posted December 02, 2022 01:30 PM            

My Cancer Venus is in the 1st House near my Ascending degree, and though I was single & a virgin until turning 22, I believe this placement, along with it’s 0 degree conjunction to my Cancer Mars, has made me a very devoted, loving, & caring person. My first boyfriend is my first crush since Christmas 2012 😊

posted December 03, 2022 07:55 PM            

Well, my Venus is in 12H and trine my Saturn. Its primarily the earth focal point in my chart.

In contrast to, my firey Mars that is easier to access as it's most heavily aspected to my air dominant lights (Su/Mo).

When I am in love I do become very practical and serious, but I also turn into a bit of a sloppy, dreamy dependent mess because it's in my 12H.

Because my Mars is better connected to the rest of my chart, when my Venus is activated I have trouble accessing the more assertive and extroverted elements in my chart via my mars.

posted December 04, 2022 01:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
And perhaps even made you who you are today

My Cancer Venus is in the 1st House near my Ascending degree, and though I was single & a virgin until turning 22, I believe this placement, along with it’s 0 degree conjunction to my Cancer Mars, has made me a very devoted, loving, & caring person. My first boyfriend is my first crush since Christmas 2012 😊

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Yeah, Cancer attractions can linger on for years. Cancer really doesn't forget who they liked or crushed on. So this makes sense.

Have you noticed that in your life- in this case also by extension your love life(since Ven is in house 1) ,that things "loop" back around?

What I mean by that is that Cancer energy works in circular motion I.e. its cyclical in essence and like a clock, events seem more synchronised or systematic than "random"?

So the "what goes around, comes back around " energy can be felt on a visceral level by Cancer placement people. As they are most sensitive to repetition, Dejavu or related events where something feels "familiar" or "inevitable" in its effect.

Maybe people that you knew way back when who made an impression on you, tend to come up again around later in life as if they were "fated" to?

Many Cancer people (particularly those with Moon, Sun or Asc) tend to have these "merry go around " things I speak of in their lives. They meet people they once knew from high school.Or recognize from some distant past.

Venus in Cancer for instance (I have noticed) tends to regurgitate past loves I.e. have a baby with an ex or be unable to completely detach from them in some way (for a long time). Tom Brady (Ven in Can) had a baby with an ex . They had relations AFTER breaking up.🤔

posted December 04, 2022 03:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Venus/Sat conj in 8th. Long periods of dead silence. Then Boom! Random attractions happen. Lately however it's more like I have been attracting more than attracted 🤔.

The random people attracted to me (like clock work)are the usual suspects I.e. Uranus strong people. And Mars strong people.🤷🏿‍♂️

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OMG!! We are quiet similar!! My Venus conjunct Saturn in 9th house (Aquarius), Long periods of dead silence and YES!! Boom! Random attractions happen. I met this guy in my country during my Saturn return and during transit Saturn conjunct my natal Venus. The first time I saw him I was like "this is it, he's the one and I want to get to know him so much" only to found out later that he flying back to his country in 3 days.... CRIES

posted December 04, 2022 04:47 AM            

I am very generous in relationships (Jupiter), I take good care of the people close to me. I enjoy providing and paying bills. You’ll never be cold or hungry with me (Taurus). But I don’t let many people come close, I’m very guarded (8th house). I feel vulnerable in relationships, it’s difficult for me to walk away once I’ve committed. Luckily, I don’t feel a strong need to be in a relationship. I’m very independent and enjoy following my own interests (Uranus). After the divorce it has been very easy for me to build my own life again. But it’s going to take more time to get over my broken heart.

posted December 04, 2022 06:29 AM            

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Originally posted by MissBo24:
OMG!! We are quiet similar!! My Venus conjunct Saturn in 9th house (Aquarius), Long periods of dead silence and YES!! Boom! Random attractions happen. I met this guy in my country during my Saturn return and during transit Saturn conjunct my natal Venus. The first time I saw him I was like "this is it, he's the one and I want to get to know him so much" only to found out later that he flying back to his country in 3 days.... CRIES

We keep in touch on social media and still talk. I flew to see him after 10 months but honestly I don't know how to over come distance to be close to him, I guess Saturn never let you have a smooth love life.

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Neither Sat nor Ura let you have it in a straightforward way. And you are blessed with both(as Ura is the co-ruler of Aqu) So when you spoke of travelling long-distance, I immediately made the connection to Ura.

