posted May 13, 2017 09:37 PM
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Originally posted by EmGem:
Thank you all for contributing. My question though was have you ever pulled them up on their games? And how did they react?
I think you mean "call them on their games" rather than "pull them on their games." That's the only way I can make sense from that question.
As for me, not exactly. I was stalked by a Scorpio sun, Venus, Mars, and Pluto that I got along with at first OL. He came to think I was his soulmate and was determined to convince me. The more I dissuaded (nicely at first, and then more firmly) the more determined he became...eventually I said one more attempt to find me in real life or talking to me like I was the Morticia to his Gomez Addams would get him blocked. He apologized and then sent me a "fun questionnaire" to "get things light again." One question was for my area code, another was for the last 4 digits on my phone number. With that info he could find me using Google maps. I blocked him permanently after that and never had anything to do with him again, though in retrospect I wished I'd filled it out, but the area code and number would be to the police station (preferably the stalker division) in another city.
If you're to take anything from that, then your own getting away could make him desperate to reel you back in. I personally don't see why you'd appreciate that happening, but some women get off on being stalked and smothered like that.
I also knew a Scorpio-heavy Libra sun, but I also believe she was warped from some intense childhood abuse. In any case, it was impossible to stop her mind games (though I think she hated herself for playing them) and I no longer have anything to do with her. So have many others who tried to help her. She had the most amazing ability to combine Libra reason with Scorpio insight (plus paranoia) to justify whatever she did, no matter how insane, and how everyone else deserved it. She did have moments she turned on her hate on herself which was also disturbing to see, and I believe that most of the time she had to see the rest of the world as always wrong, and herself always right, or the alternative would've been to see herself as always wrong who must send herself to Hell via suicide. She needs professional help (from someone very smart, intuitive, patient, and qualified, and help like that is so rare despite the number of therapists out there), not ordinary people with good intentions trying to help her (or worse, masochistic enough to be with her romantically).
The only dysfunctional Scorpio I did call out on her games while keeping a relationship with her is my mother. She would never admit to them as that would mean she'd "lose" the game and she plays to win. She does brag about her mind games she inflicts on others (similar to the ones she'll play on me if she gets the chance). Ultimately, I've had to keep her at a distance and never let down my guard around her, even if part of me still loves her.
However, we bonded once (as adults) over shared pot treats (courtesy of me) and brandy (which she shared), and though we shared a lot of laughs while intoxicated, her humor tended to be laced with strong cruelty & contempt for others. Another time was when I beat her sister up (who she has always hated, and I believe my aunt hates me primarily for being the daughter of my mom), though her praise to me then was kind of like getting praise from the Emperor (which is to say it's when I really questioned if I should've done what I did). Apparently, the way to bond is through shared enemies (especially plotting against them), but that appeals to me as much as being stalked by a rejected Scorpio.
Lindaland
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