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Originally posted by SleepyDiary:
Well explained and i have seen this with Mars energy that they usually are like that themselves. But i don`t always believe you attract what you are, like i have seen some Empaths attract very Narcissistic people and i have seen very honest genuine people deal with very dishonest people etc." A narcissist is (according to Google) someone having or showing an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance.
Whilst an "empath" is " a person who is highly attuned to the energies and emotions of those around them."
It is no wonder that these two will be drawn to each other. One wants to be admired. The other wants to be the person whom makes the other feel admired.
There is a benefit to being a narcissistic person. You feel important and indispensable. There is also a benefit to being an empath, you feel important and indispensable.
The narcissist is not able to recognize the lack of boundaries in ego gratification.So the narcissist has lack of clear boundaries between "my needs" vs "others needs". The latter often ignored as their needs are superior. That's a lack of boundaries.
The empath is unable to recognize the lack of boundaries in ego gratification too I.e. being "needed" , being the "reliable" one that others tell their problems to etc. There is no clear boundary between other's needs vs. their needs. That's lack of boundaries.
The Universe will see that both lack boundaries and string them together because of that common factor. The narcissist always taking advantage because of not caring for other's needs. And the empath being the one taken advantage of because of not caring for their own needs.
In other words,the empath without healthy boundaries says "let me respond to your needs". And the narcissist with the sense of entitlement says " I need someone to respond to my needs". How can there not be a strong attraction that happens again and again between the two?
If you lack boundaries,you will attract people who will overstep yours. Or whom will let you overstep on theirs . Both of you will learn the meaning of the word "mine" and "yours".
An honest person is someone who puts their cards on the table and is transparent. Whilst a dishonest person tends to lie or omit things.
Seldom is an honest person not shown the red flags of a dishonest person early on. They always are. But then the honest person (choosing to be dishnoest with themselves or lie to themselves), sees what is "best" about someone else based off of delusions.
So a dishonest person, ready always to see the other's hand revealed whilst keeping theirs very much on their chest, can find the honest person too irresistible.
Whilst the honest person will have some grand and false vision on "changing" the dishonest person because they falsely assume(without evidence) that "everyone is like me and can be honest. They just need a chance to prove it."
Honesty is not naivety. It's clarity. A window isn't clean because it "means" to be. Its just clean or not. The honest person can make such a distinction
because of that clarity.
When an honest person decides to trade clarity with "belief" in unfounded assumptions,then they are dishonest with themselves. The honest person in this instance says "I will save you. Only if you promise to be honest". And the dishonest person (being who they are) says " I will be anything you want me to be."🤷🏿♂️
Sometimes i feel you attract certain types into your life because it might have to do with your upbringing and how your parents were so this is the "energy" you latch onto and are used to and sometimes you have afflictions in your chart that might bring in low energy types into your life or you have a unconscious need for something within you that makes you drawn to certain types.
This is true. But unfortunately,whether it came as a result of the environment or nature. It is now a part of you that you can't detach from.
Some people are brought into your life to have you acknowledge what is subconsciously there. This whether its something that you want to "own" about you or not. It's there. Hence why you draw others like it to you.
When you suppress,deny or project it on to others because you can't accept it for yourself. It doesn't make it "other" than you. Because you will continue to attract it. It just makes it something you use to victimize yourself with OR allow others to weaponize against you.
Like with Cancer energy they have a need to care for people and nurture so they`ll find themselves troubled types who they can help and nurture or attract these types to them.
Cancer receives gratification from being "needed" or central to other's emotional peace. That's the trade off. So it's not a one sided thing.
Cancer says "I need someone to take care of so that I can feel needed". And then others come along to say "I need someone to take care of me so that I always need them." How can the Universe NOT put them together? I mean 🤷🏿♂️
Pisces energy where they like to "save" people and are often drawn to the underdog or someone who is troubled but they themselves might not be like this. And sometimes you attract the opposite of what you are because it might be traits you need to devolop.
Pisces people often feel like the underdog and the "foreigner " that they are helping or falling in love with. That's how they are able to "recognize" that need for belonging in foreigners or those abandoned. It's because it's present in themselves.
A Pisces can come from a rich family and not necessarily display the outward characteristics of being "homeless" .
But notice how their relationship with their immediate kin is? It's usually not close,they are misunderstood or feel "unheard". There is usually a lack of connection or some separation caused either by money or circumstances with loved ones etc.
Nobody identifies with another without seeing a part of themselves in the other. That is the basis of human interaction and relationships. Universal law is no different.
From an energetic point of view, if I am matched with a criminal and yet I am a law abiding citizen with a 0 track record in as far as felonies are concerned,then it is not literal "crimes" that I am doing.
But there is a resonance that I have with the criminal behind bars i.e. perhaps I could be someone who doesn't fit the mould of the society I am in? I don't like following rules? I don't get on well with authority? I prefer to be an outsider or isolated? etc.
What we externally "see" is not always what is happening energetically with people. I have learned through my own painful experiences, that attraction is everything.
If I feel unsafe at my core. I will continue to attract situations and circumstances that will be threatening to me.
I could be in a safe neighbourhood and be the ONLY one that gets robbed.🤷🏿♂️ This because of the ever present fear of being "violated" that i have internally etc.
Lindaland
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