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Topic: Do actions really speak louder than words?
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charlie
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posted January 24, 2017 12:54 PM
  
This one is for those of you that CANNOT stand, nor tolerate, any type of manipulative or abusive language no matter the good "action". I am one of those. It doesn't matter if you bake me cakes. Buy me flowers. Clean my toilet or carried my out to the car when I broke my foot. If you cannot control your language other than to put me down and then withdraw your words, when confronted, saying they were "just a joke", I will never respect you. I am:
Cancer Sun (sq Pluto), Venus, Mercury( sq Pluto)
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bonsai
Knowflake Posts: 434
From: another place, another time
Registered: May 2012
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posted January 24, 2017 01:17 PM
It's a good question. I'm of the general belief that actions do speak louder than words, but I guess in some situations sometimes what you want to hear is some specific words. For instance, last year I got into a massive fight with a friend (who I'm still seething over) because he was being insensitive about a situation that deeply affected me and my community and he was acting like he knew more than I did about my situation and basically implied that I was irrational and emotional (as well as fellow affected residents). We exchanged some pretty nasty words with one another and I had to stop baiting him because he wouldn't stop talking to me and attacking me. Anyway, a week later I GUESS he tried to make amends by trying to help me regarding my situation with some actions, but I felt this was not what I really wanted. I didn't need his "help" with the situation. I just needed a listening ear. So in this case, I felt it was more appropriate to hear a simple "I'm sorry". We didn't talk to each other for a few months after that during which time some other bad things happened, which ended up on the news. Now I know for a fact that he follows the news fervently and would have found out what happened, and not once did he contact me to go "Omg I heard about this, and I want to know if you and your community are OK?". I felt this sort of sealed the deal for me. He tried speaking to me a few times in the past few weeks but I have kept my distance and do not wish to maintain contact with him. So in this case, yeah, I felt words were more meaningful than actions (and actually when thinking about it, his actions indicated someone who didn't care all that much about what I went through). I'm Leo Sun square Pluto
Moon square Venus and Jupiter, Opposite Neptune and Trine Pluto
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Elise3090
Knowflake Posts: 38
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Registered: Dec 2016
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posted January 24, 2017 08:33 PM
Is because actions can be controlled by external factors when words not,they are direct from our minds to external world.
Words are more sincere.I have moon in virgo (ruler is mercury,that is conjunct chiron) square mars, so agressive words can hurt me. I think that a debilitated mercury can make a person more sensitive,mercury/chiron, mercury/moon aspects too. Mercury/pluto is so sensible to real intentions of a word.
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Solar_Leo_Queen
Knowflake Posts: 2537
From: Planet Earth
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted January 24, 2017 09:39 PM
This is the opposite of me. I am a pretty straightforward person. A person can whisper all the beautiful words in my ear and I will not believe A THING they said unless I see literal proof in front of me. A person can tell me they hate me and how kuch they don't want me in their life anymore, and still won't believe it. I don't feel it until I see it. This is how I keep things real in my life. Of course, words will always leave their mark, but actions leave bigger ones. I have the Mercury-Pluto and Venus-Pluto square too. My Mercury and Venus are in Virgo, though, so I'm not the type to beat around the bush or sugarcoat things. IP: Logged |
Claudine
Knowflake Posts: 43
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Registered: Mar 2016
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posted January 25, 2017 04:12 AM
I prefer both 
I will ignore smooth speech if there won't be any actions and it was just blah blah blah. But I can't stand disrespectful words and manners directed to me either.
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colorful butterfly
Knowflake Posts: 776
From: Durham north carolina usa
Registered: May 2015
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posted January 26, 2017 02:04 PM
I prefer both but actions speak louder than words. I am a Cancer as well but my moon conjuncts pluto in the 1st in Libra. I am very sensitive to other peoples words but I do know I can have moments in anger where I can fly off at the handle so to speak. Usually I try to take the high road but it has not been beyond me to take the lower one if someone is being rude or disrespectful to me. I never would do such if I don't feel disrespected. Anyone who is constantly putting you down after asking them to stop is more than likely a very toxic person. We all have behaviors we want to be forgiven so if it is a first time or a blue moon encounter I can forgive as I want to be forgiven for my mistakes. Anyone who continues on end doesn't really care for you, as they do not care about your feelings, in my opinion.IP: Logged | |
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