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Topic: 7th house:What do relationships bring out of you?
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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 08, 2019 05:30 PM
Just for fun  Pluto in 7th: The "lay my head on the train tracks with you" lover. Neptune in 7th: "The Notebook" screen adaption re-enactor. Uranus in 7th:The spontaneous make-out session in the rain enthusiast. Saturn in 7th:The "Jane Austen" retrograde love believer. Jupiter in 7th: The stay up all night "tell me your dreams" sharer. Mars in 7th: The "sweat it out" sex marathon competitor. Sun in 7th: The "I'm hers" or "I'm his" matching t-shirt wearer. Ven in 7th: The "+1" trophy arm candy social benefit attendor. Merc in 7th: The "how they put it on me" relationship columnist writer. Moon in 7th:The Instagram sexy couples "relationship goals" follower. IP: Logged |
vansio Knowflake Posts: 417 From: Registered: Dec 2017
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posted September 08, 2019 07:23 PM
You’re hilarious. High Five, Aries!Pluto in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to die so they can live. (Not joking.) Neptune in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to dream so they can sleep. Uranus in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to be free so they can be liberated. Saturn in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to constrict so they can be obedient. IP: Logged |
Dons2angelss Knowflake Posts: 470 From: Virginia, US Registered: Jan 2019
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posted September 08, 2019 11:06 PM
Uranus in the 7H and Neptune depending on the house system used. Uranus is unaspected and retrograde so maybe that's why I haven't found that any of my relationships have brought out that side of me. If anything, they were pretty dull and boring. Neptune fits, I do want that romantic love story but I honestly don't believe I'll find it. Everything from Mars to Pluto is retrograde in my chart. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 09, 2019 03:53 AM
quote: Originally posted by vansio: You’re hilarious. High Five, Aries!Pluto in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to die so they can live. (Not joking.) Neptune in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to dream so they can sleep. Uranus in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to be free so they can be liberated. Saturn in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to constrict so they can be obedient.
Yes!! Right on  I like your take. I have Saturn in 7th. I agree with having to seek rules of engagement.
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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 09, 2019 04:04 AM
quote: Originally posted by Dons2angelss: Uranus in the 7H and Neptune depending on the house system used. Uranus is unaspected and retrograde so maybe that's why I haven't found that any of my relationships have brought out that side of me. If anything, they were pretty dull and boring. Neptune fits, I do want that romantic love story but I honestly don't believe I'll find it. Everything from Mars to Pluto is retrograde in my chart.
Wow ok. Never thought that retrograde planets had little to no effect. I have Chiron in Taurus retrograde motion. But I still identify with it. Much like how I feel the impact of retrograde transits. Perhaps its not you who has these qualities brought out of you. But you expect the lover to have them? Or wait upon them to manifest? For instance, I know that a mate of mine with Uran/Ven square(similar to Uranus in 7th). He always complains of how "dull" his relationships get that he eventually severs them. I tell him that instead of "expecting" the partner to "light his fire" and waiting for them to. He should be the one who does that. That the reason that he is so dissatisfied is because he is projecting Uran(excitement)on to another & making them responsible for bringing it etc. Instead it should be him who does that because he knows what he needs and the fire he wants. He should take the lead. IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 12566 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2019 04:17 AM
My Moon is technically at the end of the 7th, but astro.com interprets it in the 8th, because it's so close to the cusp. I actually do follow at least one actress on instagram, who seems to be in the perfect relationship with her husband (Italia Ricci and Robbie Amell). A Taurus and a Scorpio. They've been together for years, and are that perfect-looking, disgustingly in love couple that would appear in that type of meme or hashtag (relationship goals).  IP: Logged |
kirki Knowflake Posts: 506 From: Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2019 05:54 AM
Venus (ruler of 5th ,in gemini,trine uranus) right on 7 house cusp... like partner to be weird and different and have good great communication but also give free space to each other. Saturn(ruler of 2nd house) in 7... make serious relationships and through them boost selfesteem and sense of inner safety...
