posted April 12, 2017 07:20 PM            

My father is like this and he has moon in Virgo trine Sun and conjunct Saturn plus biquintile mercury.

It seems that a well aspected earth moon can do this. In his case since his moon is well aspected and in an earth sign the conjunction to saturn seems to just add stability to his emotional side.

He is a loving warm guy! indeed but I wouldn't say he loves with the intensity that I do but I struggle with mood swings. I have moon in pisces in contrast to him and it opposes my SUN instead of trining it and it opposes my mercury instead of the biquintile he has and my moon squares neptune which neptune been so out there and having issues with boundaries is not exactly an aspect that helps with grounding lol. On the contrary Saturn conjunct moon when moon is in an earth sign and well aspected spells out someone grounded with strong healthy emotional boundaries. Further I have scorpio rising with pluto in the 12th conjunct saturn which gives me resilience and great capacity for insight and to understand myself and others which helps but I will always deal with mood swings to some extent.

I feel my father is like a rock and I mean that in a good way like he is so stable IMO and optimistic, warm but with strong healthy emotional boundaries too.

posted April 12, 2017 08:20 PM            

Lots of Earth in chart , dignified positions in earth signs, depositor in an earth sign etc. Can often have one be slow to express emotions. Is this the same thing?

A Pisces with Moon in Sag i know has Venus in Taurus/Mars in Cap/Jup in Taurus/Uranus in Cap/Saturn in Cap and Neptune in Cap.

Saturn in Cap rules Mars,Ura(which rules Mercury), Nept(which rules the Sun).

Venus in Taurus rules Jupiter(which rules the Sun/Moon).

I think that he can be very stoic.And often people will say that he is "emotionally stable".

I think that he just internalizes things....a lot.

posted April 12, 2017 09:03 PM            

There are people that seem stable but are depressed. There are people that are numb which can be a symptom of depression and being numb can make someone appear stoic.

posted April 12, 2017 10:51 PM            

OTOH, Venis is domiciled in Taurus and I can see how that is true.

posted April 13, 2017 12:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
The moon is said to be domiciled in Cancer, yet these are the most emotionally unstable p3ople I know.

OTOH, Venis is domiciled in Taurus and I can see how that is true.

What does emotionally mean? How does this differ from an ability to easily express one' emotions.

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I agree about moon in cancer, Moon in cancer its at home bc it rules the home,the past, roots and is a water sign very in touch with its emotions. I feel moon in cancers can be very moody if moon is not well aspected.

I suppose that is why moon in Taurus is exalted. Taurus is earth and makes it easier to stay grounded emotionally but still be warm and affectionate since is ruled by Venus. Taurus is fixed so it helps with emotional stability but I still feel the moon would need to be well aspected.

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People who recognize stress triggers and build healthy coping skills tend to maintain emotional stability better than those who don't. Irrational thinking, impulsiveness and certain medications contribute to increased levels or emotional instability. Methods used to moderate emotional responses include religious practices, meditation, exercise, proper nutrition and healthy sleeping habits. A lack of emotional stability means someone feels more emotional highs and emotional lows.

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To me someone who is very emotionally stable like my father does not go through emotional highs and lows, he has bad days sure but they don't shake him emotionally or deeply affect him, his highs and lows are not like a roller coaster, they are more like calm soft waves instead of high turbulent waves.

I always saw life like an emotional roller coaster, I experience more emotional highs and lows; I have moon in Pisces afflicted with Scorpio rising. Thanks to saturn conjuncting my pluto I am also very resilient and have learned coping skills over the years to manage my mood swings better. Part of my coping strategy is to just accept that this is how I am built and that mood swings are part of my life and I can do things to manage them. I accept that feeling things intensely and been very compassionate comes with a price and its gifts,the price is mood swings and its a part of me I accept. I experience deep pain but when I laugh I do it with all my being, when I love I love with all my being, if someone is in pain near me my emotional boundaries are not as strong as my dad's who has moon in virgo conjunct saturn, It will easily affect my mood (I have moon in pisces square neptune).

Further my dad is a sun in cap trine saturn and has mercury trine jupiter and it comes naturally to him to be positive and stay positive.

posted April 13, 2017 12:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Aqualilith09:
I'd like to think of myself as pretty emotionally stable. My Sun trines my aqua moon, tribes saturn, and my moon conjunct it. But, I feel more numb than anything and I can get depressed but I can't express it.