With Sat-Ven,it's like nothing impresses u. And this can go on for a long, long, time. Like u are dislodged from the Venusian part of u. But when something is aroused, because it's been so long and so dry. It can feel intense and serious. Hence the whole "this is the one" thing you felt for the guy.

But Saturn tends towards slow burn and not impulsive love. So even with that being the case, there are usually interruptions/delays that throw a spanner in the works. And you find yourself back to being alone (or feeling "alone")😐.

I don't know if Sat-Ven is supposed to teach its natal chart holders "The art of being alone even when not"? But we certainly learn it- one way or the other.

Because even if distance wasn't an issue, you would have maybe come to discover just how different you two are on a core level. And how difficult it is to pair yourselves together in a mutually agreeable way.

So perhaps the distance is a blessing? Because you two are so focused on each other from a "holistic" level and worrying about when next you'll see each other? And how best to make use of that time together? Etc. That you don't fight about the small details of attraction to each other?🤷🏿‍♂️

Physical intimacy is ofcourse always compromised. And issues of jealousy can be easily aroused because you are not always available to each other when the other "calls" etc.

I met an Aqua and (same as you) the attraction to them was strong. This was years ago btw. Anywho, I realized the Aqua was only seeing me from a sexual perspective I.e. they thought me "sexy" and "hot". And into objectification of my body etc.

So I realized that the attraction was to an immature person altogether & couldn't follow it through.This wasn't a classic "delay"per se,but more of a "this is
discontinued" -which can also happen with this aspect.

posted December 04, 2022 06:55 AM            

Venus-Uranus opposition is often intense attractions. Then drifting apart to the point of separation. I have also seen this work out with Uranus- Ven conj.

But with Uranus-Venus there is also the potential for the attraction for the same person to build up all over again after the divorce 🤷🏿‍♂️

Elizabeth Taylor (Ven-Uran conj IN Aries) married ans divorced Richard Burton twice.

Pam Anderson Married Rick Salomon twice. And divorced him twice. Rick has Venus in Sag exact square to Uranus in Virgo.

Dionne Warwick married Sam Elliott twice and divorced him twice. Ven/Mars conj on Sco opp Ura/Moon in Tau.

posted December 04, 2022 10:43 AM            

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@PlutoWasHere
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But with Uranus-Venus there is also the potential for the attraction for the same person to build up all over again after the divorce 🤷🏿‍♂️
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posted December 04, 2022 12:55 PM            

I shudder at the sheer thought of going back to an ex! I can honestly swear that it will NEVER happen!

I am aloof and detached but extremely caring in a relationship. I am also independent and need to do my sh1t when I want to do it. I am able to dicuss "better planning" but I will start to panic if I feel, in any way, hindered.

posted December 05, 2022 12:20 AM            

Do you think Sat-Venus want us to learn how to set boundaries when in love and relationship? Like to know what we truly deserve in a relationship and to have courage to walk away when something doesn’t serve us or when we are not treated in the way we want to be treated?

posted December 05, 2022 04:37 AM            

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Cancer Venus 11H
-square Uranus 3
-conjunct Saturn 11H
-opposite Moon 5H
-sextile Jupiter 9H

I shudder at the sheer thought of going back to an ex! I can honestly swear that it will NEVER happen!

I am aloof and detached but extremely caring in a relationship. I am also independent and need to do my sh1t when I want to do it. I am able to dicuss "better planning" but I will start to panic if I feel, in any way, hindered.

I guess my detachment has caused som issues in the past..I've gotten it explained to me that I am hard to trust and hard to pin down. I guess both could be true but it's entirely up to how you treat me as well. I need freedom to come and go as I please, freedom of speech and freedom to think. Some people are not comfortable with this and find me unstable. If you're a cat person you will get along with me ie *I* come to you and *I* will stay with you, as long as I feel like it

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Charlie, that's a t-square with your Moon. Have you ever been involved with someone who opposes your Uranus and makes a grand square?

Or, do you have a thing for the sign opposite your Uranus.

posted December 05, 2022 01:50 PM            

Listing my most significant relationships:

1. Gemini man with Aquarius Jupiter in the 4th house, Cancer Mars conjunct my Cancer Venus. His Venus opposite Pluto

2. Sagittarius man with Scorpio Pluto in the 4th, his DC in Aquarius, his Sun exactly square my moon. His capricorn moon sextile Pluto

3. Cancer Man (his sun conjunct my venus) with Jupiter in the 4th. His moon conjunct Pluto.

4. Leo man with Pisces Jupiter in the 4th, moon in Aquarius conjunct my DC. His moon square Pluto

* All of them have an empty 11th house but a strong 4th house and a strong connection from moon to Pluto. (I think the latter is because my own sun/pluto opposition attracted them).