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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 09, 2019 06:16 AM
quote: Originally posted by teasel: My Moon is technically at the end of the 7th, but astro.com interprets it in the 8th, because it's so close to the cusp. I actually do follow at least one actress on instagram, who seems to be in the perfect relationship with her husband (Italia Ricci and Robbie Amell). A Taurus and a Scorpio. They've been together for years, and are that perfect-looking, disgustingly in love couple that would appear in that type of meme or hashtag (relationship goals). 
My Venus is technically near the end of the 7th. And Mars is technically near the end of the 6th. However I have come to acknowledge through experience that where they are currently(and not where they are close to being) is how they manifest. Moon(7th) has the individual become more sentimental and progressively tied to the partner. Their partner(7th) becomes like their "family"(Moon). And they begin to care, nurture and fuss over their parner as a mother would a child. My Cancer Desc friend with Moon in Pisces conj Merc/ Mars gets unbelievably mushy. He also has Cap rising so it's a little unsettling for me to see him that way in love. He really wears his heart on his sleeve (Moon /Mer/ Mars) & experience has taught me to establish distance from him when he does get in that state. He makes the most foolish and impulsive decisions that he later regrets. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 09, 2019 06:55 AM
quote: Originally posted by kirki: Venus (ruler of 5th ,in gemini,trine uranus) right on 7 house cusp... like partner to be weird and different and have good great communication but also give free space to each other. Saturn(ruler of 2nd house) in 7... make serious relationships and through them boost selfesteem and sense of inner safety...
What you listed here is what you "expect" from relationships. The question however is what relationships bring out of you? I have both planets in my 7th. Venus there brings out my more diplomatic nature out...a lot. I also tend to "beautify" myself more when in a coupling situation i.e I am the "arm candy" that makes my mate look good  With Saturn, I do become more like a paternal parent to them.Whilst Moon here makes the native more "mothering" and nurturing, Saturn here makes the me more "fathering" and restrictive. I set up guidelines and rules of engagement etc. then "punish" disobedience. I have been told by exes that since being with me,they have pulled up their socks a lot & are more mindful/ mature.I forced them to "grow up" & honor relationships. Ofcourse when we broke up, they resented me i.e I was too "serious", too "severe" & made them feel "bossed" around etc. But in retrospect, they feel like they have since not found a partner who is as earnest as I was. In a way, Saturn in 7th partner becomes the standard to beat. So many of them have asked to come back. But I no longer feel for them in the manner that I used to feel. I think that this is also the case with Saturn/Venus, Saturn/Asc or Saturn/Sun contacts. The Saturn partner becomes the "gold standard" in all.Whether the experience is "good" or "bad", it becomes the goal to "beat". Brad Pitt has Aqua Saturn conj Jennifer's Sun. Jennifer's Saturn in Aries is square Brad Pitt's Venus in Cap. That's why I think transits of Saturn to Sun/Venus or Asc tend to have one enter some kind of commitment or contract. And when someone's Saturn aspects your Ven/Sun/Asc (and other attraction factors allow), you can feel like this is "the one"-this without the song and dance of romcoms.Lol. It feels so final.Or like a new chapter in your life etc. Two relationships that I have felt the most heartache were Saturn in aspect to my Asc. The Saturn in aspect to my Sun one didn't even get to be a relationship because it was spoiled by misunderstandings. And yet it lingers in memory. And thats all Saturn. IP: Logged |
kirki Knowflake Posts: 506 From: Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2019 07:35 AM
Saturn in 7 made me search for serious relationships ,and also looking for responsible partners,but it seems i had the "responsible "role always .In my case my ex partners who are now my good friends, they have said i ve helped them become more mature somehow...in synastry strong saturn can work if both people have strong saturn in their chart,otherwise they feel a weight that dont like.With my ex partner my jupiter conjucted his venus/mars,and saturn squared them...still saturn was too heavy for him since his chart has strong jupiter/mars elements and saturn is not strong ...IP: Logged |
Dons2angelss Knowflake Posts: 470 From: Virginia, US Registered: Jan 2019
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posted September 09, 2019 08:33 AM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: Wow ok. Never thought that retrograde planets had little to no effect. I have Chiron in Taurus retrograde motion. But I still identify with it. Much like how I feel the impact of retrograde transits.Perhaps its not you who has these qualities brought out of you. But you expect the lover to have them? Or wait upon them to manifest? For instance, I know that a mate of mine with Uran/Ven square(similar to Uranus in 7th). He always complains of how "dull" his relationships get that he eventually severs them. I tell him that instead of "expecting" the partner to "light his fire" and waiting for them to. He should be the one who does that. That the reason that he is so dissatisfied is because he is projecting Uran(excitement)on to another & making them responsible for bringing it etc. Instead it should be him who does that because he knows what he needs and the fire he wants. He should take the lead.