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posted April 13, 2017 12:20 AM            

Oh yes. People with heavy Cap placements can be very stoic. And often people will say "She is the strong silent type". I often get the "depressed" vibe from them.

In the case mentioned, the guy has 4 path number. A number that has Saturn affiliations too.

To me , emotional stability is not a detachment from lifes up and downs. But always wanting to go back to the middle

So we dont "lose" our temper. But express it i.e "I really felt defensive when you said.......Because it hurt me to think that......" etc.

We also don't get too hysterical when things go wrong. But try to see if they can be fixed or written off ""Ok. We misunderstood the request given and will do what can be done to fix it" etc.

The thing is with most people who are said to be "strong" or "stable" is that they dont express positive emotions of gladness or happiness. And bottle up frustration to a point of explosive proportions.

Emotional stability is emotional intelligence too i.e knowing that only you are responsible for how you feel. And also keeping a positive frame of mind of "this too shall pass" in seemingly terrible situations.

Not to say that these types are all "emotionally mature". But i do like Taurus energy as its calm and assuring but also can be very physically and emotionally demonstrative.

I like Sag energy too as they dont stay down for long, make a situation humorous and can be very profound in their mental outlook.

Pisces(despite what you said ) has the capacity to transcend austere surroundings and be very positive and spiritual in outlook. Which is a godsend.

These three ime can be the type that don"t suppress sadness, avoid displays of rage and are expressive of positive emotions.

posted April 13, 2017 02:27 AM            

Just to share-I wish i had emotional consistency. It stays that way for a while but there is a day when i am flooded by thoughts,worries and woes that affect my mood.

I have Moon in Cancer and Pluto in Scorpio being the final depositor for many of my planets incl Mc,Dc and Asc.

Its not often thank goodness , as Jupiter in Sag which also is the final depositor for others too-keeps me bouncing back.

posted April 13, 2017 02:49 AM            

The moon is said to be in its domicile in Cancer because these people can be very dynamic ime.

They can create a homey environment and strengthen emotional bonds within their company.

In a group of guys i hung out with in high school, there was this "alpha male" guy who created a strong sense of unity between us all.

But he was very temperemental too. And the guys often found themselves under his mercy when he was "off".

He didn't like me much and pushed me out when i didn't want to dance to his tune. We were mostly hostile with each other actually(only to discover our Moon signs were conjunct exact).

I think he was not aware of his influence nor that he had the power to change his mood swing, as he would just change expressions out of "nowhere".

But even with this being said, he had a loyal group of followers who would put up with it. And admittedly, he did have the ability of creating a great "guy" atmosphere *sounds so homoerotic i know

I think when Cancer "owns" their power, specifically the moon there. They have the ability to create a community anywhere and everywhere they go that has deep bonds therein. Deeper than Aqua or Libra

Taurus moon can be too reserved at times. But Cancer becomes adapt at reading emotional cues. And when mature, can create a very loving and comfortable atmosphere for a lot of people.

posted April 13, 2017 02:52 AM            

my father is a virgo moon and he can act obsessively from time to time..like when someone chews loudly, etc...he also has a scorpio sun

cap moons, hit or miss
most of the ones I know are depressed, sitting next to them drains me (as a pisces moon) of all the positive energy...their more mature kinds are very stable and dependable though

posted April 13, 2017 11:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I hear you. Your Dad sounds like a pretty uncomplicated guy.

Just to share-I wish i had emotional consistency. It stays that way for a while but there is a day when i am flooded by thoughts,worries and woes that affect my mood.

I have Moon in Cancer and Pluto in Scorpio being the final depositor for many of my planets incl Mc,Dc and Asc.

Its not often thank goodness , as Jupiter in Sag which also is the final depositor for others too-keeps me bouncing back.

When it does occur i tend to want to be alone in that time. I bounce back after a short period of time though.
To deal with my moods my way and put myself back in there shows emotional maturity. No? 😎 lol

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I think you have high emotional intelligence and it sounds like overall you are emotionally stable.

Now my brother is stoic, he gets depressed at times and has anxiety but you can tell unless he tells you.

He has Moon in Taurus but his Moon conjuncts Mars and square Jupiter. He also has moon trine sun and mercury, very reserved and yes internalizes everything and you won't know it unless he tells you.

