posted October 02, 2020 02:37 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
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Thats all I'm done, I have other things to do. I know you'll respond back without me being able to.

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
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you're really only proving my point about just wanting to argue, and yes i'll respond when i have the time and this thread will be up a while i assume you can get back to it whenever you aren't busy if you feel like it

if you need the last word feel free to have it tomorrow

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LMAO.. didn't I say you'd respond back. I figured you'd just leave it in peace as as I was prepared to do. So don't make that claim you don't want to argue if your trying to continue the conversation.

Anyway i'm done this is just going drag on until we hit 20 pages and whats the point say whatever you want!!!.

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Originally posted by teasel:
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On the rest: I agree with both of you, but I’m not in the mood to say any more, I have something else that I need to finish.

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Thanks Tessel, I hope just your doing better. I know you have a good heart and I just feel bad having to show my nasty side sometimes.

posted October 02, 2020 02:39 AM            

when did i say i wouldn't respond back? i said if you want to argue that's fine just admit it, i assumed it was understood that it meant i was fine with doing so

i've got nothing else going on right now why not?

posted October 02, 2020 02:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Somna7H:
I never cared about my looks.
Never wanted to showoff to opposite sex either.
I have Algol Conjunct Chiron Conjunct Asc.

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I don't think that looks are all about "showing off to the opposite sex" but more about making you appear and or feel different about your self. I couldn't care less right now about attracting a man. It's about change and something different.

posted October 02, 2020 02:42 AM            

They divorced.

He still had long hair.

posted October 02, 2020 02:46 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
I don't think that looks are all about "showing off to the opposite sex" but more about making you appear and or feel different about your self. I couldn't care less right now about attracting a man. It's about change and something different.

Plus I'm not sure is short pink hair would really attract a man 😂

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depends on the chick and depends on the guy

tastes vary and if a woman can pull it off then it doesnt even always matter

my ex buzzed all her hair off at one point, can't say i was pleased about it but i got used to it while she was in that phase

posted October 02, 2020 02:52 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:

Someone who puts a lot of emphasis on trying to impress people with there looks is a very insecure and shallow person.

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I had a friend who was very insecure about her looks. Not shallow though. As soon as she turned 18 she started with the plastic surgery. I was really shocked by it all. I thought it was more of a holloywood thing, especially in the mid 90s.

Her mother didn't raise her and wasn't really around during her childhood and when she did see her mother she would berate her how she looked. I saw it when I was a kid. I think she grew up thinking if she was more beautiful she might of had her mother around. I don't know, but its an assumption I made.

She was a model. I have never seen so many men drop at her feet. Yet all she could think about was not being good enough. She always wished she could have been more confident and admired me for my confidence

She also wore a mask when we were with other people. Always agreeable and smile and nod and don't upset anyone. Yet when we were alone she was so awesome but would never show this side of her to others in case they thought something bad about her.

posted October 02, 2020 03:14 AM            

when it comes to women i generally prefer long hair and really feminine so that phase of hers just wasnt my favorite but she was pretty anyway

posted October 02, 2020 03:23 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
I had a friend who was very insecure about her looks. Not shallow though. As soon as she turned 18 she started with the plastic surgery. I was really shocked by it all. I thought it was more of a holloywood thing, especially in the mid 90s.

Her mother didn't raise her and wasn't really around during her childhood and when she did see her mother she would berate her how she looked. I saw it when I was a kid. I think she grew up thinking if she was more beautiful she might of had her mother around. I don't know, but its an assumption I made.

She was a model. I have never seen so many men drop at her feet. Yet all she could think about was not being good enough. She always wished she could have been more confident and admired me for mine.

She also wore a mask when we were with other people. Always agreeable and smile and nod and don't upset anyone. Yet when we were alone she was so awesome but would never show this side of her to others in case they thought something bad about her.

Her mars and venus are conjunct in Scorpio.

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This is getting blown out of context, I mean in the general sense.

But if you can't appreciate who you are for who are... your not looking deeply enough and in a way there is some shallowness to it.

