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Topic: I'm trying not to hate fixed signs
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Sulkyarcher Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted September 30, 2017 07:15 PM
It's hard.I lived with three fixed signs once. An Aquarius, a Leo, and a Scorpio. I was the only mutable (Sun in Sagittarius). Let's just say I would rather be around a shadow/sulky Cancer and Pisces, no matter how shadowy they are, than live with three, or four, fixed signs. I'm trying to not be prejudiced and/or bigoted against fixed signs, but I have this impulsive reaction to hate them, at least the first time I meet one, or a group of fixed signs. IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 3150 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted September 30, 2017 07:39 PM
What happened?IP: Logged |
StubbornVirgo Knowflake Posts: 2170 From: Welcome to Mercury Registered: Jul 2015
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posted September 30, 2017 07:44 PM
I do fine with them, as long as they don't try to change me or my mind (sometimes they do). I'm more than little bit fixed myself, with Pluto in Scorpio/9th and Aquarius ASC. I do my own thing, they do theirs, and we're all good...IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 3150 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted September 30, 2017 07:50 PM
I don't trust Scorpio, though my experience living with them hasn't been too bad. Both had moon in Libra.Aquarius was mean, even without provocation. Plus, I gave them all the space they wanted...STILL there was drama. I believe they get off on being nasty to people. Leos were generous. They're dominant, but their generosity is what I remember most. IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted September 30, 2017 07:55 PM
quote: Originally posted by Nine: What happened?
I think that the two friends that were a Leo and Aquarius, both had trauma from childhood, and projected their ugly insecurities all onto me! Then the Scorpio just sat their and enabled it, knowing that it was wrong. He wasn't their best friend, or anything, but he just sat their passively, and excused the Leo and Aquarius's bad behavior. They were both emotional bullies. IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted September 30, 2017 07:58 PM
quote: Originally posted by Nine: I don't trust Scorpio, though my experience living with them hasn't been too bad. Both had moon in Libra.Aquarius was mean, even without provocation. Plus, I gave them all the space they wanted...STILL there was drama. I believe they get off on being nasty to people. Leos were generous. They're dominant, but their generosity is what I remember most.
Scorpio does have a reputation. I knew three REALLY nice, and non-manipulative Scorpios though. So I do believe that Scorpios can be great people. IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 485 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted September 30, 2017 08:03 PM
You are hating fixed signs due to your experience with only 3 of them?IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted September 30, 2017 08:12 PM
quote: Originally posted by FatedCinderella: You are hating fixed signs due to your experience with only 3 of them?
No, I have more stories. IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 485 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted September 30, 2017 08:32 PM
I get it.I wasn't judging you,it was just a question.I thought you only had this one experience with fixed signs.IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 485 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted September 30, 2017 08:42 PM
Well I guess is a matter of compatibility,plus values.I can't stand any person that is full of themselves,the arrogants.It happens that SOME (not every of them)leos,aries,libra,libra stellium people are like that so I'm not very much their fan.Usually they are the ones I dislike the most. They wonder how people they think are ugly ,for instance, would dare to even think about dating them.Like WTF? Are they Megan Fox?Marilyn Monroe?Can we take a little of their gold air?A libra stellium girl told me "How he dares to talk to me".In resume some are (for me)obnoxious people. An ex aries partner of my last work and her aries sister,called a boy "satan" on facebook two months ago because he said he would dye his hair blonde.They laughed,claimed he was too ugly already without dying his hair.On his back,at least. Just a little observation: both girls are ******* ugly.I kept staring at that **** thinking: some people have a hell of self-steem but lack a mirror on their houses. IP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 7569 From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode Registered: Sep 2014
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posted September 30, 2017 09:20 PM
I feel you my mom has venus and mars both in aquarius (not conjunct) and they both oppose her pluto in leo and she wants to control everyone, I love her and she has her good things too but my God she is irritating and does not understand "no" or boundaries, not a great listener,super anxious, highly sensitive and excessively religious in an OCD kind of way.She also has mercury square saturn by 1d and jupiter in pisces with moon in gemini. I think you need a combination of things though bc my dad is super easy to live with and he has venus in aquarius opposite pluto but with mars in libra and moon in virgo, he is not pushy or controlling at all. IP: Logged |
DannyCappy Knowflake Posts: 731 From: Registered: Jan 2016
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posted September 30, 2017 09:57 PM
