posted January 30, 2021 05:29 PM            

If I do, I feel I get easily hurt and I respond in two ways: cry and never open up again or slowly try to disappear.

It was hard growing up with my family: I feel different from them as they are blunt and sort of domineering too - I feel misunderstood and alone.
I live with them now. Once I start working again, I feel I would come across the same issue at work.. with my sensitivity.

Is there a magical formula to strengthen myself? Why am I such a sensitive person? I don't think the fire in my chart gives me enough sass to not care. I feel the water dominants somehow.

Btw, I cried today, ugh so tired of it. I need help

posted January 30, 2021 09:52 PM            

I am very sorry for you, and wanted to give you a big hug.
I think it is very good for you to express your sadness and ask for help.
My heart is crying too, after I read, that you had to cry today.

Everybody needs a hug sometimes, is there anybody, who can give you that sometimes ?
I would recommend a nice therapist, if you have the possibility.

I cannot write much here, I have too little time, and my astrological knowledge is not enough for such a serious problem.

I wish you all the help you need.
I do know something about communication-problems and their backgrounds,
in case a question about that could help you.
In that case you can write one whole situation down in details, every sentence, if possible, every face expression and tone of voice....
The reason for that sensitivity can be in some cases hidden and discovered there somewhere.

But much better than in the internet would be in person somewhere, with a specialist, you are worth that and should ask for it.

All the best for you. 🤗

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In every person there is a sun, just let them shine. 🌄

posted January 30, 2021 10:19 PM            

Neptune conjunct DSC makes you easily believe the good in others and you are capable of great compassion. This brings disappointments when you realised they are not as nice as you think or as nice as you are to them. Also your cancer ASC creates a sensitive/protective nature towards the outside world.

posted January 31, 2021 01:46 AM            

With your chart, I noticed you have been already experiencing (are into) some very long Chiron transits.

Some transits are shorter than others, depending on retrogrades. Takes months (up to almost a year) to clear.

If you use a paper ephemeris, or electronic one like they have at astro com, you can follow t-Chiron, looking at your natal placements-- with that, you can ballpark the length of your transit. The longer it goes, the more accustomed you'll be to the energy of it. You'll get your bearings.
.. That includes any transits you get into.

Also, if you look at your Free Astrodienst Daily Horoscope, or list of Celestial Events, you can hover your mouse over their list of your transits, to see the span of time these aspects are active in your chart.}

Make sure you look at the Positive Transits too! Those are ones available to use, concurrent to the rougher ones.

Know.. "This too shall pass"

It's an opportunity for you to look at and process some things that would be otherwise hidden to you.

Astrology gives you an advantage.
When you're not 'conscious' of what's going on sky wise, it's a blinder and more soupy chaotic world? Knowing your transit, puts a start and a finish to it. Houses and planets involved, give you the 'where' this has been getting activation.

As it comes up, acknowledge.
If it's painful, breathe..
Let it be, let it sit with you.
Cry. It will process.
Energies get released.

Be Gentle with your self.

Privately I dubbed Chiron as "cry-on" ..
during some of those transits, I'd "cry on, and on, and on!

Below, I've typed out descriptions of those three transits you're having with transiting Chiron in Aries. The horoscope text comes from Astrodienst, Personal Daily Horoscopes*. I've been collecting them over the years, as I find them active in charts I've kept an eye on. Text is authored by Robert Hand, or Rob Pelletier {not sure}.

