posted May 05, 2021 02:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
Perhaps the moon represents not the mother but how one views the mother.

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This.

posted May 09, 2021 02:26 PM            

Moon conjunct Sun... possible power struggle between the parents.

posted May 10, 2021 01:11 AM            

in my case the sign matters in a sense because my mother and i are both aries moons and our moons conjunct by a couple degrees but my brothers have a sag and leo moon so a bit different (all aspected very differently too)

i get along with my mother the best out of us, but she's the easier parent for all us to interact with in general anyway

moon is a pretty personal placement though, it's more us than someone else in a chart though you do look at the moon to identify things about the mother

posted May 10, 2021 01:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
aspects to the moon not the moon sign itself represent the mother, and also the relationship the mother has to the individual

in my case the sign matters in a sense because my mother and i are both aries moons and our moons conjunct by a couple degrees but my brothers have a sag and leo moon so a bit different (all aspected very differently too)

i get along with my mother the best out of us, but she's the easier parent for all us to interact with in general anyway

moon is a pretty personal placement though, it's more us than someone else in a chart though you do look at the moon to identify things about the mother

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posted May 10, 2021 05:10 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
I wonder why everyone is saying that here? I don't find it true in my case. The sign is more like the relationship with my mother. My moon in Aquarius seems more to describe my relationship with her, which is basically non existent. Im more closer to people on here than I ever will be with her lol
I have no bad aspects to my moon to really accurately represent my relationship to her. I have moon conjunct Jupiter and that does not at all describe how she is in relation to me.

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because it's just what's true in rare cases moon describes the father and sun the mother, but sign isn't a part of this either

you also have your moon touching saturn and pluto, easy aspect but something to consider

also my own closeness with my family is a bit weird, in the sense that i can get along well with them talk often (to my mother and younger brother) but it's mostly jokes and a good deal of my life is completely unknown to them and never will be

things like the extent of my drug use and substance abuse issues (my mother knows about the heroin because my ex told her but after i was already clean and doesn't know about the 15 years of opiate use prior to that, or about all the other drugs i've used) and a good chunk of things i've been through

and she's the parent i'm closest to

there's huge chunks of my life people i've never met know and my family doesn't, a good deal of it, but like they don't need to 🤷‍♀️my moon is aspected by uranus, but it's an easy aspect

possibly why i personally find the disconnect rather comfortable and preferable as it allows me to retain a good relationship with my mother and family without having to deal with things that'd be ultimately unhelpful and uncomfortable and i've been like this since i was a kid

my leo moon younger brother who speaks more about his personal and feels more suffocated when it comes to my parents being controlling has moon square pluto

consider that an aqua moon being rather detached and having some coldness in a relationship (your moon-saturn) would be more comfortable to be left alone the same way an aries moon would rather not deal with anyone putting their **** on me and finding the detachment to be overall positive whereas someone else would find it more harsh

it still shows up, but it's good it works

posted May 13, 2021 07:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
because it's just what's true in rare cases moon describes the father and sun the mother, but sign isn't a part of this either

you also have your moon touching saturn and pluto, easy aspect but something to consider

also my own closeness with my family is a bit weird, in the sense that i can get along well with them talk often (to my mother and younger brother) but it's mostly jokes and a good deal of my life is completely unknown to them and never will be

things like the extent of my drug use and substance abuse issues (my mother knows about the heroin because my ex told her but after i was already clean and doesn't know about the 15 years of opiate use prior to that, or about all the other drugs i've used) and a good chunk of things i've been through

and she's the parent i'm closest to

there's huge chunks of my life people i've never met know and my family doesn't, a good deal of it, but like they don't need to 🤷‍♀️my moon is aspected by uranus, but it's an easy aspect

possibly why i personally find the disconnect rather comfortable and preferable as it allows me to retain a good relationship with my mother and family without having to deal with things that'd be ultimately unhelpful and uncomfortable and i've been like this since i was a kid

my leo moon younger brother who speaks more about his personal and feels more suffocated when it comes to my parents being controlling has moon square pluto

consider that an aqua moon being rather detached and having some coldness in a relationship (your moon-saturn) would be more comfortable to be left alone the same way an aries moon would rather not deal with anyone putting their **** on me and finding the detachment to be overall positive whereas someone else would find it more harsh

it still shows up, but it's good it works

edit: also your moon is conjunct uranus, just noticed that because other thread, so you're overlooking something that makes the disconnect obvious (and so did i because i went to that thread, looked at your chart, said what i did here then noticed your response to me there where you pointed it out lol)