I definitely see a pattern of 4th house being repeated in their charts.

My relationship with number 2 and 4 was the smoothest, I fell the hardest for number 1. And with number 3 the breakup was the HARDEST.

I am in touch with all of them with the exception of number 1 (we had a few bad saturn aspects in the synastry and composite). So I would say there is definitely the need to make friends first and also stay friends. DC in Aqua is basically like Venus/Saturn or Venus/Uranus, and Venus in the 11th also places a lot value on friends.

posted December 05, 2022 09:08 PM            

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Great thread!

Well, my Venus is trine my Saturn. Its primarily the earth focal point in my chart.

In contrast to, my firey Mars that is easier to access as it's most heavily aspected to my air dominant lights (Su/Mo).

Someone at sometime on a LL thread somewhere, said something about, when Venus is activated in love, it's becomes receptive (of course because it's Venus) and get's turned on (not meaning sexually). But can actually lay quite dormant until then.

Which is really interesting to highlight, incidentally. And applies to all the planets for sure.

Anyhooo... when I am in love I turn into a sloppy, dreamy (12H), non-functioning dependent mess. Because my Mars is better connected to the rest of my chart, and when my Venus is activated I have trouble accessing the more assertive elements in my chart.

I'm basically two people. I'm a bit screwed when I fall in love. I am a work in progress

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posted December 14, 2022 03:10 AM            

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Originally posted by MissBo24:
@Aries23Degrees

Do you think Sat-Venus want us to learn how to set boundaries when in love and relationship? Like to know what we truly deserve in a relationship and to have courage to walk away when something doesn’t serve us or when we are not treated in the way we want to be treated?

Cause in my case the foreign guy I talked about, I like him a lot and I wish things wouldn’t be this hard between us ( the distance, personality, compatibility) but this guy always leave me on delivered for days. I confronted him about this and told him that he made me feel like he doesn’t care about me and he said sorry he cares! I don’t mind if he gonna go MIA but at least let me know and he promised to do better. But after a week then he did again!! I have come to realize that THIS IS JUST WHO HE IS!!! So I know that I want consistency but this guy is clearly not!!! So in my case no matter how much I like him and want to make this work, I know I deserve better and I deserve someone who prioritizes me and its better to walk away even I don’t want to. You think this is what Sat-Venus is trying to teach me?

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I think that Saturn on Venus is boundaries for sure. But these boundaries are for us i.e. for us to manage expectations and to be reasonable in matters that Saturn touches. In this instance relationships and love(Ven).

Saturn by orbit takes 28/30 years to get back to your Saturn birth position. It is the slowest planet by motion that can be reasonably expected to orbit your natal planets more than twice in this lifetime.

It is a planet of slow progress,caution and conservatism. And though I wouldn't say it's against emotions per se, but it is more drawn to the overall consistency of where the peaks and troughs of those "unpredictable" emotions lead you to. Because even in those emotions ,Saturn recognises a pattern.

Notice how when we have gotten so angry with someone and sworn them out of our lives etc. That after we have calmed down and made apologies, we no longer feel the way we did?

Now imagine if Saturn took our emotional outburst literally and built sturdy walls? Then we'd be spending years breaking down walls we built up on an emotional "whim".

Luckily Saturn is the buffer of time that LOA speaks of between what you feel you want(Moon) and what manifests (Sat) .

This buffer of time serves you because it clarifies what you really want so that when the manifestation arrives, it is not something undesirable. Because as we know, manifestations are difficult to undo. And we (as humans) change our minds so often about what we want🤷🏿‍♂️

Typically Ven/Sat conj people (square and opp too) may have lessons surrounding the moderating or modification of expectations in the area of life Venus rules.

So my thinking is that (in your case) there is another aspect position at play that is triggering the defensive response of wanting to cut this person out for not responding to your messages timeously?

Maybe they are triggering that part of you that knows rejection all too well and your response is "oh no, not me" to that? So your actions are an attempt to self preserve from all of that?

