posted January 27, 2023 02:20 AM            

The first one, it depends on the family someone is born in and not so much the chart. But it would probably help if someone has Saturn/Capricorn involved. For the second one, some men want their wife to stay at home because it shows off how much money they make. Not anyone can afford it. So maybe a prominent Jupiter or in aspect to Moon.

The third one, isn’t a very nice one. There are enough stories about narcissists that completely isolate someone from their friends and family to gain control. Financial dependency is usually one of the first steps. I would say a prominent Pluto/Saturn, and/or in harsh aspect to Venus/Moon.

posted January 27, 2023 02:56 AM            

I think the desire for clear boundaries that are about the balancing of extreme two worlds? One which is inner(Moon)& outer (Sun)?

I do see Saturn as probable here. Due to the fact that Sat likes clearly defined lines of who does what. And how the two shouldn't overlap etc.

posted February 01, 2023 09:45 AM            

She was already self-sufficient, but her career really started to take off, and he got insecure. Before they moved, he had told people that they would probably be getting married, if it weren't for something else that I can't remember. She had said separately, no marriage, and no children, at least not for years. They broke up later that year, when she joined a company, and it was because of his insecurities. She felt like she couldn't celebrate her successes.

They didn't cut contact, ended up getting back together. They broke up again, just as the pandemic started, and it was what he wanted, not her. She had just made another big career move that she wasn't sure about (it ended up being good for her). In 2021, they got back together, but he dealt with some public stuff that wasn't good. She did, too, but because she is loved by so many people, and made a huge mistake, she recovered, but it took a while. She wasn't doing well. At this point, she was also a co-owner of the company she'd joined. They broke up for the last time.

She is now with someone else, but they're keeping it quiet. It's like a known secret among people who follow them. He makes a lot of money, discussing politics and anything else in the news. She is the happiest she's ever been. She's a cappy with a lot of saggie, some Aquarius and Virgo. She loves her work, and since she's been with this guy, and spent more time with friends, she has a proper work-life balance.

Ex-boyfriend is a Libra with a Cancer Moon, and he has been talking about wanting a family. He's going through his saturn return, and there's nothing wrong with wanting a family. the one thing that bothers me, is that he's looking more and more alt-right. The other day, he shared something about women getting a lot less fertile after the age of thirty, which has nothing to do with him, because he's a man. He keeps sharing things from questionable sources, and it's obvious that he wants a housewife. He wants to be the successful one. He said he was raised in religion, and has been getting back into it, over the past year.

Sun Libra 15°30'27 in house 10 direct
Moon Cancer 15°12'33 in house 7 direct
Mercury Scorpio 9°49'12 in house 11 direct
Venus Virgo 21°04'31 in house 9 direct
Mars Scorpio 7°57'11 in house 11 direct
Jupiter Libra 22°57'43 in house 10 direct
Saturn Aquarius 23°56'58 in house 2 retrograde
Uranus Capricorn 18°16'55 in house 1 direct
Neptune Capricorn 18°23'47 in house 1 direct
Pluto Scorpio 23°55'07 in house 11 direct
True Node Sagittarius 4°10'37 in house 12 direct

posted February 02, 2023 02:30 AM            

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posted March 01, 2023 11:33 AM            

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There’re many men nowadays who go after women with good income.

And many men who say they will provide for you eventually use it as a weapon against you. I’ve seen it many times.

I saw men who wanted to be a provider, but I’ve never seen anybody who would be honest and fair with that intention and don’t play a game with it.

posted March 14, 2023 09:48 AM            

However, when this is not the natural way of being of either of the partners, and one of them starts using manipulations or demanding the other be a stay at home anything and give up everything they used to be for their partner, that's a huge red flag and a power/insecurity issue.

Being influenced to give up one's autonomy or ability to earn for themselves, especially if it's to allow yourself to mold into the image your partner desires, is not going to be a happy or healthy relationship and will have terrible problems down the road.

It's usually due to Cancer/Capricorn aspects especially when one or both are badly aspected.

posted March 15, 2023 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Amoranthaniela:
A naturally occurring stay-at-home wife, and bread-winning husband is fine. (and naturally occurring stay at home husband etc)

However, when this is not the natural way of being of either of the partners, and one of them starts using manipulations or demanding the other be a stay at home anything and give up everything they used to be for their partner, that's a huge red flag and a power/insecurity issue.

Being influenced to give up one's autonomy or ability to earn for themselves, especially if it's to allow yourself to mold into the image your partner desires, is not going to be a happy or healthy relationship and will have terrible problems down the road.

It's usually due to Cancer/Capricorn aspects especially when one or both are badly aspected.

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I 100% agree with you there for sure! every time a guy tells me they want to make 3 digits so their woman could stay at home if they have kids I tell them well is nice to have the option but I love my career and what I do and I don't see myself ever not working at all and then I think to myself I almost rather the guy be the stay at home dad for us than to give up my career, if I was a mom I would be open to working part time though the first few years and that does sound nice if that is possible. Even when I retire I will probably still work part time, I don't like the idea of not working or earning my own income to some extent at all.

posted March 28, 2023 04:36 PM            

But it can be confusing as well, as he also doesn't like a woman who doesn't have something to do with her own life. He needs excitement and easily gets bored but at the same time he has issue with insecurity and possessiveness.

He doesn't want me to take a job/having more time outside with other people and it gives me a frustration time for awhile because in the past the reason I broke up with my Cancer sun ex because he wanted me as a fully housewife and I said I couldn't because I wanted to have my own business but he insisted he wanted me as a fully housewife, so we broke up.

During my frustration feeling caged in, my husband gets easily irritated as he starts looking bored with everyday home life. Until I found my way to have a home business and become a stock trader, and his needs of excitement comes from how he gets inspired by what I am doing.

He feels more secure with the relationship because I spend almost my whole day time at home and I don't feel like in the caged anymore as I can do what I want to do.

Well, I'm just trying to avoid conflict while at the same time I have to find a way to keep myself happy and productive.

posted March 31, 2023 02:19 PM            

I wouldn't have minded being a housewife. I think taking care of your family, especially being there for your children is the most important job you can have. I did not have this privilege because the man I was married to at the time didn't make enough money to allow me to stay home and be a housewife.

I enjoyed some of my work, but working is not what it's cracked up to be. I have had too many jobs that came with low pay, drama, stress, manipulation, power imbalance, abuse and heartbreaks, and yes I envied the women who were staying home minding their families.

posted March 31, 2023 04:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
Lol at some of the anti-housewife comments...

I wouldn't have minded being a housewife. I think taking care of your family, especially being there for your children is the most important job you can have. I did not have this privilege because the man I was married to at the time didn't make enough money to allow me to stay home and be a housewife.

I enjoyed some of my work, but working is not what it's cracked up to be. I have had too many jobs that came with low pay, drama, stress, manipulation, power imbalance, abuse and heartbreaks, and yes I envied the women who were staying home minding their families.

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I didn't see any anti housewife comments per se. It only becomes an issue if the man demands this from his wife and she doesn't want to do it intrinsically. If a woman naturally wants to be a housewife, all power to her. The problem is in my eyes the financial dependence on the husband and that if the marriage doesn't last, many housewives have issues finding a job again since they've been gone from the job market for a long time.

posted March 31, 2023 05:49 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
I didn't see any anti housewife comments per se. It only becomes an issue if the man demands this from his wife and she doesn't want to do it intrinsically. If a woman naturally wants to be a housewife, all power to her. The problem is in my eyes the financial dependence on the husband and that if the marriage doesn't last, many housewives have issues finding a job again since they've been gone from the job market for a long time.

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