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Topic: Help with a Pisces man, please?
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted March 06, 2019 08:46 PM
  
I think I'm going to take a giant emotional step back right now from this situation. As it was pointed out to me today, having this be a romantic interaction right now would make the work success not carry as much weight or be seen as serious. The two sides of the coin cannot be muddled, and the greater certainty of the work arena success is something I really need right now, on so many levels.If he makes a firm move, and intends on coming closer, I will deal with it then. Until then, I will enjoy the professional mentoring, and keep my heart off the line. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted March 10, 2019 08:20 AM
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted March 10, 2019 01:03 PM
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 27, 2019 10:42 PM
Hey Knowflakes,The only things that have changed in the last two and a half months are that my divorce has reached a mediation agreement, and we are one signature away from it being final. I have been getting tax training from Fish lately, which I enjoy, but I still don't know how things stand. Work itself has been up and down, and they have been extra hard on me, ostensibly because I am so close to getting my CPA license (4 weeks or so). I am just sitting still and getting my life in order, both home and head.
Any input on this, given current transits?
P.S. Ballerina, I keep hearing the "Don't You (Forget About Me)" song often, then I saw the album in a thrift store today, and bought it, :P IP: Logged |
ballerina
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posted May 28, 2019 11:57 AM
Love and Magic!God's Love shines upon you. ... ------------------
All my love, with all my Heart
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Aries23Degrees
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posted May 28, 2019 12:26 PM
I really admire you for your patience.Still in limbo about what is happening between you two?Mutable Mars is tricky.Very "open-ended".Not the most direct of people ime.This barring Mars in Virgo. I met one Mars Sag/Virgo Sun way back when. Not a successful match.Same thing as you; flirting that went nowhere. I think mutable Mars gets distracted easily and is never really consistent about what it is that they actually want. The one i met got very romantic one minute.Then all evasive the next.I immediately iced that one and didn't look back. As a Sag Sun, I am not a fan of Mars there.  IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 28, 2019 12:52 PM
Yes, still in limbo, Aries23Degrees. This Virgo understands your confusion on Mutable Mars all too well. My Mars is in Virgo, so with my Aries Rising, I am all about action, subtle as it may be...I don't know if he takes the possibility of going into something with me seriously, as I know he is a single workaholic...and if I had my best guess, I would say Aqua Rising (I have not pushed for a birthtime yet). IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 28, 2019 11:59 PM
I'm not feeling especially optimistic at the moment, given the work dynamic interfering  I hate the wait and see part of this. Maybe I am going out on a limb thinking he is attracted to me... ::Sighs::IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted May 29, 2019 02:25 AM
Aih Virgo-Aries Artist I know the feeling of liking someone & them responding as passionately as an air conditioner. Here you are fussing about what THEY are like,what THEY want and how you can better know what THEY are thinking? etc. So that you can "adjust" yourself accordingly. What admin.Aih! There is no doubt about your enthusiasm. Is your Mars is 5th? Coz if it is, you may see dating as kind of "job"(Virgo) i.e if you are dilligent in the process(Virgo), you shall overcome(Mars).And Virgo connected to the 5th often has romance at work. But the bigger question is; Does he fuss about YOU the same way? Does he find out who YOU are? What YOU like and how he can get closer to YOU? Or better yet: Does he even acknowledge that you want to exist in his world in "that" way? From one Aries Asc to another,our natures are often written on our faces.And we can be thought of as "naive" by some for wearing our intentions "out there" etc. But we really don't know how else to be as Aries in 1st is the "default" external face we greet others with. It took me a long time to accept(and still struggling tbh)that other people are not upfront.They are evasive, cagey, self preserving, cautious, suspicious etc. But they have their reasons to be that way and I can't force them to be how I want. So getting into a love affair with someone that is suspicious whilst you are daring, can lead you to disappointment and worse(heartache).Especially when they don't respond with equal enthusiasm. I recently ended what I once thought was a promising situation with a Pisces. And having Neptune/Sun conjunct myself, I thought I could be "equipped" to deal? What? Not so. Just like yours, I didn't know whether he was coming or going. Did he like me or not.What the hell was going on exactly? In his case, Mars is not in a mutable sign but in a fixed sign(Taurus). He also has Uranus/Sun square, Scorpio Moon/Pluto conjunction in Scorpio(which is known for being very guarded)Uranus/Mars square with Venus in Aqua. He failed to communicate in basic things. Even though I emphasized the importance of keeping the channels open. The lack of rapport(I have Cancer Moon in 3rd) kept me feeling like I was in limbo.Very disheartening for my Moon. All through this I kept on trying to understand HIS needs. What HE wants and how I can adjust etc. But then it clicked recently;"Is he doing the same???" No. So that was a definitive answer I needed to end this unhappy merry go round I was on. Release him please. And all endeavors invested towards him. With what you wrote, I suspect that he is likely very oblivious to you. IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 29, 2019 09:10 AM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Aih Virgo-Aries Artist There is no doubt about your enthusiasm.