Quoting

Chiron conjunct Sun
Chiron sextile Chiron
Chiron square Neptune

Chiron conjunct Sun
"Come out of your shell"
Valid during many months --
During this time, a particular sore point of yours is disturbed, [it may be] a sensitivity or vulnerability that you may not be aware of, as this wound is part of your being.
It was probably inflicted a long time ago, in your early childhood, and all that remains today is a scar -- a certain vulnerability or injury.
. .
So it may well be that you do not really notice anything when your old wound is disturbed, as you react to this as you have perhaps always reacted to such situations:
You are distressed, hurt,
you distance yourself, and
forget the incident as quickly as possible.
. .
This can occur during conversations with friends,
when together with your partner, or
during exchanges with your colleague at work.
Nobody wants to do you any harm, you know that perfectly well;
the hurt takes place 'unintentionally',
and probably your counterpart notices nothing because you hide your feelings well.
. .
If you do not react by withdrawing as you usually do, [and] instead show that you have been hurt, you will be forced to explain some things in more detail-- not just to your counterpart, but also to yourself.
In that case, you can use this incident as a key to a hidden or forgotten earlier painful experience.
This will hardly reduce your pain, but will give you the freedom to behave differently in this, for you, typical situation.
If you are more open and understanding about your own hurt, others will understand you better in future.
. .
That is, of course, easier said than done, as this sore point is presently very deeply situated.
But this moment-in-time offers you an outstanding opportunity to stand far enough outside yourself to show your hurt.
If you recognize the situation in question and react to it, you will win new strength and confidence.

Chiron sextile Chiron
"Sensitive to moods"
Valid during many months--
You are now unusually sensitive and vulnerable,
which could make other people's moods affect you directly.
This will make you particularly considerate, helping you to avoid misunderstanding or inadvertently hurting other.
Your present condition might be the result of someone unintentionally hurting you by touching on a sensitive issue.
This influence indicates that you will become conscious again of pain which you have been carrying for a long time.
A wrong word, or a joke that backfires, can trigger the memory of painful past events which made you feel ashamed or inadequate, often with regard to your own body, particularly with matters related to sexuality.
During this time you should pay more attention to such unpleasant memories and not try to push them aside.
. .
Whether your old wounds are physical or psychological, by paying more attention to them you have the opportunity to develop a new relationship to the physical side of your nature.
Talking openly to someone you can trust may help.
Sports or any other kind of physical activity could now have an additional inner meaning for you.
Whatever happens, your heightened preoccupation with the dichotomies of mind and body, intellect and instinct, culture and nature, will turn out to be very rewarding.

Chiron square Neptune
"Retreat"
Valid during many months--
In this phase in your life, you may sometimes get the feeling that you are losing your footing.
You might discover that you have had some illusions on the way you lived your life.
This discovery can make you feel very sad and tired,
and it may give rise to the wish to withdraw from reality for a while.
Maybe you also feel misunderstood and neglected by your loved ones and people close to you.
But your desire to withdraw hints at a deep need to deal with inner processes.
If you can find a way to bring your feelings into awareness, you will be able to gain a lot from the experience.
. .
An active retreat from oppressive life circumstances can help you to gather the necessary strength to accept feelings which you might find confusing right now.
Try to create some space for yourself by taking a break to relax, spending time in a health spa, or learning some kind of meditation.
Give yourself enough space so that you have the chance to listen to your inner voice and learn to trust its message!
It will bring you in touch with our own inner calling
and help you to unmask illusions
and to deal with your feelings in an honest way.
You will find it easier to heal and forgive
if you can lovingly accept the fears and vulnerabilities which resulted from the pain and disappointment you suffered in childhood and adolescence.
You will then be better able to deal with the feelings that are so depressing at the moment.

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* www.astro.com

posted January 31, 2021 03:51 PM            

The Asc in Cancer opposite Neptune situation is the sensitivity more than anything.

The objective is not to stop being sensitive, because this is part of your soul development and you chose it. The objective is to learn to integrate sensitivity as a strength. That does not mean you won't cry more than most people. Crying is cleansing -- at least up to the point it becomes draining.

You feel more than most people do and that's probably a good thing.

The closest thing to a magic formula for you is to find the gem/crystal(s) that bring perpetual balance to your energy so that you can feel more in balance and use your sensitivity as a strength. I recommend you start wearing the gem Aquamarine as it is the one that most generally fits what you describe. Wear it on a pendant or bracelet (or both). Read about it in the Crystal Bible. "Aquamarine is a stone of courage. Its calming energies reduce stress and calm the mind ... Psychologically, Aquamarine has an affinity with sensitive people ... This stone is helpful in understanding underlying emotional states and interpreting how you feel ... sharpens intuition ..."

Aquamarine may not be right on the money, but I bet you'll find yourself in better balance and able to better feel out what (gem/crystal) will accomplish that further. There are stones listed for reducing sensitivity in the Crystal Bible index: Aragonite, Citrine, Moldavite, and Sodalite; I recommend Sodalite as your second choice.

