posted August 09, 2017 11:25 AM            

Now 2017 he is back in the country living asks me to come live with him after a year few months I'm over the moon happy to see him again, I know he goes back home in 6 months but want to savor time we have. I know there cannot be any real committment with him having go home again so I figured fun, live together, sex, then that's it. Casual at same time. He is last person I had sex with....

The 1st night was great we stayed up till 5 am had drinks I was laying on couch he did slap my butt, then when bedtime we decided go to bed I asked if he wanted me sleep with him he said obviously so in bed he reached up under my camisole to touch my breast it was quick he said you can touch me too...but I didn't just went to sleep. I felt he should kept it going...I don't initiate or pursue in bed The 2nd night I lay down I tell him goodnight he says whatever in a rude way. Then after that night....I decide to start sleeping on the couch from that point on... the 3rd night I do think he said why you sleeping in here, when I was on the couch.. But I am not sure as I said what he didn't repeat it....

posted August 09, 2017 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:
We have a history in 2015 short one where we did have sex....he initiated it was the one to pursue. Back then I was mad and said he only used me for sex, I was always on that kick.....

Now 2017 he is back in the country living asks me to come live with him after a year few months I'm over the moon happy to see him again, I know he goes back home in 6 months but want to savor time we have. I know there cannot be any real committment with him having go home again so I figured fun, live together, sex, then that's it. Casual at same time. He is last person I had sex with....

The 1st night was great we stayed up till 5 am had drinks I was laying on couch he did slap my butt, then when bedtime we decided go to bed I asked if he wanted me sleep with him he said obviously so in bed he reached up under my camisole to touch my breast it was quick he said you can touch me too...but I didn't just went to sleep. I felt he should kept it going...I don't initiate or pursue in bed The 2nd night I lay down I tell him goodnight he says whatever in a rude way. Then after that night....I decide to start sleeping on the couch from that point on... the 3rd night I do think he said why you sleeping in here, when I was on the couch.. But I am not sure as I said what he didn't repeat it....

So I'm confused he took initiative before why didn't he now you know? Not only that....this time around I understand this had to be casual thing....back then I wanted the full long term commitment girlfriend title. This I undertook this to be kinda like....playing house but no string attached

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posted August 09, 2017 06:13 PM            

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...[b]something a Gemini Mars would do. Either way if he is not throwing thinly veiled sexual remarks or pushing the envelope[quote] in your talks I would take that as a sign. The key word is he is communicating (Gemini) his desires or fantasies (Mars) in some way or capacity.

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This is true, in my experience, of BOTH Mars & Venus in Gemini. Mars, of course, is direct. Venus is indirect almost yielding.

Voice: Think I'll have a Cesar Salad for lunch. I hope it satisfies.

posted August 09, 2017 06:24 PM            

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Hmmm I'm not sure if i agree with the Gemini Mars needs someone to initiate lovemaking. Mars represents what a man is, but is not what he desires (although I do think they are one and the same to an extent).

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There was a thread on here called: The Male Organ and Astrology. In that thread researchers sought for correlations between a man's size and his chart. Findings were inconclusive.

Based off that thread I launched my own research, not for size, but for rhythm and overall performance. My findings were that Mars in Gemini were made for the modern take-charge woman who likes being on top.

posted August 09, 2017 09:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
He was testing the waters and you went to sleep. Be bold or forget it. Smack his rear. lol Flirt!!! Be obvious.

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posted August 09, 2017 11:04 PM            

~Linda Goodman's Sun Signs: The Gemini Man

posted August 10, 2017 08:09 AM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl200:
All in all I have no idea how old you are but seriously life is far too short to waste it wondering if a guy wants you or not. I'm sure you're gorgeous so if he doesnt want to partake in the awesomeness that is you and just wants to give you money or whatever, find someone else who will give you what you want. Their are tons of great guys out there. Or if this works for you fine. Cheers!

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GG, that's the best advice I've yet to read on this forum.

posted August 10, 2017 12:02 PM            

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Originally posted by GrandFireT:

GG, that's the best advice I've yet to read on this forum.

Time wasted fretting over distressed relationships
is better spent cleaning one's own closets.

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posted August 10, 2017 04:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
I also think people approach life in different ways. Those of us with enhanced Air might find more value in deciphering the psychology of a relationship and determining how to repair and/or create mental (and physical/emotional/spiritual) bonds. Predominantly Earth people might find more obvious value in mowing their partner's lawn. Predominantly Fire might find more initial value in just moving ahead in a relationship and seeing what happens. Water would find initial value in nurturing and demonstrating their care. But entities of all energies seem to benefit from a more holistic approach to relationships where all approaches are used in a more balanced manner. This balance may be the only way to discover the true potential of any relationship. (Says the Libra Sun/Venus/Uranus.)

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I agree to an extent....BUT I'm coming from this at a perspective of what's actually psychologically healthy in the long run for an individual (not trying to be rude) minus the astrology of it. I have a psychology background and while it is 100% valuable to analyze all situations you find yourself in (like you listed above) to an extent; the only behavior you can change is yours. Analyzing someone else's behavior or lack of is not only a potential self esteem drainer, it keeps an individual focused on things other than the reality of the situation. Or what you can control in a situation.

In the case of this particular woman, he may actually be quite passive due to his Pisces Moon. But let's not discount this is a grown man (I assume not a teenager) who is quite aware of how to go after a woman. I get the approach to analyze things from a balanced perspective (7th house Mooner), but time and time again we as humans (no matter what your sign) tend to display certain behaviors at certain times. Especially in regards to motivation.