I can understand her reasoning for undergoing the knife if your surrounded by toxic people that are close to you putting you down.

My cousin was always labeled fat by my aunt for being big boned all the way from age 8 until 18.

Every time she saw my aunt she whould get depressed and just eat salads, no meat.

I'd always have to reassure her that my aunt's opinion didn't matter and she has her own flaws to so her opinion didn't matter.

If i didn't say anything she most likely would had some kind of cosmetic surgery.

posted October 02, 2020 03:24 AM            

I'd never date a man without hair. My hair is definitely my crowning glory, especially with Leo ruling my 10h. In my 20s strangers stopped me on the street to tell me how beautiful my hair was. Young people in shops to old people calling out to me from across the road telling me and to never cut it off. Everywhere I went I got compliments.. But with ageing, hair ages too and we usually forget about that part...

posted October 02, 2020 03:34 AM            

really depends on the person

i have a few white hairs, not many, like 5 and only in this past year though i'm not bothered by it

wouldnt dye my hair over it anyway it's pretty whatever

every so often someone can pull of bald and have it just suit them, but it's pretty rare

only had pluto on my ic recently, when it was exact had a pretty awful experience but it didnt affect my physical appearance (my ic squares my ascendant and my venus and my moon and my nodes)

the last time i cut my hair short it was just because it was summer and hot and my ex used to cut hair and she accidentally ended up needing to make it shorter than intended because we were both high

posted October 02, 2020 08:40 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
I take it the other way if someone doesn't care about there appearance there confident in there own skin.

Someone who puts a lot of emphasis on trying to impress people with there looks is a very insecure and shallow person.

lmao..this reminds me of those guys who buy big trucks or buy the biggest gun they can own in order to compensate for there peni$ size.

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In this social media world I feel sorry for me. You know I failed to impress other through my photos. Only those who have talk to me and know me little in real life know how beautiful I am. Rest who only rely on looks and apprentice, first impression based on outer look failed to judge me. Sorry it's my fault and I only blame to the planet for this...

posted October 02, 2020 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
"My cousin was always labeled fat by my aunt for being big boned all the way from age 8 until 18."

That's just fu cked!! Imagine talking to a child that way?! 😡

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She still has anxiety about her weight and it flares yup time to time.

There are things parents just shouldn't say at an early age.

Of course I'm not perfect either. I've said things I shouldn't have said to my niece and nephews but its never been an open criticism that undermines there confidence of who they are thought.

posted October 02, 2020 11:27 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
GalacticCoreExplosion: My friend always said if her husband cut off his waist length long blonde hair she'd divorce him.

They divorced.

He still had long hair.

Either way it didn't work out away 🤷‍♀️

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LOL

...A Prophecy...??

J/K

posted October 02, 2020 11:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Somna7H:
In this social media world I feel sorry for me. You know I failed to impress other through my photos. Only those who have talk to me and know me little in real life know how beautiful I am. Rest who only rely on looks and apprentice, first impression based on outer look failed to judge me. Sorry it's my fault and I only blame to the planet for this...

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appearance is about more than just looks, how you carry yourself dress etc all add into it

someone can be on the physically unattractive side and still carry themselves in a way where they're attractive anyway part of it is just energy

so you know regardless of the base you're working with there's **** you can do to improve

i've been with people i wasn't physically attracted to personally because there was other **** there, but the reason why i suggested you work on the physical is because it might improve your mental state if you felt more confident

posted October 02, 2020 12:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Somna7H:
I was talking about clothing, shoes, makeup, haircut etc. Physical appearance ? I have no insecurity. I'm insecure about my job, money and social status. But when I see people I see through outer appearance too. I mean I see physical appearance. Not clothes, makeup etc. That's why I disappointed most times. Most persons not physically perfect. I think this problem because of my Venus Exactly Conjunct Moon in 2nd House. And both opposite of Neptune.
But yes in most cases appearance, physical beauty etc etc boost up confidence. No doubt. I agree...