However, your birth chart shows that the planet of lowest strength is Mercury and its placement at the top of your chart indicates the need to develop the intellect, clarity of thought and communication. So that will serve to counterbalance the emotions accompanying your sensitivity so you can process better with more help from the mind.

You may also find that at times Moonstone helps you because (Sun is far stronger than Moon in your chart and) it calms overreactions to emotional triggers. So I recommend you get all three of these stones and try one at a time starting with Aquamarine (or whichever feels best to you).

It is very important that you not think there's "something wrong" with you. You're just wearing a more sensitive personality this lifetime and integrating Neptunian energies into how you relate to others. This is an unavoidable experience of soul growth. Once you learn to integrate its energies into who you are with self-acceptance, then there's a lot of potential for good seeing Neptune's sextiles to Jupiter & Pluto.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

posted January 31, 2021 10:38 PM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
being sensitive isn't the equivalent of being weak it can be a strength in some regards

maybe it's better to accept yourself and see the value in those qualities instead of trying to bury them

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posted February 01, 2021 12:28 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
being sensitive isn't the equivalent of being weak it can be a strength in some regards

maybe it's better to accept yourself and see the value in those qualities instead of trying to bury them

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posted February 01, 2021 01:20 AM            

HeavenlyLove
It's true I really can use a hug right now - I don't know anyone from the top of my head but my teddy bear is my resource. I journal to help release some heavy emotions. Sad music or reading poems that speak to my heart out loud.

Hikaru29
Thank you for shedding some light, esp with Moon oppose Venus. It's my first time hearing creating a sensitive nature to the Moon. Everyting you say rings true. I've been told "thats just how the world works" when I get disappointed/hurt. I can only wait for the pain to pass. Best to keep it to myself.

mirage29,
yes the Chiron is new to me. Despite it being an asteroid I feel that during it's first conjunction... lingering pain from time to time. It must be amplifying the pain. Learning to be empathetic to myself has help along the way. Sometimes I can be forgetful.

Librapurr,
You have no idea how good it is to cry sometimes. Sometimes sad music helps to let everything out in moments I feel there are some left inside I didn't release.

I havent find the right therapist... I've done it and felt... off. I think you brought up a great point, it's been a while I feel I accomplish anything. I want to be an expertise of something to help others.

Kannon McAfee
Those are wonderful advices. I'm searching up Aquamarine now. Today I wore moldavite and moonstone necklace - I notice my mental state was grounded. I felt protected as well. It could be my ego. I do believe sometimes I am hurt because of my ego too. The mercury does make sense - I have major issues putting things into words, poor grammar, slow processing of information (could be mercury was stationary) and verbal conversation - so I put a lot of mental effort I get dizzy/fatigue.

posted February 01, 2021 01:22 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
being sensitive isn't the equivalent of being weak it can be a strength in some regards

maybe it's better to accept yourself and see the value in those qualities instead of trying to bury them

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posted February 01, 2021 01:31 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
being sensitive isn't the equivalent of being weak it can be a strength in some regards

maybe it's better to accept yourself and see the value in those qualities instead of trying to bury them

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posted February 01, 2021 02:50 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
being sensitive isn't the equivalent of being weak it can be a strength in some regards

maybe it's better to accept yourself and see the value in those qualities instead of trying to bury them

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posted February 01, 2021 06:56 AM            

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Originally posted by SimplyLuna:
oooh wait Dumuzi, are you saying to allow myself to cry in front of others?

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posted February 01, 2021 10:02 AM            

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posted February 01, 2021 12:04 PM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
well you could i dont see why someone would care or think less of you for it and if they do that's more of a problem in them than you no? 🤷‍♀️

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I think I would if my family allows that, their emotional response is anger and mock. I think they grew up seeing sensitivity as a form of weakness. I want to avoid confrontation esp during the most vulnerable time. Same with work area too. They would take you less seriously but I’m starting to question my career path. I work in a male dominant area. I don’t see sensitivity as weakness but i don’t like displaying if I get strong negative reaction back, it would take in a cycle of more hurt.

posted February 01, 2021 12:20 PM            

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Originally posted by SimplyLuna:
I think I would if my family allows that, their emotional response is anger and mock. I think they grew up seeing sensitivity as a form of weakness. I want to avoid confrontation esp during the most vulnerable time. Same with work area too. They would take you less seriously but I’m starting to question my career path. I work in a male dominant area. I don’t see sensitivity as weakness but i don’t like displaying if I get strong negative reaction back, it would take in a cycle of more hurt.