At face value his behavior is crystal clear. Obviously we don't know for sure, but this girl being heavily Fire picked up that something is amiss between them and that is not something she should ignore.

posted August 10, 2017 05:00 PM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl200:

I agree to an extent....BUT I'm coming from this at a perspective of what's actually psychologically healthy in the long run for an individual (not trying to be rude) minus the astrology of it. I have a psychology background and while it is 100% valuable to analyze all situations you find yourself in (like you listed above) to an extent; the only behavior you can change is yours. Analyzing someone else's behavior or lack of is not only a potential self esteem drainer, it keeps an individual focused on things other than the reality of the situation. Or what you can control in a situation.

In the case of this particular woman, he may actually be quite passive due to his Pisces Moon. But let's not discount this is a grown man (I assume not a teenager) who is quite aware of how to go after a woman. I get the approach to analyze things from a balanced perspective (7th house Mooner), but time and time again we as humans (no matter what your sign) tend to display certain behaviors at certain times. Especially in regards to motivation.

At face value his behavior is crystal clear. Obviously we don't know for sure, but this girl being heavily Fire picked up that something is amiss between them and that is not something she should ignore.

All I am saying is she should express her thoughts and feelings to him, trust her gut and go from there. And realize that he may not feel the same, and accept it. Either way I'm sure she is really awesome, and no matter what she does not deserve a guy who makes her question his interest or attraction to the point she posts on an astrology forum (which isn't bad as I've done this many times...but usually when you are posting here it's not for positive reasons even though I wish it was...but even I knew this). And indecisive Libra or not when a person wants something or someone they go after it.

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I mostly agree with you. I knew all of this before, but when I was involved in what was ultimately a demoralizing relationship - not even a proper relationship, I can't explain it - that's what started a downward spiral for me, before other things blew up in my personal life (thanks to that Mars in Gemini that I mentioned).

I remember someone saying that they wouldn't have gone out with their husband, if she hadn't been the one to ask him out, though - at least, not as soon as they did.

posted August 10, 2017 05:25 PM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:
your a fire sign I am as well fire sag fire leo...so yeah I understand what you are saying...I just did not understand why it had to be so damn difficult...

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I understand what you were saying, too. I've said similar things myself, in the past - but it was more me realizing that people might not listen to certain advice, because they are so entrenched in something emotionally (I was, myself - I still am, only not in a relationship).

posted August 10, 2017 05:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
There was a thread on here called: The Male Organ and Astrology. In that thread researchers sought for correlations between a man's size and his chart. Findings were inconclusive.

Based off that thread I launched my own research, not for size, but for rhythm and overall performance. My findings were that Mars in Gemini were made for the modern take-charge woman who likes being on top.

Mars in Aries is fast and furious.
Mars in Taurus steady, and likes being in charge.
Mars in Gemini has other talents, and is at his best under her.

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Omg!!! You had me at research lol!!! Ok now I'm super interested...what were your findings overall? Have you done other studies? Have you written about them...maybe even on here would be great. Are you studying anything else?

posted August 10, 2017 06:00 PM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:
I see this forum full of questions...as this so I don't understand girly what your issue is.....if it bothers you what ppl post don't come on here....I like astrology, analyzing it studying it and studying ppl if I want to come here like NUMEROUS others do and ask questions I can.

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Harmonic, my large response was in very small part about you, but keep in mind I did not quote you. It was in response to Mystic and her whole point made.

Let me be very clear this does not bother me what you are doing. Posting about people is great, to an extent. And I've done it a WHOLE WHOLE lot lol and the others posting in this topic can corroborate that. And yes astrology is a tool and can be great. But don't get bogged down in the factors of his sign to figure out his behavior. And I've done that. But trust me it's not healthy. And I've had some awesome posters on here tell me (more like remind me lol) the same (everytime it happens lol).

posted August 10, 2017 06:07 PM            

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Omg!!! You had me at research lol!!! Ok now I'm super interested...what were your findings overall?

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Findings weren't released. Not sure if my research is complete because I've only looked at men, and I believe both genders should be looked to come to anything conclusive.

*Generally Aqua men were consistently good (irregardless of Mars placement) across the board. With too much Air might be sadistic, especially when paired with Libra.

*If you're looking for a Mars placement that will take charge and have its way with you. Mars in Gemini is not that placement.

*Libra energy has a sadistic side. It is an energy that will take out its frustrations on you sexually, while this can be satisfying with others, with Libra placements things can become quite un-tingly and painful...this, of course, when they're upset. As poised as they are you won't know this until you're in the sack.

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Have you done other studies? Have you written about them...maybe even on here would be great. Are you studying anything else?

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Still working on an Astrology of the Lottery experiment.

posted August 10, 2017 06:10 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I understand what you were saying, too. I've said similar things myself, in the past - but it was more me realizing that people might not listen to certain advice, because they are so entrenched in something emotionally (I was, myself - I still am, only not in a relationship).

If this guy is messing with her head, then she will realize it eventually. Or if there's something there, he's going to have to step up and let her know.

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This....you're so right in what you're saying. I have a Cap/Aqua friend who is similar but expresses herself a heck of a lot less passionately than I do lol. And I've been where she is literally on here getting feedback and help from you guys either way it either works out or it doesn't.