posted April 20, 2021 10:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Ayelet:
Dumuzi, being fair, or trying to be so, is a known Libra trait. And I just remembered I have another male friend with the moon in Libra who acts similarly to the way you act. He disappears often, can give much when he's available, and whenever he feels down he closes and most of the time would not talk about it, only rarely.

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yeah to me if i can't give someone what i feel they deserve then i'm not going to feel ok about it, to me it's better to say "i can't be here for you right now" than to push myself to half assed be there and feel put out because i'm incapable

when i step away and gather myself a bit then i can come back and give more and meet people at a level that's fair to them

with my own **** i see it as something i'm responsible for, and while i'm human so of course i'll go to people sometimes i know that these are friends and not therapists and so on and that means sometimes i need to go "ok my **** doesn't need to take the forefront right now because my friend still matters and even if they're doing good then you know maybe they want to enjoy that goodness and i can be happy for them" etc

if i find myself in a place where i feel like the things that are ****** in my life are on my mind too much and interfering with my ability to interact on a frequent basis then i'll step back because it's just what's right

there really has to be a balance there and no matter how bad things i'm dealing with are i still also need to be able to pause, put that **** aside and be present for a friend even if that's celebrating their good **** or giving their problems weight (even if they seem like they're "objectively less" of an issue than my own), if i'm too overwhelmed and lack that capacity then my absence is how i'm a friend to them and taking care of myself

and if someone is burning me out with their problems honestly there's just a point where i'm going to feel drained and i prefer to leave before that point because that point can be really unpleasant all around, add to their **** and mine unnecessarily etc

it's not that i'm being flakey or uncaring or anything i remove myself because i care want to avoid conflict and need breathing room

posted April 20, 2021 10:58 PM            

if i check in then i'm not getting that space, what i'm doing is potentially opening up a conversation i'm not in a good headspace to have

i also won't necessarily answer texts (i'll pick up the phone though if i get a call since that could be an emergency, or if i get a text that there is an emergency then i'll make that effort even if i'm not in a good place because then what's fair is me suspending my needs and just being there whether i'm fully capable or not because in worst case scenarios we don't always get to be prepared or our best etc) like it's just not going to happen

i need 100% space some of the time to be there 100% the rest of the time because 50% all the time doesn't work out very well for anyone

posted April 21, 2021 12:34 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

i don't always tell people if i have problems especially if i've been going through something for a while with no change after a bit i just won't talk about it with most people, even very close friends, because it makes me feel like a downer and ****

i don't pretend to be ok but i just like don't mention it because it's unpleasant and feels unfair to keep going to someone else with my issues even if they say it's ok because everyone has a limit for how much of other people's **** they can have thrust on them and i don't want to hit it
e wanted to be a good friend to you but simultaneously fair to herself

because i do that a lot, where i feel guilty and wonder if meeting my own needs (and sometimes that's being left the **** alone about someone else's problems) is selfish or ok and put myself out repeatedly until i need to pull back and away hard for myself if they continue to take

if you step away from your feelings here and look at the situation were you maybe asking your friend for more than she could give a lot of the time because you were struggling? is it fair to do that? i can love my friends and would do anything i could to help them but sometimes there's nothing i can do and i need to do for me or for them to be considerate and think "maybe today i'll keep things nice"

because i'm the type who will put a conversation that's important for me to have on the backburner for days if the person i want to have it with seems stressed or something even if i'm going through ****

but like if in that timeframe where you needed **** you took beyond a reasonable capacity for your friend without giving back or considering her needs too i just don't see that as her being flakey to step away

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This. My friendships often end to be about putting somebody else’s problems as our mutual priority, and my own problems are to be my own. I’m learning to speak up about my needs and what I don’t like. Before I just waited my turn or assumed they will be here for me when I really need. ( hardly ever) Or, the Universal fairness should reimburse me. Well, there’s little fairness in this world, but Universe is more fair and considering than the most people.

I don’t have time now to read through the whole topic. So I don’t judge or defend anybody here. I have my load of crappy friends histories with different moons. I read Mercury is responsible for friendships. So I blame my Scorpio Mercury and Pluto because my friendships are usually more dramatic than romantic relationships.

