact my older sister left her first fiancé because he wasn't sure if he wanted to fully commit to her and her alone. her current fiancé is a Taurus Venus and they are getting married next year.

My younger sister however, is an Aries Moon/Pisces sun and she has a habit of dating one more than one guy at once. I told her that's called cheating, she told me that's called keeping your options open lol You wouldn't naturally expect that from her placements but she has a very strong Stellium in her First House so most often than not, it's all about her and what she wants when it comes to relationships.

posted December 22, 2016 02:29 PM            

Nope. 100% committed to me or get out. Even people who are on the fence about me kind of kills the attractiveness about them. I'm sorry but not sorry to say that people who are not devoted and dedicated just does not turn me on. I tried this with an old ex of mine and I just couldn't do it. That relationship ended cuz of other reasons but none of us were able to go outside of each other.

posted December 22, 2016 11:50 PM              

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I am a scorpio venus, and I think it would be hard for me to deal with it, but it depends on the person I am together with... I would love to be free myself, but in order to truly relax with my partner, I would have to trust him a great deal, and that he would love me above all. So if he could secure me about that, and really make me feel loved, I think it would be easier to have an open relationship... cause deep down I know that no humans are truly monogamous, and there will always be jealousy... but if you truly love someone you would also love to just see them be free (at least I would love if someone also wanted me to be free)

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posted December 23, 2016 01:10 AM            

But I'd like to see if I can enjoy nonmonogamy because I'm definitely able to handle my own side dalliances in addition to living-breathing-passionately intensely loving my committed partner. Soooo.

posted December 23, 2016 05:55 AM            

I had another experience with a girl..
Now I want to dare the devil, drink the rum, get them all and show them this love I have , and why would be a women out there that don`t deserve it?

haha, this is another dream of mine

posted December 23, 2016 07:49 PM            

I respect healthy nonmonogamy SO MUCH. I'm obsessed with reading about it. I hope to one day be able to achieve it and flirt with the idea often.

posted December 23, 2016 08:13 PM            

She's monogamous now, but not into anything like marriage. She really values her freedom, but she can be so jealous and possessive.

In case it needs to be said, those who practice open relationships aren't the cheaters. A person can be possessive and jealous as hell, and preach about the importance of monogamy, and still be the biggest cheater (I wonder if they're just as jealous and possessive of ALL their partners, or if one is primary and the rest are disposable, or how it works for the said person).

posted December 23, 2016 09:06 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I know one woman with a Scorpio Mars and Venus (but Sag sun) that did open relationships before. My impression is that she had endured such a controlling husband that afterward she wasn't going to put herself into the power of another man, so she kept them at a distance, but she was going to have some fun. But when those she chose for this started sharing with others, and she was getting harassed, she put a stop to it, partially because it was starting to frighten her, but also because she felt she was, once again, being put into a box and that wasn't where she wanted to be.

She's monogamous now, but not into anything like marriage. She really values her freedom, but she can be so jealous and possessive.

In case it needs to be said, those who practice open relationships aren't the cheaters. A person can be possessive and jealous as hell, and preach about the importance of monogamy, and still be the biggest cheater (I wonder if they're just as jealous and possessive of ALL their partners, or if one is primary and the rest are disposable, or how it works for the said person).

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posted December 24, 2016 12:23 AM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I am a scorpio venus, and I think it would be hard for me to deal with it, but it depends on the person I am together with... I would love to be free myself, but in order to truly relax with my partner, I would have to trust him a great deal, and that he would love me above all. So if he could secure me about that, and really make me feel loved, I think it would be easier to have an open relationship... cause deep down I know that no humans are truly monogamous, and there will always be jealousy... but if you truly love someone you would also love to just see them be free (at least I would love if someone also wanted me to be free)

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posted December 24, 2016 12:50 AM            

Leaving out my personal values, do you really think I have time to put effort into more than one relationship? I'm one of the pickiest people alive. When I find love, I become so focused on the other person that no one else could possibly become a priority.

posted December 24, 2016 02:53 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I know one woman with a Scorpio Mars and Venus (but Sag sun) that did open relationships before. My impression is that she had endured such a controlling husband that afterward she wasn't going to put herself into the power of another man, so she kept them at a distance, but she was going to have some fun. But when those she chose for this started sharing with others, and she was getting harassed, she put a stop to it, partially because it was starting to frighten her, but also because she felt she was, once again, being put into a box and that wasn't where she wanted to be.

She's monogamous now, but not into anything like marriage. She really values her freedom, but she can be so jealous and possessive.

In case it needs to be said, those who practice open relationships aren't the cheaters. A person can be possessive and jealous as hell, and preach about the importance of monogamy, and still be the biggest cheater (I wonder if they're just as jealous and possessive of ALL their partners, or if one is primary and the rest are disposable, or how it works for the said person).

ETA: the biggest cheaters tend to assume their partners are just as unfaithful which makes them jealous and possessive. When someone, male or female, gets this jealous and possessive, I automatically question their own faithfulness.

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posted December 26, 2016 02:53 AM            

I'm looking to hear from Scorp / Taurus venuses who have tried open relationships!

DUH the ones who can't bare the thought of nonmonogamy! Your opinions are not interesting here, so don't get upset about it! You feel the way you feel, and I'm asking about people who defy this expectation because THAT is interesting.

posted December 26, 2016 03:21 AM            

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Originally posted by rorrr:
Ugh guys, please stop bringing personal opinions about jealousy or cheating into this thread. You're derailing my thread! :-)

I'm looking to hear from Scorp / Taurus venuses who have tried open relationships!

DUH the ones who can't bare the thought of nonmonogamy! Your opinions are not interesting here, so don't get upset about it! You feel the way you feel, and I'm asking about people who defy this expectation because THAT is interesting.

Happy holidays & cheers!

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I was involved with a man who was married to a woman who's Venus is in Taurus (actually her Venus conjunct my sun very closely) It was a joint decision. She has Mars in Scorpio too and I think the sex aspect of having an open relationship she really enjoyed. But when her husband first met me he wanted to be with me in a relationship right away and she didn't understand why he couldn't just be casual with me. So yes she struggled a lot with sharing and jealousy in the beginning. Me and him broke up for about a yr and then got back together June of 2015. Me and her talked about what went wrong last time and things became better between us and we even tried to become a "triad". Funny thing is she started to become possessive over me and tried to dictate how I conducted my relationships outside of them. To be completely honest though I feel them opening up their marriage (September 2013) was just to delay the inevitable because as of October of this yr their divorce has been finalized.