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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
The Mars in Cancer women I know are into men who are classically considered "macho men" i.e. muscular, well built and "sexy" (in a gym kinda way). I would think that this may possibly be linked to the ideal that women are said to have had in the past? Broad shoulders and an imposing physique? This because women found a man who is able to be physical and protect them against the elements of nature (wild animals and related threats)as safe and therefore by extension "attractive".
The desire to procreate with such men would be heightened. Knowing that during pregnancy and perceived heightened vulnerability, she would be shielded and protected. Cared and loved that much more. And he would would be "gentle" with her as the carrier of his "seed".
So this whole situation can be arousing. The act of leaving something "in" the womb that bonds the two people together forever? Cancer loves the "ties that bind". And this extends to men too.
There is a Cancer Ven guy i knew in high school who would say isht like "that's my baby momma" to a girl he liked. This before it became a generic term that's used now. His idea of the ultimate act of affection was to make a baby with someone he thought he loved. So he'd even go on to say (to those females ) "I want you to have my kids."
In a way, there is somethimg arousing about giving ones "essence" to another. And it doesn't necessarily equate to the manifestation of a baby. Gay men talk about getting the other guy "preg" , giving him their "seed" or "babies" etc. When they mean that they want to hit it raw. This because its perceived to be more intimate. And gay men (contrary to popular belief) crave intimacy very deeply. This even as they equally fear and avoid it by casual hookups☝🏿
There is something intimate about the exchange of liquid that bonds two together. This even if its momentary. It feels all encompassing and "forever" for that moment.
But don't be fooled. Whilst guys and girls with Cancer placements may be aroused by making a baby (this especially Cancer Ven/Mars men ime), their perspectives are different.
For women, the arousal is towards security and the longer term tender care that they expect will be there when they make a family with the man.
For men,the arousal is more about NOW. Getting one's rocks off. There is ofcourse the idealism of the "family unit" in the future. But that tends to seriously lag way behind when the satisfaction of giving you their seed "now" is satisfied.
In other words, men tend to romanticize the idea of having a family. Not really fully appreciating what all that means in real life terms. If you don't trust me, ask couples who were inlove and would use words like "i want to make a baby with you" as part of foreplay, how they feel now when that bundle of "joy" arrives?
Is the passion still there? Many times it isn't. Babies(4th house status change) tend to kill romance (5th house). That's because the 4th house of "home/diapers/nurturing a child" is 12th(loss)from the 5thhouse of pleasure, fun and sex of the moment.