I have a friend who could call me to complain for an hour, barely let me talk. When my turn to talk, she needed to go, no time. I ended up putting 30 min timer for our conversations. She mentioned one time why I never call her. I was surprised she noticed. I do text with her much. It’s only how I can handle her.
Lately, she complained how annoying one woman who called her complained, talked too much and later just hung up. Really?! I laughed how some people completely lack of self awareness. Though, she is getting better.

posted April 21, 2021 01:07 AM            

She was a Libra Moon, and she could be that way, and she could also be really opinionated. She was the one who had people's backs, and I loved her for it. I saw people take advantage of her (including family), wanting her to fight for them, and then apologizing to the people she stood up to.

posted April 21, 2021 01:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i'm relatively sure i don't know any tropical libra moons so i can't really say **** about them, i have libra in my chart though so i'm sure we could level with each other or whatever

i've had a couple aqua moon friends though, and we can get along well and all but it's never close, they're fun to just hit up every once in a while and shoot **** and that's about it

i've noticed i just generally don't interact with air moons ever they seem to just come into my life the least (i guess technically there's a gemini moon guy i've been talking to but eh)

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Well, you interact with me, and we can disagree and still be friends.

posted April 21, 2021 01:34 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
@LuckyLeo

i'm not a libra moon but i have a fair amount of libra in my chart (my libra ascendant is conjunct my libra venus and south node) and sometimes i just disappear for a while on friends

i let them know typically but like i can be around a real lot and then just not at all, and sometimes that will go on for a while

sometimes it's at inconvenient times for them, which is unfortunate but it's also typically at a time where i need that balance to be there for myself (and then when i'm done with that i can swing back and be around daily, which i think can kind of throw people off a bit because they get used to me being readily available and then it's like i need a vacation from most humans)

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posted April 21, 2021 01:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Yea, Lucky Leo

You would be surprised how defensive people get when you say anything about their placement. Bottom line--we all have some placements that really run well as in a Ferrari and some that are like a rusty bike

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I would get defensive, because Gemini Moon and Venus tend to be the punching bags of the zodiac. I used to see people telling others to "Run!!" if they were involved with a Gemini Venus, just . Sometimes I wonder what they would think about me, if they looked at my chart, versus who I really am (not having nearly as much fun as they might think).

I have had big issues with one person who claimed to be a Gemini Moon, but I don't know if she told the truth about anything, let alone her chart.

posted April 21, 2021 02:53 AM            

The nice things about Libra Moon (even Sun) are that they’re usually pleasing and like company. They’re always up for meeting new people, checking out new places etc so we can be sociable together. My Sag Moon really likes this.

posted April 21, 2021 08:14 AM            

WHY:

It is a strong Pluto.

I was talking to someone who shrinks when anyone looks cross eyed at him. Also, I was talking to someone else who is the same.The first person has an Unaspected Saggy Mars which is a weak Mars. The second has SUn in the 12th, which is lack of confidence.

I don't take credit for the good things in my chart and try not to put myself down for the hard things or flaws.So much of people are their charts and these are GIVEN to them.

PS I am a Gemini Venus and I love it.
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posted April 21, 2021 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
This. My friendships often end to be about putting somebody else’s problems as our mutual priority, and my own problems are to be my own. I’m learning to speak up about my needs and what I don’t like. Before I just waited my turn or assumed they will be here for me when I really need. ( hardly ever) Or, the Universal fairness should reimburse me. Well, there’s little fairness in this world, but Universe is more fair and considering than the most people.

I don’t have time now to read through the whole topic. So I don’t judge or defend anybody here. I have my load of crappy friends histories with different moons. I read Mercury is responsible for friendships. So I blame my Scorpio Mercury and Pluto because my friendships are usually more dramatic than romantic relationships.

I have a friend who could call me to complain for an hour, barely let me talk. When my turn to talk, she needed to go, no time. I ended up putting 30 min timer for our conversations. She mentioned one time why I never call her. I was surprised she noticed. I do text with her much. It’s only how I can handle her.
Lately, she complained how annoying one woman who called her complained, talked too much and later just hung up. Really?! I laughed how some people completely lack of self awareness. Though, she is getting better.