Yep, it's taken me a long time to realize that. I need to have some kind of excitement and unconventional freedom but that storybook loyal love lol. Don't know how to strike a compromise between those yet! IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 09, 2019 09:05 AM
quote: Originally posted by kirki: Saturn in 7 made me search for serious relationships ,and also looking for responsible partners,but it seems i had the "responsible "role always .In my case my ex partners who are now my good friends, they have said i ve helped them become more mature somehow ...
That's the Saturn I know. One becomes the designated driver when they go out with friends. That's the "sucky" part. As one is entrusted with responsibility. You also(much like Pluto) become the "disliked" one.Or the one that people perceive as "stuck up". Even in other one-on-one relationships(including platonic and work ones) you may come across as the "spoil sport" or Daddy" of the group. This especially when Pluto is also in the 7th-then you may get the bill when you go out with friends. Even when you are not the one with the cash. The waiter will just assume you are in charge. I used to wonder why bosses used to be attracted to me? Not necessarily romantically but they would favour me for stuff. But in the same breath, the unethical ones used to dislike me because I questioned their decisions. And that is also Saturn. Natally Sat/Sun,Sat/Venus and Sat/Asc can feel unpopular. Even if its not true. They can feel like they are not well received by their peers or get on better with those older/in authority positions. IP: Logged |
kirki Knowflake Posts: 506 From: Registered: Aug 2014
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posted September 09, 2019 10:15 AM
Saturn trine moon /mars,sextile sun,square mc...but i have lot of water and air in chart plus my favourite asc in sagittarius ,so saturn is not so heavily expressed...IP: Logged |
Xodian Knowflake Posts: 1000 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2019 01:18 PM
You forgot the best one of the lot:Empty 7th House: "I am a strong, independent individual that don't need no relationship!" - Fast forward to adulthood and being the first one out of his-her group of friends to get married. "How the hell did that happen!" IP: Logged |
mourningfire Newflake Posts: 18 From: Registered: Aug 2019
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posted September 13, 2019 12:25 AM
Mars in the 7th. I guess I would say I'm pretty confrontational. I would say that in relationships, I really value honesty and transparency because I know intimately well how the smallest miscommunication can topple everything. So i chase down the truth and maybe it's not in the most nuanced way sometimes but that's the nature of Mars I guess. I do this more in romantic relationships as opposed to friendships, mainly because I value romantic relationships infinitely more than friendships. Whenever I start an argument, it comes from a place of wanting to clear the air, of not wanting to allow resentment to breed and fester. It was never confrontation and anger just for confrontation and anger's sake. I will say, I do think this placement is especially pronounced because I have my moon squaring mars. Some interpretations I've read have said that people with this aspect can get violent. I can definitely see how it could manifest that way. But, for me, I just have the potential to get very reactive. I jump on whatever I don't like that's said or done. And I will not let it go until I have an explanation or until I feel it's resolved. (I can definitely see how the other person could find that exhausting). I've also read that those with mars in the 7th could attract violent partners. But honestly the only common thread amongst the guys I've attracted is that they've all been emotionally distant or hindered, for lack of a better term. My ex had mars in the 12th for example, we were like opposites bc he hated confrontations, he didn't even know how to start them. I think one of the positives of this aspect is that we'll fight for the relationship and our loved ones. If the relationship is important to us, if we know that in our core, then we will fight to keep it alive for as long as we can. I think there's a nobility and sincerity to mars that's especially pronounced in the 7th house. Overall, it's not a good placement lol but it has its positives. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 13, 2019 04:41 AM
quote: Originally posted by kirki: Saturn trine moon /mars,sextile sun,square mc...but i have lot of water and air in chart plus my favourite asc in sagittarius ,so saturn is not so heavily expressed...
