posted June 03, 2021 09:08 PM            

I have no idea why Im like this, nothing in my chart indicates this. But it's a very frustrating cycle.

On one hand if I don't have someone to dream about, life feels bland, but than if I do I end up unhealthily thinking about him and I end up comparing myself to other girls, I know it's toxic.
But it's like I cant shake it.

I dont know what to do. I get stuck on a guy I only want him, and I literally have to just let it die out.

Also too I look up our synastry and a lot of times it will be good and Im like whyyyyy?! It makes me even more sad. Pathetic I know. What do you guys suggest? How can I maybe do this in a healthy way without losing my insecurity or sadness because I have no chance with him?

posted June 03, 2021 09:13 PM            

Maybe you guys can just roast him for me!? Do me a favor and make me feel like Id be better off without him LOL

posted June 04, 2021 05:25 PM            

How old are you, if you don't mind?

In my teen years, I was often daydreaming too but since my parents didn't allow their children to have a phone or to watch unnecessary uneducated things in TV (we only allowed watching morning & night news, OPRAH, and cartoon in the morning, weekend or holiday), I didn't really into celebrity daydreaming because I didn't really know who at that time. How did I survive in a friendship with all of them talking about their celebrity crush? That's why I was known as a quiet because I actually didn't understand what they were talking about, all I knew was all heavy topics (news & Oprah)..

I am embarrassed to admit that I was often daydreaming about a prince with his white horse coming to safe me to see the world or Doraemon's Anywhere Door so I could escape for awhile from home lol

I also didn't really seek a relationship or developed a feeling to the opposite sec since my parent didn't allow their children to have a relationship until graduating from college. But when I hit 16 or 17, I had a huge crush with my senior, a Pisces man. He looked manly and confident but I fell for his humorous side (he has moon in Gemini, mars in Sagittarius, and Venus in Aries). Since I was too afraid to break my parent's rules, I just admired him for a far and kept continuing daydreaming about Doraemon's Anywhere Door, like, those door was very addicted to think about, like, imagine if the door is real.. Wow it will never be happened lol

This is a weird fact that I found with venus in Pisces, if the venus in Pisces likes someone, the more you tell them about how bad the person they like while at the same time the person still shows some little kindness, the venus in Pisces has a hard time to hate the person or even to dislike. It needs numerous thousands, hundreds times, or maybe forever of heart broken then the question will never be questioned anymore..

Venus in Pisces is really need to:

- Learn to put boundaries, example: if you know you can't have the guy, you like it? Ok, fine, but don't make yourself keep falling. Draw a boundary. Maybe it's not your time, believe that there will be a time there's this available guy you can have.

- Don't chase, let everything flow as it is. But don't be too passive either.

- Erase idealism from your head, especially about the relationship/lover, it will often lead to more disappointment. Keep your head in a more realistic view.

- Practice to protect your own self, as this venus is so sensitive and fragile especially about relationship/love thing.

- Avoid daydreaming often about relationship/love, keep busy

posted June 06, 2021 10:10 AM            

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The thing is I feel more alive and happy when I like a guy, but he always ends up being unattainable to me. Either he's a celebrity, or a guy who lives in another country, or maybe Im not his type.

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Honestly this sounds like dissociation and even like an escapist style addiction.

posted June 08, 2021 03:18 AM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
Wow.. I have venus in Pisces too.

How old are you, if you don't mind?

In my teen years, I was often daydreaming too but since my parents didn't allow their children to have a phone or to watch unnecessary uneducated things in TV (we only allowed watching morning & night news, OPRAH, and cartoon in the morning, weekend or holiday), I didn't really into celebrity daydreaming because I didn't really know who at that time. How did I survive in a friendship with all of them talking about their celebrity crush? That's why I was known as a quiet because I actually didn't understand what they were talking about, all I knew was all heavy topics (news & Oprah)..

I am embarrassed to admit that I was often daydreaming about a prince with his white horse coming to safe me to see the world or Doraemon's Anywhere Door so I could escape for awhile from home lol

I also didn't really seek a relationship or developed a feeling to the opposite sec since my parent didn't allow their children to have a relationship until graduating from college. But when I hit 16 or 17, I had a huge crush with my senior, a Pisces man. He looked manly and confident but I fell for his humorous side (he has moon in Gemini, mars in Sagittarius, and Venus in Aries). Since I was too afraid to break my parent's rules, I just admired him for a far and kept continuing daydreaming about Doraemon's Anywhere Door, like, those door was very addicted to think about, like, imagine if the door is real.. Wow it will never be happened lol

This is a weird fact that I found with venus in Pisces, if the venus in Pisces likes someone, the more you tell them about how bad the person they like while at the same time the person still shows some little kindness, the venus in Pisces has a hard time to hate the person or even to dislike. It needs numerous thousands, hundreds times, or maybe forever of heart broken then the question will never be questioned anymore..