I find moon conjunct mars is a marker for mood swings and so is moon square Jupiter.

I feel more than the moon placement is the moon aspects that are even more telling with this kind of thing.

posted April 13, 2017 11:37 AM            

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Originally posted by rabidtalker:
Taurus girl with cap moon was great for me, cancer male w/pisces moon. She was the epitome of stability.

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I could see that, I knew a kid who had a sun in scorpio with moon in capricorn, very emotionally stable. Now his brother with sun in scorpio and moon in pisces struggled more with mood swings.

posted April 13, 2017 11:50 AM            

These 3 can have an up/down range of emotions. This is especially when Aries/Cancer/Gemini/Virgo are in the mix

My close friend used to say that I am bipolar. And that was mostly because i was responding more from outside in than inside out.

Moody people need to spend more time bonding with themselves. The disconnection they feel is due to wanting their needs to be met outside of themselves.

Even in long term relationships,they must keep that quality time with self ongoing. Because if they don't,they will be the source of tension and anxiety instead of peace and joy.

posted April 13, 2017 01:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Moon/Mars aspects
Moon/Mercury aspects
Moon/Jupiteraspects

These 3 can have an up/down range of emotions. This is especially when Aries/Cancer/Gemini/Virgo are in the mix

My close friend used to say that I am bipolar. And that was mostly because i was responding more from outside in than inside out.

Moody people need to spend more time bonding with themselves. The disconnection they feel is due to wanting their needs to be met outside of themselves.

Even in long term relationships,they must keep that quality time with self ongoing. Because if they don't,they will be the source of tension and anxiety instead of peace and joy.

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So you do get mood swings based on what your friend said but you feel you manage them well.

What aspects does your moon make?

posted April 13, 2017 01:51 PM            

The truth is, people are not aware of your scars. Nor care to be sensitive of them. As they care more about how they feel when interacting with you and u are NOT the object of their unwavering attention.

Once i "got" this , it became clear to me that I was giving others all the power to make me feel better. And rarely was it ever fulfilling.

I have Moon in Cancer square Mars in Libra. My anger comes off in a very indirect fashion and i can go on "silent treatment" spells when really angry.

I have learned to talk though. Talk it out and let the chips fall where they may. And when I feel moody or irritable, i go in my room, listen to music or sleep.

posted April 13, 2017 08:11 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Do you find you are overall a happy person who is very emotionally stable? What sign is your moon in and what aspects does make?

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Yes. Moon 12CAP08 at birth, learning to become more like Moon in Libra personality (I am a volunteer mediator at my local food cooperative). Moon makes flowing aspects, including grand quintile with Mars and Jupiter; trine Sun-Saturn; wide square to Uranus 5LIB32, the only hard aspect.

posted April 13, 2017 09:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
Yes. Moon 12CAP08 at birth, learning to become more like Moon in Libra personality (I am a volunteer mediator at my local food cooperative). Moon makes flowing aspects, including grand quintile with Mars and Jupiter; trine Sun-Saturn; wide square to Uranus 5LIB32, the only hard aspect.

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That sounds very lovely K!

I swear I feel capricorn equals resilience and moon in capricorn means emotional resilience also moon in capricorn makes me think ease with establishing healthy emotional boundaries with others like not getting close too quickly or letting others moods affect you too much. It makes it easier to let things slide too, not dwell on things too much or take it too personally, like naturally thick skin!

posted April 14, 2017 05:06 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I could see that, I knew a kid who had a sun in scorpio with moon in capricorn, very emotionally stable. Now his brother with sun in scorpio and moon in pisces struggled more with mood swings.

The moon in cap kid really seemed happy and well and felt fine, he knew he was there more to support his brother in the sessions.

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Young Scorpios are amazing, I feel like it isn't until later, some by their mid 20s, that they start to be more closed off with their emotions. It's learned either through reactions or through defense. Until then, they are really more malleable and trusting than otherwise and they are more easily hurt then too.

posted April 15, 2017 08:33 PM            

Having planets such as saturn, mercury, venus , mars on either sides of the house that your moon is sitting will act as a stabilizer for the moon.

posted April 16, 2017 02:10 AM            

I do agree that earth moons have a tendency towards emotional stability overall though, having known quite a few earth moons. But I think people sometimes forget that earth placements, even in calming Virgo, can have volcanic moments too. We just might take a little longer to get there than other signs.