posted September 24, 2019 02:46 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Age doesn't guarantee maturity, but you should go with how you feel.

I was happily single until my mid-twenties (mostly). I'm still single, which I'm sometimes fine with, sometimes not.

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posted September 24, 2019 09:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Agree with this.I am 35 years of age and still single.I think it's easier to be single than in a relationship tbh.

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Right?! You do what you want, when you want, and how you want to do it, without having to "check-in" with anyone. If you want to want a 12-hour day, no one can stop you.

posted September 24, 2019 10:40 AM            

Once you get into a serious and committed relationship, then your friend-group changes. The singles (for me) had basically gone more into the background of my life. My new friends were those who were marrieds and having babies.

There was a group we had who met in childbirth preparation classes. Some of us got pregnant again, at the same time.

posted September 24, 2019 10:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Right?! You do what you want, when you want, and how you want to do it, without having to "check-in" with anyone. If you want to want a 12-hour day, no one can stop you.

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posted September 24, 2019 11:01 AM            

Be good to yourself, and make sure you have the 'balance' of a personal life with people who really care about you. Too much working and driving ambition can (yes) get you to your goal. Gently, make sure you are still in touch with the 'Cancer' side. Acknowledge your feelings, and need to be a part of another (or array of others) in your life.

Make sure you remember to Play and 'smell the roses' too, Miss Leo!

We never really know what can happen to us that could suddenly swipe you away from your hard-fast trajectory. It's really really really good to have people who 'know' you, and care and Love you during times that seem to go-wrong in life. We need to be 'known' and to belong, in order to survive.

Becoming a lawyer is important.
Remembering you are also a sentient human being with needs, is paramount. It's the Foundation upon-which your holistic Success is built.
When disappointments come, you don't fall into a hole when you have People that Love you acting as a Safety Net for your Life.

posted September 24, 2019 01:03 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
I was doing fine, hanging out with peers who had same interests as me. I didn't fall in love and get married until my 1st Saturn Return.

Once you get into a serious and committed relationship, then your friend-group changes. The singles (for me) had basically gone more into the background of my life. My new friends were those who were marrieds and having babies.

There was a group we had who met in childbirth preparation classes. Some of us got pregnant again, at the same time.

When you're married, with kids, your loose and free social-time gets dedicated towards needs of your partner, and the needs of your children.

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I have a friend who said the same sort of thing: they still had their friends when they got married, eight years ago (geez, it's been so long already), but when they had their first child five years ago, they lost most of them.

posted September 24, 2019 02:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Yeah.I love that. Lol

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Oh no, I meant to write "work" .. my baad, hahaha.

posted September 24, 2019 03:05 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
Leo-Cancer98
I realize that you are on a hard and fast track towards your education and goal to become a lawyer?

Be good to yourself, and make sure you have the 'balance' of a personal life with people who really care about you. Too much working and driving ambition can (yes) get you to your goal. Gently, make sure you are still in touch with the 'Cancer' side. Acknowledge your feelings, and need to be a part of another (or array of others) in your life.

Make sure you remember to Play and 'smell the roses' too, Miss Leo!

We never really know what can happen to us that could suddenly swipe you away from your hard-fast trajectory. It's really really really good to have people who 'know' you, and care and Love you during times that seem to go-wrong in life. We need to be 'known' and to belong, in order to survive.

Becoming a lawyer is important.
Remembering you are also a sentient human being with needs, is paramount. It's the Foundation upon-which your holistic Success is built.
When disappointments come, you don't fall into a hole when you have People that Love you acting as a Safety Net for your Life.

Take Good Care

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Awww, thanks love! <3

posted September 25, 2019 09:35 AM            

I enjoy having time to make my own decisions without having to check with someone else first. But being on your own also means not having that person who has your back, and that can be very lonely sometimes. Especially for me. I'm not blessed with perfect health, and I feel like I need that extra support, at times.

posted September 25, 2019 10:19 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Im the same age as you & I think we are similar! I have specific traits I want in a guy, caring, understanding, calm/composed, affectionate I want a man who will make me feel safe! & I don't mind waiting til Im older! I tend to like guys older than me and all the men I like have been out of my reach ☹️It's like the guy that fits my ideal is not the guy I can be with and it's very.. sad.. *sigh* we should make a club "Single since birth women in their 20's with high expectations" lol

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Haha, count me in girl! Since Saturn is represented by "30" generally, and 36 specifically, I have a feeling my very first relationship will be with a man in his 30s. Out of curiosity, what are your personal planets and their placements?

posted September 25, 2019 10:20 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
Well, given that I just turned 29 and I'm still single. Rest assured, there are worst things to be.