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yeah i remember you mentioning being insecure about that sort of thing, isn't necessarily an issue though nothing really is ultimately people can be pretty forgiving of a lot of ****

when i was addicted to heroin i had men and women who wanted to date me and pay for **** and so on, and it's not like i was working or anything all my money went to drugs

status can be meaningless to people

you really need to work on feeling better about yourself though man, it probably pushes people away more than anything else

no one's got all their **** together and just because you currently don't doesn't mean you never will, be more forgiving and consider that your good qualities balance out the **** you dont feel good about (and work on that **** )

posted October 02, 2020 01:41 PM            

So the physical build is more important than the way it’s dressed up. And you’re upset because people think differently 🤔
I like when people could show their non perfect body and beauty , in the way it looks perfectly good.
You don’t need to be rich to dress up well. I met a model who captivated a room with her style. (She wasn’t a standard beauty ) We were in shock when she said most of her stuff from second-hands.

posted October 02, 2020 01:44 PM            

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^So for you physical build is more important than the way it’s dressed up. And you’re upset because people think differently 🤔😯 I’m getting impressed when people can show their non perfect body and beauty in the way, it looks perfectly good.
You don’t need to be rich to dress up well. I met a model who captivated a room with her style. (She wasn’t a standard beauty ) We were in shock when she said most of her stuff from second-hands.

When Pluto transits started, maybe, Uranus squareMC, I started to care more about appearance, and I think it’s started to change. My old self wouldn’t like it. I think I go through the circles when I care too much and don’t care at all. I can really go to extremes with it.
When you dress well, it could create more problems..

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are you talking to me? i never got upset about anyone thinking differently, multiple times i've said things like "depends" "not necessarily" etc and never said anyone else was even wrong, there is no right or wrong with opinions they just are

posted October 02, 2020 01:48 PM            

i still get attention regardless, but people are generally nicer the more laid back i come across about that **** and it makes my life infinitely easier

if i look like i care a lot i'm automatically a negative attention magnet in my experience, whereas if i look like i rolled out of bed and dragged myself outside people are generally more friendly and i still get hit on and flirted with etc but there's no negativity thrown my way

then it's all "you're so cute" and so on 🙄

posted October 02, 2020 02:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

but i get a lot of harsh judgment if people perceive me as someone who is concerned with that kind of thing and it's really ******* uncomfortable

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posted October 02, 2020 03:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:

I started to notice the similar problem when my Pluto/ Saturn transits started. Sometimes, I decide just go with it. (I don’t think I can pull off rolled out of bed look anymore ) Im used to make myself smaller/ lower to get accepted, but I might just be manipulated to be that way.

One time a teacher came to work really dressed up (she was a doctor who trying to teach. It looked like she didn’t manage well any of these ). I thought right away something was wrong. She got fired; also, she had family problems.
It was impressive. That’s a way to handle lay off: put over the knee boots, look expensive, “I’m doing well without this job” attitude. Somewhat ridiculous, but I get excited with out of the box reactions/ solutions.
I’m not sure if I didn’t lose the point here.. People see what they wanna see. Nobody wouldn’t know she this way because she were going through a lot of tough things.

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it's just been a thing i've always dealt with so i've grown accustomed to just sort of avoiding it as much as possible

not sure if it's sun-pluto being sextile or because i have pluto first house (in some systems anyway, do for placidus but libra ascendant/libra venus and libra south node all conjunct) i have sun-saturn too (square) and sun-neptune (trine) heavily aspected ascendant too

i find it very uncomfortable though it's not really so much about being accepted as it is just finding it easier to not deal with ****

i'd be just as content with those people ignoring me altogether tbh

my ex was like the woman you're describing everything could be a mess and she'd be spending extra time in the mirror as if that'd fix it, got that from her mother though

so yeah i get you appearance changes can definitely be about hiding ****

posted October 02, 2020 05:30 PM            

Pluto too .. it is transforming energy, in a mutable zone, it might permit control over the transformation that happens, as the old foundation is torn down, a brand new one (look, appearance) is revealed.

.. ~me~ ..