Sat-Ven however is (likely in the background) encouraging you to always be reasonable and examine the choices you make in love. That they will come to some eventualities and crystallization. This whether they are "good" or "bad".

The situation you speak of is familiar to me too. I once met someone with Ven in Aqua and despite my prior knowledge of Aqua Venus' approach to love in Astrology, I found myself acting from a primal hurt point when they didn't engage me in the time or manner that I desired them to.

It's not that they didn't like me or were rejecting me. It's just that they triggered my Moon/Mars /Mercury/Asc T-square that had carried over abandonment issues from childhood that they had unintentionally surfaced.

So my response to them was to cut them off. "They" were wrong. "They" were at fault. "They" ignored me etc. I was reacting from a place of hurt (Moon/ Mars), impulsive, intense and frustrated. Not from Saturn-cautious, reasonable and slow to jump to conclusions.

Years later I found out that the reason for their apparent "distance" at the time , was because they themselves were sorting issues with their own sexuality. It wasn't because they didn't like me. But they just needed more time to learn to trust themselves and be willing to let things unfold.

I didn't know this . That they had never dated a man before. And had I not been so quick to be defensive, assume that everything revolved around me being "rejected" and doing my best to ensure that that doesn't happen etc. I would have slowed down enough to see that their hesitation had little to do with their feelings for me. But their own fears about themselves.

Look to another aspect- perhaps a square/conj to Moon/Sun? Maybe Neptune square to Mars or Chiron aspects natally that serve as a trigger for latent hurt that relationships like these can easily trigger?

posted December 14, 2022 06:51 AM            

I used to like people that were fun (My Mars and my Moon with Uranus). Now I watch out for consistency. Consistency supports my self-esteem and supports my capacity to love in return.

posted December 15, 2022 10:31 AM            

Relationships literally made me or broke me, and let me say I had reached the end of my romantic rope and was ready to embrace singlehood forever. And then I met my amazing husband whose ascendant is exactly conjunct my Venus, and tightly conjunct my sun and moon.

posted December 15, 2022 03:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
Virgo Venus tightly sandwiched between Sun and Moon all in 7th house.

Relationships literally made me or broke me, and let me say I had reached the end of my romantic rope and was ready to embrace singlehood forever. And then I met my amazing husband whose ascendant is exactly conjunct my Venus, and tightly conjunct my sun and moon.

We have double whammy Ascendant conjunct Venus. Mars Trine Venus. Mars Opposite Venus. Our composite Venus is on the ascendant. Divine Gift.

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posted December 15, 2022 04:35 PM            

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You got married? Congratulations!

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posted December 15, 2022 11:19 PM            

We've known each other for about a year and half and he has been inconsistence with communication since day 1 and all I did was telling myself that "okay, calm down, maybe he is busy, just calm down, things will get better." Even when he left me on delivered for 8-14 days for so many times, I gave him a chance, I stayed as calm as I can when I should have blocked him already. And a month ago, we had a talk about whether we want to try long distance and I told him that the only thing I needed from him is him being consistence in communication and he said "YES, I CAN DO THAT." But a week later he left me on delivered again but watched my stories on Instagram and that's when I lost it. His excuse was that when he is not replying doesn't mean he is ignoring. Like for real? You can't find 3 minutes in a day to text me but watch all my stories? Clearly, I am not on his mind at all and its better for me to not waste another minute of my time with someone who doesn't like me as much as I like him and I had tolerated his behavior for over a year already.

Even though I have Venus/Mars in Aquarius but I think Venus conjunct Saturn in my natal makes me take relationship pretty serious and I need someone who takes relationship as serious as I am. I thought he could be the one (serious type) because his Venus/Mars in Capricorn and he has Venus/Mars square Saturn in natal chart. Like we kinda similar right? Anyways, I am not a clingy person and I don't like clingy people but I value consistency and I think communication is the most important. I am fine with long distance and not seeing my boyfriend for months but we have to communicate everyday. Like seriously, I don't even need a phone call just text me. Maybe he was busy and didn't mean to reject me or hurt my feelings but clearly he can't communicate and doesn't want to work on it. And if I let his behavior continues, it will never do any good to my mental health.

I think to me, Venus/Saturn has taught me to really set boundaries. Like know what to want/deserve and if someone shows you who they are since day 1, then believe it. Don't waste your time waiting for someone to change or hope things will get better because it won't. If not, in the end I will be the one who gets hurt the most.