posted June 17, 2018 10:21 PM            

I really feel that I used to be more open into observing others' characters. Lately I'm ego centric. I noticed that everyone to an extent is driven by the ego and that everyone has to come to explain the piece with their piece involved. Not too often are people subjective towards situations without the me element involved. And if they are, its from their observations reacting... And that's from their experiences or a reflection of how they view themselves. Its all very complex and I'm super tired right now so that's my basic inquiries. Who sees who in what way and why?

posted June 17, 2018 10:41 PM            

No one looks the same to all people around them. On top of social conditioning, there's circumstantial in which things like authority (or lack thereof), work conditions, and other such things will make a big difference. The most extreme version I know of is that a guy with long hair was a master of making his hair look short (using a hat) and how long his hair appeared caused people to make very different assumptions about him (and those who thought his hair was short had their minds blown when he revealed the true length of his hair), and that's based on one mere trivial factor. Other things factor in, such as mood: both of the a person being observed, and of the observer.

Generally speaking, if you ask about someone who only knows the person from church, the bar, the job (with likely different perceptions based on whether they're the boss or employee or co-worker of said person), and the like (and then the parents, the kids, and the extended family of the said person) you could get very different descriptions of what the person is like. And many people work hard on the first impression they make because they know it will affect how they're perceived after by those they make a first impression on.