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oh i understand now

when i was a kid i used to get hit for crying because "i'll give you a reason to cry" essentially and not getting past things immediately was seen as a bad thing etc and so on

just really crazy abusive expectations of emotions and well... that's the thing of it no? it's abnormal on their part not a fault in you but a projection of theirs that something is bad inherently because of their own short comings and discomfort

it doesn't make you defective or weak or bad or anything, and it isn't something you have to change

you may have to hide it around people like that who will exploit it, but it isn't something bad in you

as for the work stuff idk ive had coworkers cry in front of me at jobs ive had or come to me with their emotional **** and ive just given them hugs and let them talk

ive had coworkers check on me and help me when i havent been ok too

generally i have better experiences with men even when it comes to emotional stuff so i'm not sure what to say to that

our environments aren't always good for us but that doesn't mean that we're defective and this could be a case of that

also our weaknesses stem from our strengths and vice versa, your sensitivity doesnt have to be a bad thing it could even be a strength you just need to get to a place where you learn how to use it that way

and find supportive people and you'll see a huge difference in responses to something like sensitivity

posted February 01, 2021 12:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Too sensitive it the Merc/Sun combust--1-5 degrees. The closer the more so

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posted February 01, 2021 01:30 PM            

There is power in emotions if you can harness them into passion and do inner work to build resilience.

posted February 01, 2021 02:10 PM            

Part of the advice under Chiron notes say to basically 'allow' yourself to show your vulnerabilities and your 'hurt' feelings.

If you have MONEY, and depending on where you live, there are "professional counselors" available who utilize astrology in their practice.

IF you have the finances, I can steer you to various places who might know of those 'in your area'.

posted February 01, 2021 05:02 PM            

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Originally posted by SimplyLuna:

Kannon McAfee
Those are wonderful advices. I'm searching up Aquamarine now. Today I wore moldavite and moonstone necklace - I notice my mental state was grounded. I felt protected as well. It could be my ego. I do believe sometimes I am hurt because of my ego too. The mercury does make sense - I have major issues putting things into words, poor grammar, slow processing of information (could be mercury was stationary) and verbal conversation - so I put a lot of mental effort I get dizzy/fatigue.

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Great start.

You might look into stones that boost Mercury energy. You wouldn't necessarily have to wear it all the time, but could reach for it and have it on/near you when you need to concentrate or engage in effective communication, study, etc. But then you might find you prefer it on you all the time, at least while you're awake. The stones that carry the most Mercury energy in Vedic/Jyotish are Emerald, Jade, and Peridot. (In western astrology it's Agate.) My impression is that you may find Jade most beneficial, at least for now. Consider Peridot a good second choice if it is more readily available or affordable.

Yes, part of what you're experiencing is ego. The Sun up high in Aries is very strong in your chart, disproportionately stronger than all other planets. This may be why you were born with both Sun square Neptune and Asc opposite Neptune, to integrate more imagination and empathy into your ego structure. With Mercury being least strong, it is good to find what Mercury-related gems/crystals you can use long-term to strengthen it. So I'd recommend (1) Jade, (2) Peridot, (3) Emerald.

posted February 02, 2021 10:02 AM            

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posted February 02, 2021 02:32 PM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
being sensitive isn't the equivalent of being weak it can be a strength in some regards

maybe it's better to accept yourself and see the value in those qualities instead of trying to bury them

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posted February 02, 2021 02:49 PM            

But I wouldn't stop at astrology.

Was your mother very stressed when she was pregnant?
For instance, I suspect that I am very sensitive because my mother had to flee war when she was only two months pregnant (prenatal stress)

Did you grow in sheltered environment? That could be a factor too.