Sometimes Libra is just too nice to cut people off. We put distance instead to protect ourselves.
Again, I don’t say it’s related to the story above. Not all Libras are as good as me lol

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yeah it can be really hard to find that balance with needs when it comes to other people

i've definitely had friends exactly like her, one scorpio moon comes to mind in particular, but we're no longer speaking, i care about her still but our last interaction was just... no

the lack of balance made it easy for me to walk away when she crossed a major line for me, so did her doing things like telling me she was jealous of me (i really don't like when people do that, it's so ****** )

but she'd do that same thing you mentioned constantly drop her problems on me and then say things to me about how people who just always bring their problems to someone else should really check in sometimes first to make sure the other person is doing ok (i think she said that to me because i had told her i wasn't doing great then didn't speak after, it was literally just a sentence)

i can't with that ****

@teasel

oh yeah you are a gemini moon 😁 i knew that on some level but i always mix you up in my head as a water moon for some reason

i think because you seem very sensitive to me but in this way that comes across as very watery so i forget

posted April 21, 2021 10:07 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
That's how I've been feeling, but it's more to do with my own mindset. I've been afraid that people think I'm mad at them, but I'm not.

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yeah i don't take that kind of thing personally because i get it and i know people who can be like that aside from myself

posted April 22, 2021 04:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
yeah it can be really hard to find that balance with needs when it comes to other people

i've definitely had friends exactly like her, one scorpio moon comes to mind in particular, but we're no longer speaking, i care about her still but our last interaction was just... no

the lack of balance made it easy for me to walk away when she crossed a major line for me, so did her doing things like telling me she was jealous of me (i really don't like when people do that, it's so ****** )

but she'd do that same thing you mentioned constantly drop her problems on me and then say things to me about how people who just always bring their problems to someone else should really check in sometimes first to make sure the other person is doing ok (i think she said that to me because i had told her i wasn't doing great then didn't speak after, it was literally just a sentence)

i can't with that ****

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posted April 23, 2021 07:47 AM            

i'm bad with lines generally have gotten better but i also get over **** pretty quick is the thing, i can be over an argument in the middle of an argument (might keep going just because i'm already in it though)

posted April 23, 2021 07:53 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
As an Aquarius Moon I can be emotional but it’s mostly in private. I don’t like emotional displays really. We are like humanitarians though when it comes to emotions.

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posted April 23, 2021 09:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Is it true most Aqua Moons are quite detached in romantic relationships, and are able to get over someone, even if they’ve been with them for 5-8 years, relatively quickly? Apparently they can “exit” a relationship months before officially leaving. I’ve also heard about how some can go an entire week without speaking to anyone. What do you think? Are the majority Aqua Moons are rarely interested in monogamy, marriage, & family life 🤔

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i don't have anything in aquarius but there are times i withdraw entirely and speak to absolutely no one and could do it for a week i'm sure, been in open relationships too but that's not necessarily a preference (never had a monogamous relationship to know how i feel about that) just how **** worked out

when my almost 15 year relationship ended i was over it relatively quick, and checked out a while before emotionally in many ways

posted April 23, 2021 09:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i don't have anything in aquarius but there are times i withdraw entirely and speak to absolutely no one and could do it for a week i'm sure, been in open relationships too but that's not necessarily a preference (never had a monogamous relationship to know how i feel about that) just how **** worked out

when my almost 15 year relationship ended i was over it relatively quick, and checked out a while before emotionally in many ways

i'd look at more than just moon sign for that sort of thing

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posted April 23, 2021 11:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Ohh okay, I understand. What’s your Venus Sign?

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posted April 24, 2021 09:48 AM            

If the synastry is good I believe you'd get a better commitment from the Aqua moon.

posted April 24, 2021 10:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
I've lived with both, the Aqua moon experience was un-fun.

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posted April 24, 2021 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Oh no, howcome?!

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Moody. I find Aquas confusing in that way. They crave attention and space at the same time.

In my case it was an older relative in the house growing up. He was a drunk, bully, and though we didn't know it at the time, a bum in the making.