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I feel like my situation is a bit strange. I actually dont think the disconnect is on my part, but my moms part. I am actually really close with my grandma and she is basically my mom. When I was little my mo basically failed to be like an actual mom, she was stuck on my father in a very toxic relationship, too in love to leave him. My father is a whole other issue as well. He was also into drugs from what Ive been told, which is probably why I have an infection as a baby and stopped breathing when I was born.

I am only really close with my grandma though. I find it hard for me to fully open up to others, but I am pretty close to my grandma so I dont think it's that Im unable to get close to people, Im just very selective. I feel like Id be misunderstood or judged by people.
But growing up as a child I would say I was very affectionate and loving towards my grandma. I think another reason Im self conscious with others is because Ive always know my mom to judge me as a child and judge others.

My mom is not the affectionate motherly type. My grandma was that way towards me so by the time I was like 7 I called my grandma mom. Til this day my mom is almost like a stranger to me. I dont feel I can ever open up to her since she's not a very understanding or particularly easy person to talk to.

I think she may have bipolar disorder or something. Even though she is close to my younger sister because she had already split with our father, and hence why she spent more time with her, I notice she still isn't motherly to her. She's not affectionate or tells her she loves her, and that makes their relationship more like a friendship. I dont see her putting her first or sacrificing like a mother would do.

Based on how I was as a child and even now I don't really see myself as someone who prefers to keep a distance, I just find it hard to let my walls down. It takes time. It's not that I dont want to, but Im afraid of being misunderstood or disappointing.

posted May 13, 2021 11:10 AM            

it doesn't have to be on your part for it to be there, often the aspects mean the parent was that way toward you, so her being like that in your life doesn't mean it's your fault at all

sounds like it's her really, i'm sorry you experienced that, i could see how that could lead to walls and being scared of letting other people in

i am glad you had your grandmother though, i worry about that sort of thing for my niece actually because her mother doesn't try (she doesn't even get in touch to see if she's ok) and my father is a single dad but she's very close to my mother

in a way i'm not sure if it's better or worse that her mother is entirely absent because she doesn't have to deal with other things

i'm sorry she was so judgmental too, i have sun square saturn my father was the worse parent in many ways but i dealt with a lot of abuse growing up and a lot of judgment etc so i do get it on some level even though things were very different

it can take time, and a lot of work, but i hope you reach a place of understanding it wasn't you who was to blame for that

you were just a kid and your mom and dad had severe issues you got caught up in, and it doesn't make you defective or anything

i know on some level you probably know that, but knowing it and feeling it are 2 different things and it's hard to not internalize that sort of thing. even you feeling like you're going to be judged by sharing that just... says a lot, but there's nothing to judge you for, you were close to the person who was there for you and you were a kid who wasn't at fault for what you had to grow up with.

sometimes parents aren't the ones you can open up to, and that's ok. if you ever want to repair things with her then that's up to you how far you take it. you don't seem like you're the spiteful or angry type, just like you got used to the distance and it's become what there is and her personality makes it hard to close that. i get that.

some people just aren't good at being parents, it's good that you at least recognize the circumstances of her friendship with your sister are more about what was going on and not about you as a person. does it bother you or do you just feel indifferent?

if you let your walls down and someone else doesn't see the value in that it doesn't mean something is wrong with you just that the two of you might not be right for each other, i know it can be scary to be vulnerable, but it can be ok to be too and i think if someone else knew that you have that difficulty they could be patient

in my experience people are willing to be more present than you'd expect, and will do things to make you feel comfortable and happy etc even if you have difficulty as long as you're open about that

give them a chance to at least know it can be a struggle for you and you'll find people willing to stick around and make you comfortable.

posted May 19, 2021 02:54 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I had a baby this year, a triple Pisces! Sun, Moon, and Venus in Pisces all conjunct Neptune!

Most readings say that the Pisces Moon person was raised in confusion, their mother was a martyr or victim, or addict. Lol I don’t want none of those things for my child. Help!