Easy aspects are often understated. I often think that our tendency to overlook them or put them on a level below challenging aspects, plays into our inkling to focus on how "challenged" we are rather than the gifts we have etc. I have Moon/Saturn trine.This is being comfortable (Moon) with being in authority or being in the position to be a group leader(Saturn). As a parent, people with easy Sat/Moon aspects have an ability or can access the talent of giving gentle(Moon) direction(Sat) or nurturing(Moon) structure(Sat). This is true of the sextile aspect too. So the trine to Mars is also the ability to assert yourself positively or make the most of your energy reserves. You may be into planning a course of action or defining action according to maximum benefit i.e you are seldom impulsive or directionless. The sextile to Sun makes the ability to express creative talents in a very structured or definitive way. So for instance, this aspect would suggest someone who may have public speaking abilities or an image of confidence that inspires trust. Even when the native is not an Earth Sun sign, the result of the easy aspect from Sat to Sun can add an "earthy" tone to the expression of the solar energy. The native tends to sponsor the native towards building a life of structure and order very early on. These people tend not to be interested in the great "out there" for instance, but regulating what is known and sure "in here" to a secure state. They don't take things for granted and plan ahead. I liike easy aspects. IP: Logged |
StubbornVirgo Knowflake Posts: 2684 From: Welcome to Mercury Registered: Jul 2015
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posted September 13, 2019 06:00 AM
Venus in 7th - guilty!IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 13, 2019 06:43 AM
quote: Originally posted by Xodian: You forgot the best one of the lot:Empty 7th House: "I am a strong, independent individual that don't need no relationship!" - Fast forward to adulthood and being the first one out of his-her group of friends to get married. "How the hell did that happen!"
Really? I would think that the Sun in 7th or Moon there would do that . The Sun in 7th for instance, would come out more when in one on one relationships. IP: Logged |
Moonbeth Knowflake Posts: 213 From: Registered: Jul 2019
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posted September 13, 2019 07:00 AM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: Originally posted by Xodian: You forgot the best one of the lot:Empty 7th House: "I am a strong, independent individual that don't need no relationship!" - Fast forward to adulthood and being the first one out of his-her group of friends to get married. "How the hell did that happen!" Originally posted by Aries23Degrees Really? I would think that the Sun in 7th or Moon there would do that . The Sun in 7th for instance, would come out more when in one on one relationships.