Sulkyarcher I'm sorry you feel like that I love scorpios,they are amazing!I don't know the other two fixed signs though. FC That reminds of something.There's one libra here on LL that attacked me once.I wasn't talking to her,she came in and attacked me lol She tried to show herself using my issue and depression as a scope,just to feel superior.Well some people use what they can to get their miserable 5 seconds on the "spotlight" right?.Honestly by her incredible self-steem and constant self-affirmation I thought she was a Barbie girl but when I saw her picture,oh boy what a disappoitment. I'm only talking about one person.I don't know more libras, I think. Talking about self-confidence.There's some people that only ARE,they exude self-confidence without saying a world about themselves. IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella Knowflake Posts: 485 From: Registered: Mar 2016
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posted September 30, 2017 10:31 PM
That's the **** I'm talking about and no,is not every of them,of course.Thank God! *raising hands to the sky * OH GLORY! Astrology sometimes is the one to blame lol I mean it gives fuel to their illusions with the fake line "every leo shines,every libra is attractive" NO SORRY TO SAY BUT THAT'S A LIE. On the next Kris Kringle I will by them a mirror as a little hint Now I will take my cardinal water ass to sleep IP: Logged |
DualGemV2 Knowflake Posts: 386 From: Toronto, Ontario Registered: Aug 2016
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posted September 30, 2017 10:40 PM
The biggest thing I hate with fixed signs and occasionaly with earth signs is the in-ability to accept changes.Sometimes things don't always go accordingly and you have to make changes or sudden opportunities may arrive and you should take it. For example I ordered a taxi for 4:30am to the train station which never arrived. I was getting worried I will miss my train then I noticed all the uber cabs were arriving but none of the regular ones were. So I asked some random stranger waiting for a uber cab where are you going? If your going to same place as me do you want to split the fare?. Surprisingly they were all going the same place that I was going to and I paid half fare. I would never expect a fixed sign to suddenly find an opportunity and seize it like that, maybe Aries would do something suddenly like that but not Aquarius, Leo or Scorpio. The Scorpio would probably call the Taxi company and give them a piece of there mind. My Planets ========================================= ☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ¡÷ ♉, ¡ö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑ IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted September 30, 2017 10:55 PM
I think it's mostly my fire, but Taureans are usually snotty towards me. Sometimes cold.Sometimes just because I'm friendly and open. IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher Knowflake Posts: 1432 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted September 30, 2017 11:18 PM
An Aquarius family member thought I was weak for having a mental illness. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 4532 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted October 01, 2017 05:24 AM
Personally, I drive em nuts I prefer living aloneDo u have Libra placements? I think this sounds like typical house tension and you don't feel supported.
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charlie Knowflake Posts: 4334 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted October 01, 2017 06:29 AM
Trust me, I know how you feel! My husband has a Taurus Moon, Saturn and his daughter is a Taurus Sun, Venus. Him being an Aries Sun makes things a LITTLE bit easier because he’s spontaneous UNLESS his values are really overstepped but his daughter is a menace :-/ Heels in the ground all.the.freakin.time and even the slightest detour in schedule will cause a tantrum bigger than Everest. She’s also a bully. IP: Logged |
Lalafortunaea Knowflake Posts: 154 From: Registered: Jul 2017
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posted October 01, 2017 07:23 AM
I feel you. I have two fixed signs and EVEN I get frustrated with the fixed ones. It's probably my other mutable/cardinal signs that make them exhausting.
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florence Knowflake Posts: 1485 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted October 01, 2017 09:05 AM
I'm very fixed .. Scorpio asc, Taurus sun & mc/ic on Leo, Aqua. Maybe because I've a mutable moon in sag I feel these as much exerted upon myself as upon others. Id really like to give into my moon but I feel I have to protect it because it gets hurt otherwise. I think the fixed signs are vulnerable to pain .. Think of a stone wall that won't easily be knocked down but when it is it collapses. I adhere to my beliefs resolutely because if I change them, it's a huge overhaul .. Building from the foundations. This is evident in a lot of my political views .. I've a lot of party political bias, even whilst recognising this is not a sign of objectivity, but I believe in it so thoroughly - it's not just policy but the ideology I subscribe to. If I change my views, I change myself in a way that's easier for mutuble and cardinal signs. But yeah, it annoys me too. I admire others who are more flexible. Edited to add .. I'm very amenable to others actually, I do change my views regularly as per my moon .. It's only when something breaches a very deeply held belief, I dig in. Also, my mutuble moon and it's going with the flow and following others gets itself in situations where the fixed signs have to step in as I'm not equipped with the mutability for the fall out. IP: Logged |
florence Knowflake Posts: 1485 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted October 01, 2017 09:06 AM
quote: Originally posted by Lalafortunaea: I feel you. I have two fixed signs and EVEN I get frustrated with the fixed ones. It's probably my other mutable/cardinal signs that make them exhausting.