From one Aries Asc to another,our natures are often written on our faces.And we can be thought of as "naive" by some for wearing our intentions "out there" etc. But we really don't know how else to be as Aries in 1st is the "default" external face we greet others with. It took me a long time to accept(and still struggling tbh)that other people are not upfront.They are evasive, cagey, self preserving, cautious, suspicious etc. But they have their reasons to be that way and I can't force them to be how I want. So getting into a love affair with someone that is suspicious whilst you are daring, can lead you to disappointment and worse(heartache).Especially when they don't respond with equal enthusiasm. .... Release him please. And all endeavors invested towards him. With what you wrote, I suspect that he is likely very oblivious to you.
You speak so true, fellow Aries Rising. Yes, I needed to hear it. I will release this fascination. Onwards and upwards...
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ballerina
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posted May 29, 2019 02:49 PM
Gut=TugFollow your heart.. No one, but you knows
what is true blue or
green for you... Crystal Clear ------------------
All my love, with all my Heart
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 29, 2019 03:12 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ballerina:
Gut=TugFollow your heart.. No one, but you knows
what is true blue or
green for you... Crystal Clear
Lotusheartone,
My heart was yearning, but the more it did, the further away he acted and felt. The power dynamic is far too strong for any hope
And I am not in a position to leap toward something that could cery easily be one-sided. He is kind with everyone, smiles with everyone, light-hearted with everyone...what made me think I was special, or that there was something in the vibe?...
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ballerina
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posted May 29, 2019 03:18 PM
Don't ever forget magic
and miracles..we feel what
we feel for a reason...Evil shall do whatever it
can to keep the other half
away...for that would bring
Peace on Earth... The easy road leads in an
endless circle of repeating
the same thing over and over
again..expecting a different
result, Insanity... The other road leads to
A11. ... IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
Knowflake Posts: 1108
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posted May 29, 2019 08:42 PM
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Originally posted by ballerina:
Don't ever forget magic
and miracles..we feel what
we feel for a reason...Evil shall do whatever it
can to keep the other half
away...for that would bring
Peace on Earth... The easy road leads in an
endless circle of repeating
the same thing over and over
again..expecting a different
result, Insanity... The other road leads to
A11. ...
Ok...I make no promises but I won't write him off. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted May 30, 2019 12:29 AM
quote:
Originally posted by ballerina:
Don't ever forget magic
and miracles..we feel what
we feel for a reason...Evil shall do whatever it
can to keep the other half
away...for that would bring
Peace on Earth... The easy road leads in an
endless circle of repeating
the same thing over and over
again..expecting a different
result, Insanity... The other road leads to
A11. ...
Are you saying that guy is her other half? If so, what makes you think that?
I think Aries was right when he suggested she let him go. It hasn't really evolved into anything so far and I doubt it's healthy to hang onto it.
