posted May 24, 2019 06:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
that's interesting, my friend with asperger's has venus retrograde in virgo and a virgo mercury they're conjunct and both square neptune does your bf have either of those going on?

she's high functioning too and most of the time with her i don't notice, but sometimes i can really see it

i've known her forever, never doubted she has love for me and she has no issues expressing it she can be a very loving person and is a really good mother etc

i've heard if a planet is debilitated by sign the retrograde isn't as bad as it could be and comparing her to the cap venus i was hooking up with (his venus was pretty much exact on my ic too) that definitely seems to hold true

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My bf also has Mercury, Mars, and ASC in Virgo. I joke that this is why people think he has Aspergers.
mercury does not square Neptune, his is in Capricorn.

posted June 02, 2019 09:26 AM            

Pain in my @$$.

- Beauty is a big issue.
- Internal conflict between wanting physical perfection and resisting the idea of something as superficial as beauty being my "life's work".
- Grossly underestimate own sex appeal, despite clear feedback to the contrary.
- Very quickly turned off by imperfections in others, physical and psychological. Working on this.
- Obsessively turned off by smokers, yellow teeth, dirty fingernails, body odor, bad breath, etc.
- Aesthetic minimalist: no logos or slogans on my clothes, very simple dress code, no distractions. Same applies for living space.
- Tend to feel extremely off-kilter if nails aren't done, waxing is late, hair isn't washed, clothes aren't close to new.
- Sexually turned ON by the ide of f***ing ugly people, however. Breaks all my own rules.
- Look for partners who are extremely expressive, physically comfortable and pay attention to details.
- Romantic superiority complex.
- Romantic inferiority complex.
- Attract Virgo stalkers.
- Attract Capricorn losers.
- Really love alone time.

posted June 02, 2019 10:03 AM            

I'm emotionally aware and expressive, also capable of empathy and sensibility. But I need emotional connection and without a deeper one I can feel alone and suffer. So maybe I'm emotionally needy and need someone sensitive.
With Eris nearby I'm also quite passionate. In life I'm quite assertive despite my passive appearance.

One of the things I noticed is that people might be forgiving of relationship issues but I tend to concern about it a lot. As if I can't enjoy and dedicate fully if I don't feel connected if I don't feel emotionally in tune. I also feel unloved when my emotions are not paid attention to.

posted June 02, 2019 10:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
My bf also has Mercury, Mars, and ASC in Virgo. I joke that this is why people think he has Aspergers.
mercury does not square Neptune, his is in Capricorn.

Yeah once in a while I see his Aspergers though no one can really tell.Sometimes with his Virgo stellulum he picks a really bad time to do the Virgo nagging.
Sometimes it takes him a while to "get things" like how its unfair to have the same expectations on someones whose life has changed. I'm going through my Saturn return. I have responsibly on steroids. He doesn't always know how to handle it. I think this would be hard for anyone on the spectrum or not.

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sorry, i just noticed this

i guess the neptune hard aspect in her case must be doing something else then, it's interesting to know that's not a contributing factor

i knew another virgo stellium who also had the same issue (asperger's), and come to think of it another guy with asperger's i've known was born in early september so multiple virgo placements is likely but i don't remember his exact birthday i haven't spoken to him in a long time

i find with my friend her getting things can be a big issue in our friendship, taking things too literally and just instantly running with it without giving me time to explain (this is difficult for me, i have leo mercury and a huge tendency to generalize and say things in a somewhat exaggerated manner without meaning them quite like that, just about the conversation and to get the sentiment across) and she doesn't really grasp it when i tell her to chill or when it's not a good time for things (like what you just said) etc but she's perfectly capable of being caring and understanding to a point it just takes a little extra to hit that sometimes

i finished my saturn return not that long ago, still picking up the pieces but mine wasn't immediately about responsibility it was more consequences and harsh lessons