I enjoy having time to make my own decisions without having to check with someone else first. But being on your own also means not having that person who has your back, and that can be very lonely sometimes. Especially for me. I'm not blessed with perfect health, and I feel like I need that extra support, at times.

A friend of mine didn't get married until she was in her thirties, which is also when she started her family. She's always telling me that I have time and that I'm not as old as I think I am. That's reassuring.

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Your friend is right! I will not be getting married, nor starting a family, before I turn 29 years of age.

posted September 25, 2019 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Agree with this.I am 35 years of age and still single.I think it's easier to be single than in a relationship tbh.

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Right?! You do what you want, when you want, and how you want to do it, without having to "check-in" with anyone. If you want to want a 12-hour day, no one can stop you.

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Although I believe that it seems easier to be single for us who like to be free, for many it's easier to be in a sh*ty relationship than being single.

I'm 28 and I believe I will remain free forever.

posted September 25, 2019 12:59 PM            

You don't mention where your Saturn is placed.

Some people have charts that 'advise' that they NOT marry earlier in life because they would have to make too many compromises, and less of a chance that things would work out.

Some folks have charts that indicate they would be better-off being a single, because their chart in 'relationships' show that they would tend to be taken-advantage-of, if not properly matched.

Plut0nian??? LOL. Never say never?
Sometimes when you're not-looking, the person that's for 'you' can be drawn towards you. You have Capricorn Desc…, Cancer ASC. You want Loyalty and an assuredness about the other. Forever single?? .. or a person who is loyally Committed to you in a forever way? Someone you can Trust will not abandon ship just because adversity shows up in your life (which, guaranteed, it does)? Having the Right Partner can make SUCH a difference in life. ..

It takes a good portion of mutual self-sacrifice to stay in a (functional) relationship. {If he/she is abusing you, then PLEASE get-out!!!! or you'll be damaged, more than just your body AND!!!! your finances... experience-talking here.}
(music) Evangeline (Little Big Town) [4:33] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6R_A1X_cJI

Sometimes being 'single' IS the answer for some.
You don't want to fall prey.....

You can approach things through 'contract' that is NOT forever.

But you are Blessed if you find a mate who is truly truly Good inside, and Devoted in a way of making a Bond called a spiritual Covenant {instead of only a contractual agreement, subject to fail 'if' the other person changed their mind?}.

This really pays off after midlife transits, and after your Chiron Return, to have someone who knows, cares, and companions you into your mature-years, your elderhood... when your looks are not spring-chicken anymore. LOL.

posted September 25, 2019 06:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Haha, count me in girl! Since Saturn is represented by "30" generally, and 36 specifically, I have a feeling my very first relationship will be with a man in his 30s. Out of curiosity, what are your personal planets and their placements?

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Yeah a lot of guys Ive liked are like in their 30's like I find them more attractive. I don't like immature guys.
My personal placements are Pisces sun, mercury, and Venus in the 1st house and Aquarius moon in the 12th house, Libra mars in the 7th house
What are your placements?
I think our view on relationships are a bit similar cause I think I remember you had another post where you said you weren't interested in casual hookups? Im the same way !

posted September 25, 2019 07:59 PM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:

I enjoy having time to make my own decisions without having to check with someone else first. But being on your own also means not having that person who has your back, and that can be very lonely sometimes. Especially for me. I'm not blessed with perfect health, and I feel like I need that extra support, at times.

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The thumbs-up is for your whole post, but especially this bit. When I was dealing with so much at home, I noticed that everyone else had someone who had their back. I had my dad, and occasionally my mother, but when it came to dealing with mum at times, she expected my dad to stand up for her.

posted September 26, 2019 10:38 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
Yeah, everybody needs (and has) someone for them, when they're ready. You can't put a price on a quality person who has your back, no matter what.

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posted September 26, 2019 06:03 PM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Yeah a lot of guys Ive liked are like in their 30's like I find them more attractive. I don't like immature guys.
My personal placements are Pisces sun, mercury, and Venus in the 1st house and Aquarius moon in the 12th house, Libra mars in the 7th house
What are your placements?
I think our view on relationships are a bit similar cause I think I remember you had another post where you said you weren't interested in casual hookups? Im the same way !

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Yeah, I’d rather die than lose my virginity with someone I had no actual assurance would never leave; which I’d have no actual way of being certain of, until our wedding ceremony sooo ... 🤷🏾‍♀️
True! We’re one in the same! Haha 😂
How are your Moon & Venus aspected?