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I have pisces moon, uhm... my mum ... hmmm

I love her but she always felt like careless, she also felt emotionaly detached and unreasonable lol this might sound severe but i am saying it from an affectionate spot, i wany her to do better for herself but i cant explain to her what shes delusional about, what she does wrong - and because my moon is in 8th house it has to do with her spending and her realestate, her family home that she has legal issues with

I could tell her anything, she did try to play strict parent but i never saw her as one - she would get angry at us sometimes and then shed have isdue controling her anger, bit it was raree

She is fond of using profanities and is a smoker which always bugged me, again more because i think smoking is waste of money than anything else ,moon in 8th lol i guess id realy love to manage her money, i even made economic plans for her to try and save some money, but she dosent listen and finds me foolish, i even told her to put money and house on my name because shes so bad with money and has debts, but she thinks it a conspiracy of mine lol id never take anything from her like that.

Either way your child might find you in need to be guided and protected by it , i felt i need to protect, guide her

But as i said i knew i can tell her anything without any fear - she could not understand some things, for example my sisters anxiety, she was saying like "you are imagining it, it will pass" instead of guidung her to go to therapist - again as i said not the most practical of mums

posted May 19, 2021 04:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Hemilla:
I have pisces moon, uhm... my mum ... hmmm

I love her but she always felt like careless, she also felt emotionaly detached and unreasonable lol this might sound severe but i am saying it from an affectionate spot, i wany her to do better for herself but i cant explain to her what shes delusional about, what she does wrong - and because my moon is in 8th house it has to do with her spending and her realestate, her family home that she has legal issues with

I could tell her anything, she did try to play strict parent but i never saw her as one - she would get angry at us sometimes and then shed have isdue controling her anger, bit it was raree

She is fond of using profanities and is a smoker which always bugged me, again more because i think smoking is waste of money than anything else ,moon in 8th lol i guess id realy love to manage her money, i even made economic plans for her to try and save some money, but she dosent listen and finds me foolish, i even told her to put money and house on my name because shes so bad with money and has debts, but she thinks it a conspiracy of mine lol id never take anything from her like that.

Either way your child might find you in need to be guided and protected by it , i felt i need to protect, guide her

But as i said i knew i can tell her anything without any fear - she could not understand some things, for example my sisters anxiety, she was saying like "you are imagining it, it will pass" instead of guidung her to go to therapist - again as i said not the most practical of mums

My brothers moon is in 11th in taurus, i bet he finds her completly dif than me and my sister with our moons in pisces do lol

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idk my brothers and i all have different moons with different aspects but all have the same view of our mother generally (the good and bad)

posted May 19, 2021 06:49 PM            

My daughters- oldest has Gemini moon conjunct Saturn, trine Mars, widely opposite Pluto. We do have that relationship- intellectual, a lot of discussion and communication, a lot of stewarding on my part. And I push her. I am the disciplinarian.

Other one has Sag moon, square Sun, square Uranus (T square), and square Mercury. We are very close, very bonded, but it is most definitely a stormy relationship too. We can push each other's buttons like no other, but it blows over quickly and is soon back to companionship. I definitely have become very much a Sag square Uranus hallmark over the past few years to her bcs of a divorce and needing to go back to work. I definitely march to the beat of my own drum.

posted May 20, 2021 04:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
idk my brothers and i all have different moons with different aspects but all have the same view of our mother generally (the good and bad)

they're a leo moon and a sag moon and i have aries moon we all agree about the annoying **** and the good **** 🤷‍♀️just different relationships with her

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You are all same element moons tho

posted May 20, 2021 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Hemilla:

You are all same element moons tho

My bfothers moon is earth and mine water -it might change perspective, he does find her more stable than i do, he counts on her help more than i do, i find i need to help HER etc

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same element but still very different moons, way different aspects too

my aries moon is conjunct my descendant/north node, opposite my ascendant/venus/south node, trine my mercury, trine my uranus, square my mars/ic (i have a very loose mars/ic conjunction, the other orbs are very tight) square my midheaven

my older brother's sag moon is sextile his sun, square his nodes and ascendant/descendant axis (he has his south node on his ascendant like i do) square his jupiter (out of sign though), and trine his mars

my younger brother's leo moon is trine his sun/ascendant, conjunct jupiter, square pluto, biquintile mercury