posted December 15, 2021 12:30 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I had a feeling before I even finished reading your post it would be a Cap Moon.... but the Sun Mars DW Opp is tough too.

Being a Cap Moon with a lot of 10th house activity, I cannot separate work and friendship well. How you behave at work is how I define my regard of you, and it will affect the friendship. I can still like you if I disagree with your tactics, but it will limit the friendship. Even people I don't work with yet have friendship or close relationships with are people I admire for their work ethics.

But the Cap Moon part I guessed based on your describing their delivery method. It's hard sometimes to be that person, and I see how others receive it (sometimes not well).

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Yes.I wouldn't want to "change" him.And you are correct.He does have friends at work.But i think that they are not as emotionally involved with him beyond business relations.

posted December 15, 2021 02:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
[b]@ Dumuzi & Librapurr

It may look like I am being this ungrateful c***t. Technically, I am not throwing our friendship away at all.

What I am saying is that in this particular context, our closeness will cool off. This so that my emotions don't interfere with us working together.

I talked to him about it , stated my case and he responded with "do what you think is best". So, I am not sure whether he was really meaning what he said or was like "whatever man"? Cant tell. Right now he and I are not in a good space.

Perhaps when we have more distance at work we can reconnect? I can't say. But for now, a little detachment on my part is best. I am too in my feels about this. I need to breathe again. [/B]

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posted December 17, 2021 08:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
It’s good you can communicate it to him. As long as you both know where it comes from…Detachment could be helpful for relationships even it might sound the opposite.
It’s often hard psychologically to adjust to a new work environment and might take a long time. Good luck.

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posted December 17, 2021 08:51 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
Thank you for your reply.

I agree that it’s better to take a bit of distance if you notice you keep running in the same circles over and over again. Friendships can change over time. If you’ve tried different approaches but it didn’t work then distancing probably is the best option.

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