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 30, 2019 12:26 PM
Kani,I do see your point, and I have a track record of one-sided fixations, well, ones that never went the direction I was hoping they would go. I release him, as much as it is possible since we work together. I cannot help the physical attraction I feel for him, but I can control the mental/emotional side of it. I want a man in my life who unabashedly *wants* me, wants to be with me, communicates, is affectionate, and up front. I need someone with whom I can be my Leo Moon/Venus and Aries Rising Warrior Queen self, who is unintimidated and worthy of my respect and admiration. He has to be in touch with his spiritual too...::sighs:: IP: Logged |
kani
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posted May 30, 2019 01:51 PM
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Originally posted by Virgo-AriesArtist:
Kani,I do see your point, and I have a track record of one-sided fixations, well, ones that never went the direction I was hoping they would go. I release him, as much as it is possible since we work together. I cannot help the physical attraction I feel for him, but I can control the mental/emotional side of it. I want a man in my life who unabashedly *wants* me, wants to be with me, communicates, is affectionate, and up front. I need someone with whom I can be my Leo Moon/Venus and Aries Rising Warrior Queen self, who is unintimidated and worthy of my respect and admiration. He has to be in touch with his spiritual too...::sighs::
Of course you can't help the attraction . It's just there but you seem to be clear about what type of man you want in your life. And you know what you deserve which is great. I think it's the right path you are going: being aware of the physical attraction and not trying to talk it away but at the same time being open to a new love in your life that will be more fullfilling IP: Logged |
anska5
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posted May 30, 2019 03:50 PM
Leaving all astrology aside for a second, I think given the circumstances, your working relationship and you being in the middle of a divorce, a man would have to be head over heals for you to decide to make a move right now. So from what you described about his behaviour he currently is probably not burning for you, but that doesnt mean he isnt attracted to you or there is a connection between you. But again, unless he is so in love with you he basically cant help himself, I really doubt 99% of men would make a move when the woman is in the middle of a divorce. He has no idea if you are still in love with your husband, if you and your husband want to try again...and then with the added complication of your working relationship where these days men have to be extra careful because any misreading of signasl has the potential of getting really awkward. Not to say that every man thinks twice about making a move at work for fear of a sexual harassment suit, but still..It's not an uncomplicated situation you are in. So I think it is a good idea to just focuse on work for now, finalise your divorce and see how he acts a few months down the line. If he still acts what you consider hot and cold, I fear there might be no deeper interest from his side. From my own experience, not with pisces sun men, but pisces ascendant and neptune in the 1st men, who also had a mix of saturn and uranus in their chart, they can be very magnetic to women...and unfortunately that neptune veil is easily misinterpreted.
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted May 30, 2019 09:58 PM
quote:
Originally posted by anska5:
Leaving all astrology aside for a second, I think given the circumstances, your working relationship and you being in the middle of a divorce, a man would have to be head over heals for you to decide to make a move right now. So from what you described about his behavior he currently is probably not burning for you, but that doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you or there is a connection between you. But again, unless he is so in love with you he basically cant help himself, I really doubt 99% of men would make a move when the woman is in the middle of a divorce. He has no idea if you are still in love with your husband, if you and your husband want to try again...and then with the added complication of your working relationship where these days men have to be extra careful because any misreading of signals has the potential of getting really awkward. Not to say that every man thinks twice about making a move at work for fear of a sexual harassment suit, but still..It's not an uncomplicated situation you are in. So I think it is a good idea to just focus on work for now, finalize your divorce and see how he acts a few months down the line. If he still acts what you consider hot and cold, I fear there might be no deeper interest from his side. From my own experience, not with Pisces sun men, but Pisces ascendant and Neptune in the 1st men, who also had a mix of Saturn and Uranus in their chart, they can be very magnetic to women...and unfortunately that Neptune veil is easily misinterpreted.
anska5,
Thank you for weighing in on this.
I literally signed the final papers for the divorce today. All it has to do is be processed by the court, so a week or less. I will have to get on the health insurance at work, so impossible for work not to know, whether Fish does, well...?
I literally had a friend do Tarot, she said something along the lines of him feeling like I still "belonged" to someone else...
I've done Angel card readings on myself, plus online Tarot, and I keep getting the message to be patient...HAha, Aries Rising...patient? :P
I worked with him again today on tax training, and I kept the emotion out of my voice, as well as intentionally did not look his way during lunch. We'll see, we'll see. I want to keep it all professional until/unless I have any concrete reason to believe otherwise. IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted June 23, 2019 12:01 AM
Well, as the Universe shifts, this month has been eventful to say the least.June 4th, my divorce was final ( I did not even learn it was until the 8th, as the paperwork was mailed). June 18th, I was let go from work (where I worked with Fish) due to lack of available billable work for me to do. Fish was the one who delivered the news, along with the Office Admin. I handled it well enough, all things considered. I had been thinking of leaving in the Fall, but it would have been on my terms, which clearly the Universe felt was not fast enough. The day after I was let go, I did e-mail Fish, telling him I appreciated his constructive comments during the final meeting, *and* also wrote how I always enjoyed talking with him, valued his precision with language a great deal, and said "I'd love to grab coffee and get to know you better". I included my personal e-mail as well as cell phone number. That e-mail was sent Wednesday mid-day. So far, no response...we shall see. I have truly done all I can in this situation, while retaining my dignity, and the ball is truly in his court. I don't have his number, so cannot call him, even if I wanted to, which I do not. I have left the door wide open, now it's his move. Lotusheartone, I have **called his name, as I walked on by...**  IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted June 24, 2019 09:47 PM
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posted June 28, 2019 12:27 AM
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posted June 28, 2019 12:27 AM
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kani
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posted June 28, 2019 07:50 AM
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Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted June 28, 2019 11:51 AM
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