empty 7th house here "I am so weak without others, I can't do this alone, if only I could meet someone right for me who I could bring a lot to so that we'd stick together Vs the world". Has been single for-absolutely-ever never lived with anyone, been handling my own self for decades with as close as possible to no help. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 13, 2019 08:06 AM
quote: Originally posted by mourningfire: Mars in the 7th. I guess I would say I'm pretty confrontational. I would say that in relationships, I really value honesty and transparency because I know intimately well how the smallest miscommunication can topple everything. So i chase down the truth and maybe it's not in the most nuanced way sometimes but that's the nature of Mars I guess. I do this more in romantic relationships as opposed to friendships, mainly because I value romantic relationships infinitely more than friendships. Whenever I start an argument, it comes from a place of wanting to clear the air, of not wanting to allow resentment to breed and fester. It was never confrontation and anger just for confrontation and anger's sake. I will say, I do think this placement is especially pronounced because I have my moon squaring mars. Some interpretations I've read have said that people with this aspect can get violent. I can definitely see how it could manifest that way. But, for me, I just have the potential to get very reactive. I jump on whatever I don't like that's said or done. And I will not let it go until I have an explanation or until I feel it's resolved. (I can definitely see how the other person could find that exhausting). I've also read that those with mars in the 7th could attract violent partners. But honestly the only common thread amongst the guys I've attracted is that they've all been emotionally distant or hindered, for lack of a better term. My ex had mars in the 12th for example, we were like opposites bc he hated confrontations, he didn't even know how to start them. I think one of the positives of this aspect is that we'll fight for the relationship and our loved ones. If the relationship is important to us, if we know that in our core, then we will fight to keep it alive for as long as we can. I think there's a nobility and sincerity to mars that's especially pronounced in the 7th house. Overall, it's not a good placement lol but it has its positives.
i find this placement so hilarious.The person looks one way from far.But up close, they can be so spicy! Lol Do you find yourself unable to compromise or yield to the partner?Like you like to be on top? Mars is in close aspect to my 7th house.I notice that manifests as a more assertive side coming out in groups. Like one gravitates to the leader position.
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Nadja Knowflake Posts: 304 From: Finland Registered: Nov 2018
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posted September 13, 2019 11:04 AM
"Jupiter in 7th: The stay up all night "tell me your dreams" sharer."In a way correct, because talking all night is the only reason I'd spend the night with anyone, lol! I don't have, nor do I want, any romance or sex in my life... IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 7703 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 13, 2019 11:30 AM
Jupiter conj Sun.The ruler of the 5th is the Sun. I have never thought myself as a sexual person really. Though i feel lust,it is usually more towards physical than anything else. But i remember when I met a professor in varsity whom was lecturing "Business Law".My arousal came fron the heart. I dreamed of making love to him and being around him. He was so sexy and so articulate.I was bowled over.  IP: Logged |
mourningfire Newflake Posts: 18 From: Registered: Aug 2019
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posted September 13, 2019 09:48 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: i find this placement so hilarious.The person looks one way from far.But up close, they can be so spicy! Lol Do you find yourself unable to compromise or yield to the partner?Like you like to be on top? Mars is in close aspect to my 7th house.I notice that manifests as a more assertive side coming out in groups. Like one gravitates to the leader position.
Initially I'm pretty compromising I'd say. Maybe compromising isn't the right word, I guess I should say I value sharing? Experiences should be shared, someone should do smth bc they want to do it, not bc I'm putting my foot down or smth, you know? It's important to deeply listen in that way. But honestly, at my core, I would say I'm pretty uncompromising. Maybe that tends to come out more after the initial head-over-heels in love stage is over. I think it comes from a fear of being controlled/manipulated than anything else though. Like, having your own back. But it does depend on the circumstances too. I agree about the group thing! do tend to take a leadership role in groups pretty easily. It just comes naturally, but I'm also an aries sun so that contributes also. IP: Logged |
Selenite Knowflake Posts: 1886 From: Lyra Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 14, 2019 01:40 AM
quote: Originally posted by vansio: You’re hilarious. High Five, Aries!Pluto in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to die so they can live. (Not joking.) Neptune in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to dream so they can sleep. Uranus in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to be free so they can be liberated. Saturn in the 7th House: The lover who wants you to constrict so they can be obedient.
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Selenite Knowflake Posts: 1886 From: Lyra Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 14, 2019 01:41 AM
also -- Saturn in 7th -- the lover who wants you to be the adult so they can stay childish!!guilty  IP: Logged |