Venus in Pisces is really need to:

- Learn to put boundaries, example: if you know you can't have the guy, you like it? Ok, fine, but don't make yourself keep falling. Draw a boundary. Maybe it's not your time, believe that there will be a time there's this available guy you can have.

- Don't chase, let everything flow as it is. But don't be too passive either.

- Erase idealism from your head, especially about the relationship/lover, it will often lead to more disappointment. Keep your head in a more realistic view.

- Practice to protect your own self, as this venus is so sensitive and fragile especially about relationship/love thing.

- Avoid daydreaming often about relationship/love, keep busy

That's what I'm thinking of about at the moment, maybe I'll add later if there is a good one..

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Im 24 I probably seem like a teen lol

posted June 08, 2021 03:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
You should read this - https://livingwithlimerence.com/how-to-get-rid-of-limerence/

What you should be looking at is your natal and why you are susceptible to this. Roasting him is not the right thing to do.

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posted June 08, 2021 03:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Amoranthaniela:
Honestly this sounds like dissociation and even like an escapist style addiction.

The only thing to do is learn to face life in a healthy way.

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posted June 08, 2021 03:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
It might be an addiction. Probably, the best advice I’ve read is to restrict and minimize Neptunian time (when you think about it). As with other drugs or good things, if you just cut it off, you will have withdrawal side effects and feel empty.
Celebrities and art might be a good utilizing of this energy. When you start to crush on a real person the same way you do for celebrities is the worst. Celebrities can handle it better lol
Just don’t forget to live the real life around you and build the real relationships. It might be never that fulfilling and exciting as your Pisces dreams. The aspects to your Venus can make it better or worse. Again, usually art is the best use of this energy.

To get over him: try to get to know him better or try to get him.

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It's true that I do feel like reality can never be as amazing as daydreams; but I still keep being hopeful like a fool! I just want reality to hit me like a brick, and stop being an abnormal person who looks to unavailable guys like what a sad life Im living lol

posted June 08, 2021 07:07 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
It's true that I do feel like reality can never be as amazing as daydreams; but I still keep being hopeful like a fool! I just want reality to hit me like a brick, and stop being an abnormal person who looks to unavailable guys like what a sad life Im living lol

I really wish our daydreams could become reality. I know it won't but it's hard not to be bothered on how life cant be like our day dreams. Real life is so so dull and sad in comparison

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i think real life is pretty ******* interesting, but i'm not one for daydreams and i rarely ever feel particularly attached to anyone for more than a little while

posted June 08, 2021 10:27 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Hi guys. Im in a dilemma. I always seem to fall for guys I cant have. I end up sad and heart broken because I invest too much of my time on daydreaming about him.
So I tell myself that I shouldn't, but then if I dont I feel empty and don't feel alive.
The thing is I feel more alive and happy when I like a guy, but he always ends up being unattainable to me. Either he's a celebrity, or a guy who lives in another country, or maybe Im not his type.

I have no idea why Im like this, nothing in my chart indicates this. But it's a very frustrating cycle.

On one hand if I don't have someone to dream about, life feels bland, but than if I do I end up unhealthily thinking about him and I end up comparing myself to other girls, I know it's toxic.
But it's like I cant shake it.

I dont know what to do. I get stuck on a guy I only want him, and I literally have to just let it die out.

Also too I look up our synastry and a lot of times it will be good and Im like whyyyyy?! It makes me even more sad. Pathetic I know. What do you guys suggest? How can I maybe do this in a healthy way without losing my insecurity or sadness because I have no chance with him?

I find it hard for me to face reality, am very stuck on idealism that I just dont want to face the reality of myself and what's around me, so when I do it gets really sad. This includes my love interests.

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I totally understand. I have a lot of Pisces in my chart, Moon, rising, Venus etc. And I can get this way too. Like some other people have mentioned, Art is a fantastic way to deal, or writing, maybe even dancing. I've found fighting against it to make it worse for the most part, so I've just decided to allow things like that to happen. I'll let it run it's course while at the same time I acknowlege that it's not reality.

Like I'll listen to music and fantasize about whatever and then when I'm done I just remind myself that it's not real. Personally I need to fantasize sometimes, if only to just let my imagination be free for a moment and not judge myself too hard over what it's about. Do I ever allow those dreams to determine what type of person my crush is, or control my life? No. Will I ever admit doing this to said person. Absolutely not. But for myself it's just something I allow to happen until it has run its course.

