posted April 08, 2025 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
Mars in Libra is typically not dangerous, but it is still Mars. Does her Mars square or oppose any of your planets?

Saturn in Scorpio is powerful. Does her Saturn square or oppose any of your planets?

The Pluto wide orb conjunction to your Sun in 12th house can be unsettling. The 12th house is that place in a house, like the attic, where things can go bump in the night! And her Pluto there conjunct your Sun makes for strange bedfellows. I would say based on this aspect alone to thread carefully.

I wouldn't confront her anymore. Regardless of astrology, it is a difficult endeavor to confront people, even relatives, about their no good kids.

If I were you, I would de-escalate the situation, keep my sentiments to myself and plot my exit, even if it takes months for it to happen. After you move out, you can then suggest selling the apartment and splitting the profits. That is what i would do.

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posted April 09, 2025 12:50 AM            

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Originally posted by 93nov:
Astrology aside, does she own the apartment? Is it now in her name?

If your mother left the apartment to both of you then it sounds like you guys need to sit down and compromise. The situation isn't fair to you if you are uncomfortable and feeling put out/ isolated.

Capricorn energy is very cold and authoritarian. Someone with softer placements would feel very hurt and misunderstood. You deserve to be happy, or at least comfortable, too.

Family is supposed to stick together, but it takes all parties involved for it to work. If this is an impossible situation, you are doing the right thing by trying to find other options.

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yes, it's in her name.I think the sitting down and compromising has gone out of the window. she's in a survival mode, claws out: what with her son and his issues. She's like a cornered tiger so I have to be careful for myself.Anything I say right now would be inflammatory. I'm walking on eggshells.

posted April 09, 2025 11:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
eh sometimes all the social pressure in the world can't change someone due to an fundamental inability within a person to make actual changes at whatever place they're in, and it has nothing to do with bending to pressure.

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I think that’s what planet/ karmic lessons about. We get to put into a position where we have no choice, but to find ability to change or to be left behind.
Social pressure could be a trigger for changes, but it’s often hard to see when the social pressure is really leading us toward the good or taking us to the wrong direction.

posted April 27, 2025 12:47 PM            

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Originally posted by odalix:
It doesn't seem like Mars is opposing or conjunct anything but her Saturn opposing my saturn/ South Node/ moon conjunction in my 5th .Her jupiter is sitting on my 12th house uranus. As for the last statement, yes, I definitely sense that; it could get potentially dangerous and I'm trying to de-escalate the situation by being quiet.I'm treading very lightly.

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Another fun thing: transit saturn is squaring my 12th house sun( as all Leos this year 2025) and with the energy of my sister's pluto squatting firmly on top that sun, it's a really fun ride.I sound flippant but am really going through the wringer and relying on my spritual practices, community support and resting when I can ( slow, steady, slog work).Thank you all for your answers.

posted April 29, 2025 08:47 AM            

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Originally posted by odalix:
yes, it's in her name.I think the sitting down and compromising has gone out of the window. she's in a survival mode, claws out: what with her son and his issues. She's like a cornered tiger so I have to be careful for myself.Anything I say right now would be inflammatory. I'm walking on eggshells.

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Boy have I been there. The only option is to move out. If you can't move out, you will have to put your foot down and hopefully she won't kick you out herself. It's like you are stuck between a rock and a wall. You're stuck in this situation.. but you HAVE to do something about it. As a Scorpio stellium with Saturn ruling my MC and squaring my stellium, the only way to deal with our type is by returning the same energy. Stand up to her. Make it clear she is making you upset. You don't have to be as cruel as your sister in delivery though (unless you want to, of course .

Scorpio and Capricorn respect authority. Your sister might resent you for it depending on her "maturity level", but at least you will be able to breathe and move around comfortably in your own space. Because that apartment is just as much yours as it is hers. So what it's in her name. You two are sisters and your mother left it to you both. I know sometimes family isn't really family so maybe you will just have to start looking for other options. Staying put as you are is only benefiting your sister and hurting you. Do not kill your voice just to remain comfortable or to keep the peace.

Your sister has a Capricorn moon with a Libra mars? Are they square by aspect too or just by sign? This alone shows an internal struggle with her emotions and her actions. It also shows a possible strife with women and/ or the mother/ family/ women in the family. She could kick you out and move a random stranger in: similar issues would still persist because the conflict is embedded in her natal chart. Bickering with women, arguing in the home, hostile emotional nature, etc Moon-mars square. Do you guys do anything ACTIVE together? Maybe go for a jog or a walk in the park a few times a week and discuss issues then?