Yes! It's so exhausting! I'm all fixed except sag moon conj Neptune and I feel like an enclosed stormy body of water .. Like those pools with the wave machines IP: Logged |
squirrel Knowflake Posts: 134 From: Europe Registered: Jul 2009
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posted October 01, 2017 10:01 AM
I‘m also fixed: Sco Asc, Taurus Moon, Venus and MC in Leo, Uranus in Sco. But because I‘m Virgo Sun & Mercury who needs constant moving and happening, I‘m also not very fond of fixed stagnation and inactivity, emotionally, mentally or physically. Fixed signs tend to be both stubborn and arrogant and also controlling and unforgiving. Often too intense and heavy, they won‘t let people have their own way. Scorpios that I know also have this awful tendency to put people down, to make them feel bad about themselves and insecure. They are also both cynical and emotionally sadistic. I‘ve noticed this with Sco Suns and Moons. As a Sco Ascendant I have the ability to spot other‘s weak spots, insecurities and/or their alterior motives or attempts of manipulation, but I never act upon it. Instead, I try to lift them up and to boost their selfesteem. Aquarius is arrogant because of his (perceived) mental superiority. and tend to redicule everyone else for their opinion. They do have this clarity of mind and unusual way of thinking but sometimes they are just odd. I didn‘t have much trouble with Leo and Taurus, apart that they are stubborn. And selfish. But altogether I tend to avoid fixed signs, especially in relationships. Too jealous and like I said, unforgiving and possessive. But they are very reliable and loyal as friends. IP: Logged |
Lerena Knowflake Posts: 811 From: Registered: May 2015
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posted October 01, 2017 11:01 AM
quote: I'm trying to not be prejudiced and/or bigoted against fixed signs, but I have this impulsive reaction to hate them, at least the first time I meet one, or a group of fixed signs.
I love fixed signs, but the absolute worst part about them is how difficult it is to change their mind. I've noticed this problem within myself especially. Whenever I decide on something, it's really hard to make me change my mind and I have a Gemini Moon. The other downside to being fixed is it's quite easy to have inflexible methods that aren't given room for change or improvement and this works the same way with opinions. Fixed signs struggle to see things from the point of view of other people.For mutable signs, I can understand where the frustration comes in. Even I sometimes hate fixed energy. It depends on the person with the chart as I'm sure I've criticized people with dominant fixed placements. While I love fixed signs, they can really be hit or miss, because what happens when someone is fixed-dominant is they become stuck in their ways and lack acceptance of anything new. In my case, it's a bit different only because I get bored after a while of doing the same thing over and over and over. It may take me longer to get to this point due to being mostly fixed energy AND earth dominant, but it does happen, and as I've learned the hard way, change is necessary to keep things interesting. On the other hand, what's your story? Why do you hate fixed signs? IP: Logged |
Lalafortunaea Knowflake Posts: 154 From: Registered: Jul 2017
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posted October 01, 2017 12:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by Sulkyarcher: I think it's mostly my fire, but Taureans are usually snotty towards me. Sometimes cold.Sometimes just because I'm friendly and open.
What signs you got and where? And on behalf of Taureans I'm sorry. But, I can be like this too.
My ac is Taurus. Taurus has Scorp on the DC, so it affects how they see others, which comes on as distrustful, paranoid and questioning motives. I have/made a friend like this. He was bubbly, bouncy, enthusiastic, loud, super friendly. I shut down in front of him and gave him a look like this when I met him: õ_õ... Truth is he scared me and I wondered how he could be so friendly without knowing me, and my paranoia was like "ayyee he be after me lucky charms!!!!" (Taureans are like the treasure guarding dragons of the zodiac and think everyone wants their metaphorical gold) Fastforward some years later and he and I are good friends. He didn't let my silent reserve and aloofness put him off, and I've become more open with him, and I can accept and understand his excessive friendliness lol I don't know about every other Taureans, but upfront super friendliness puts me off, cause for me it's like we've gotta be friends before we're friendly, if that make sense. I can actually become internally quite frightened of certain types of friendliness.
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hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 7569 From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode Registered: Sep 2014
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posted October 01, 2017 12:47 PM
quote: Originally posted by DualGemV2: The biggest thing I hate with fixed signs and occasionaly with earth signs is the in-ability to accept changes.Sometimes things don't always go accordingly and you have to make changes or sudden opportunities may arrive and you should take it. For example I ordered a taxi for 4:30am to the train station which never arrived. I was getting worried I will miss my train then I noticed all the uber cabs were arriving but none of the regular ones were. So I asked some random stranger waiting for a uber cab where are you going? If your going to same place as me do you want to split the fare?. Surprisingly they were all going the same place that I was going to and I paid half fare. I would never expect a fixed sign to suddenly find an opportunity and seize it like that, maybe Aries would do something suddenly like that but not Aquarius, Leo or Scorpio. The Scorpio would probably call the Taxi company and give them a piece of there mind. My Planets ========================================= ☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ¡÷ ♉, ¡ö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑
That is solution focused, creativity and remaining calm so you can let the solution and creativity flow in during times of stress. I would say that is a mix of cardinal since you are taking initiative with mutable bc it requires flexibility and to stay chill. You do have sun in gemini and moon in aries so I am right about my instinct. Now scorpio is strategic and doesn't like drama like that. Scorpio is more likely to just boycott and never use their services again bc they are unreliable and cant be counted on. Scorpio is more reserved and less extroverted, I would expect that reaction from a fire sign. IP: Logged |