Balance is key, maybe write a poem expressing your feelings. If you need to, write multiple. Either way find a way to express those feelings so they don't get bottled up in a way that makes you happy.

posted June 08, 2021 11:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i think real life is pretty ******* interesting, but i'm not one for daydreams and i rarely ever feel particularly attached to anyone for more than a little while

all your pisces stuff implies this though 🤷‍♀️

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What do you mean you don’t feel attached for more than a little while?!👿 I was going to have a crush on you! You cannot move on quicker than me! In my crush rule book, you cannot be completely unavailable. Damn, Uranian people and Uranus in 7th.

posted June 08, 2021 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
What do you mean you don’t feel attached for more than a little while?!👿 I was going to have a crush on you! You cannot move on quicker than me! In my crush rule book, you cannot be completely unavailable. Damn, Uranian people and Uranus in 7th.

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😁 i just mean people come and go, just how life is, there are people who i feel attached to for a long time though it's just rare

when i do connect very deeply with someone it means a lot to me and even in their absence the feelings remain and there are people i do keep in touch with for a long time

posted June 08, 2021 01:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
😁 i just mean people come and go, just how life is, there are people who i feel attached to for a long time though it's just rare

when i do connect very deeply with someone it means a lot to me and even in their absence the feelings remain and there are people i do keep in touch with for a long time

don't worry babe i'm available 😉 just up to life how it goes 💜

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posted June 08, 2021 01:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:

You scored couple of your points back.😉 You need to review Virgo Neptune guidelines, and we could have a chance 💃

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posted June 08, 2021 02:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
can't just wing it and see how that goes? i'm no good with guidelines 🥺

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posted June 08, 2021 02:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
I’ll find you pills for your ADHD. Mine aren’t that fun as yours, but Virgo know the good medicine 🧬 🤓

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those really aren't any fun lol i've had adderall before a waitress i worked with gave it to me years ago

zero recreational value, all it did was make it so there weren't any songs stuck in my head, and i didn't really care that i was doing boring **** 🤷‍♀️ didn't even have to make up games to make passing time more interesting just didn't give a ****

posted June 08, 2021 08:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
those really aren't any fun lol i've had adderall before a waitress i worked with gave it to me years ago

zero recreational value, all it did was make it so there weren't any songs stuck in my head, and i didn't really care that i was doing boring **** 🤷‍♀️ didn't even have to make up games to make passing time more interesting just didn't give a ****

it was like everything was extra boring even my own head but it made me apathetic about it so i didn't feel bored i was just aware of how boring **** was

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posted June 08, 2021 09:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
l
Welcome to the real world which is generally boring 😊
When I tried a heavy prescription stuff (I don’t remember what exactly it was) it made me feel like depressed, but still functioning and efficient. Adderall and similar things are probably overkill if you aren’t trying to get serious about this life or completely screwed up. One guy said he went through IT degree popping these. And he did it only for that purpose.
I’m getting also songs or something else stuck in my head, it could be pretty annoying sometimes.

“make up games to make passing time more interesting” - I need to try this, or that’s how I’ve got my crushes usually lol

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pretty sure the real world is all the crazy interesting **** under the surface 😁 depends on how you look at it i guess

i took it because i was told it could have recreational value, and like cocaine it just did nothing for me

i appreciate the songs in my head i have a pretty good memory for them/auditory imagination (i have zero visual imagination though, i can't picture things at all) so i can replay them in there well

so when it's intentional recollection it's cool, when it's **** just stuck in there that can be bad though, had a week of baby shark before that was terrible, and almost 3 weeks of karma chameleon once which was also pretty bad 🤷‍♀️

if i had it right now i'd probably just be doing what i've been doing anyway and play touhou thousand night anamnesis thisgame on my phone for way too long

i'm like a little kid with **** like that, have to entertain myself

i had gotten pretty good at playing that game where you put your hand flat and you pass something sharp through the spaces and hope you don't stab yourself in that restaurant

used to have ice fights with the bussers and play garbage can basketball with one of the dishwashers etc

did stuff like that at my last job too, well different games because healthcare facility but still 🤷‍♀️

posted June 10, 2021 11:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i'm like a little kid with **** like that, have to entertain myself

i had gotten pretty good at playing that game where you put your hand flat and you pass something sharp through the spaces and hope you don't stab yourself in that restaurant

used to have ice fights with the bussers and play garbage can basketball with one of the dishwashers etc

did stuff like that at my last job too, well different games because healthcare facility but still 🤷‍♀️

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Here’s an Avril’s song on the subject http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sXd2WxoOP5g

