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posted May 16, 2018 03:06 PM            

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I am the victim of helicopter parenting. Yes I say victim because I still haven’t moved out of my house yet, at 22, because my Mom wants to do everything for me and make me feel like I’m not experienced enough or knowledgable enough to make my own decisions. It’s kind of an inferior way I have felt subconsciously and at times I’ve grown so accustomed to it that it seemed almost natural to believe that she was better than me. And smarter than me. But really we are two different people. Each smart in our own ways. I’m at the point where I’ve had enough and I’m going to move. Because I can do things on my own.

How involved in your life were your parents? What In your chart do you think suggests it?

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posted May 16, 2018 03:08 PM            

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My 3rd house Cancer, 4th house is Leo and I have Saturn In the 10th. Moon square Saturn in the 7th

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posted May 16, 2018 07:14 PM            

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I've been making my own decisions since 5 years old. My mom has been present in my life to support my decisions even when she didn't agree and I know I can always ask her for her advice, but she doesn't offer it if I don't ask. She is a nice balance of being involved, but not in a controlling manner.

I have moon in capricorn in the first house, saturn and pluto in scorpio in the 10th house and venus in aries in the 4th house.

It's not unusual these days to be living at home at 22. However, it is important that you learn to make your own decisions. Yes, you will mess up, but it's part of the learning process. The key when faced with a major decision is to gather as much information as possible. Talk to your parents, older siblings or older friends or anyone you trust. Gather as much information as possible and then make your own decision.

Part of being an adult is not always having the right answer, but knowing how to use your resources to your advantage in order to make an informed decision. At 22, you are not going to know anything even if you were living on your own already. That's ok. Learn from the mistakes and experiences of others and don't be afraid to make some of our own. You will find that no matter what happens you will land on your feet. Good luck!

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posted May 16, 2018 08:07 PM            

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Thank you Astra. It’s funny because your moon is in the 1st and mine is in the 7th. My mom isn’t a strict parent by far but maybe it’s just me wanting to have my freedom finally.

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