Because you’re Aries moon with Libra. 😊A thing about Aries moons, they’re not boring. That’s why I can tolerate their jerkiness somewhat.
My coworkers have never been that fun. Usually, the majority of the entertainment I’ve gotten is some unreasonable power struggles. I guess Pluto sq. Mc. Even when I did work what was supposed to be stupid and fun, it ended up to be not easy and not a fun.
Actually, I have hard Uranus and Jupiter. I need to be careful because when I start to have fun and play, it might not end up well 🤪

Karma Chameleon could be a lifelong soundtrack. When I like a song, I could get sick from it later if it’s too much in my head. I have pretty good memory for songs also, but It could be concerning when I cannot memorize something like names of people around me, probably, because the songs and some other stupid things take a big part of my operational memory.

posted June 10, 2021 10:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
Here’s an Avril’s song on the subject http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sXd2WxoOP5g

Because you’re Aries moon with Libra. 😊A thing about Aries moons, they’re not boring. That’s why I can tolerate their jerkiness somewhat.
My coworkers have never been that fun. Usually, the majority of the entertainment I’ve gotten is some unreasonable power struggles. I guess Pluto sq. Mc. Even when I did work what was supposed to be stupid and fun, it ended up to be not easy and not a fun.
Actually, I have hard Uranus and Jupiter. I need to be careful because when I start to have fun and play, it might not end up well 🤪

Karma Chameleon could be a lifelong soundtrack. When I like a song, I could get sick from it later if it’s too much in my head. I have pretty good memory for songs also, but It could be concerning when I cannot memorize something like names of people around me, probably, because the songs and some other stupid things take a big part of my operational memory.

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never liked her music, always thought she was cute like her teeth and face

oh yeah i can definitely be fun/good company (i'm humble too) that's one thing that's always helped me out jobs and whatnot

i tend to have experiences like that in work situations, lot of huggy coworkers and bosses too people who get happy to see me show up for a shift and **** i find a good balance between talking and playing games and ******* off to do my own thing and giving people space that seems to be appreciated

i also am good at staying calm when **** gets stressful and laughing at bad situations which helps a lot

i would hope karma chameleon isn't a lifelong soundtrack, the thing with songs that just get stuck in my head are that i don't have to like them which can be pretty unfortunate

things just trigger them, like i can't spell bananas without getting hollaback girl stuck in there (and i ******* hate that song, along with fergalicious which is another one my brain will torture me with that i hate) or it's a spontaneous thing

my head's top played song is probably you're the best from the karate kid 🤷‍♀️ no idea why but yeah

when i actually listen to music or intentionally think on songs though i go with very different **** than what ends up stuck in my head a lot

today's brain songs were the long black veil and worms make dirt and well starships, but starships was due to a funny story i was telling someone about a lady dying at my last job and my coworker having that song playing on her phone

lady started death flailing right when it got to the chorus "starships were mean to fly hands up and touch the sky" held it in while i was in the room but as soon as i got out of there i had to laugh

posted June 13, 2021 01:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
never liked her music, always thought she was cute like her teeth and face

oh yeah i can definitely be fun/good company (i'm humble too) that's one thing that's always helped me out jobs and whatnot

i tend to have experiences like that in work situations, lot of huggy coworkers and bosses too people who get happy to see me show up for a shift and **** i find a good balance between talking and playing games and ******* off to do my own thing and giving people space that seems to be appreciated

i also am good at staying calm when **** gets stressful and laughing at bad situations which helps a lot

i would hope karma chameleon isn't a lifelong soundtrack, the thing with songs that just get stuck in my head are that i don't have to like them which can be pretty unfortunate

things just trigger them, like i can't spell bananas without getting hollaback girl stuck in there (and i ******* hate that song, along with fergalicious which is another one my brain will torture me with that i hate) or it's a spontaneous thing

my head's top played song is probably you're the best from the karate kid 🤷‍♀️ no idea why but yeah

when i actually listen to music or intentionally think on songs though i go with very different **** than what ends up stuck in my head a lot

today's brain songs were the long black veil and worms make dirt and well starships, but starships was due to a funny story i was telling someone about a lady dying at my last job and my coworker having that song playing on her phone

lady started death flailing right when it got to the chorus "starships were mean to fly hands up and touch the sky" held it in while i was in the room but as soon as i got out of there i had to laugh

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I don’t like much her most popular songs, but I do several of hers. Also, I like hollaback girl. When I recall songs based on trigger words is not that bad. When I get a person or an experience attaching to a song is a much worse.

I had somebody died in my presence. I tried to pretend I’m not there so that experience wouldn’t have much traumatizing effect on my nervous system. My sense of humor could be pretty weird and creepy, but you’re outdoing me here with Starship story.