posted November 22, 2009 05:47 PM         

i get a lot of flak from my less boring friends about being forced to be in the presence of my apparently very boring friends. not to reduce this to just sun signs but right now all i got are sun signs to go with. my two friends, both who are leo females, have remarked about certain friends of mine who are quiet and boring. they basically dislike quiet and boring people. so much so they can't even bear to be in the same room with these boring people. they both got mad at me for leaving them alone with them as i went to the bathroom or was just out of the room for 5 minutes. these are two leo girls who do not know each other and live in different cities yet both had the same reaction to boring people.

another friend who is a sagittarius, same thing. remarks about not liking boring guys. another friend made mention about how she knew this girl would not like this guy because she felt him to be too boring for her. turned out she was right.

maybe the sad part is that the common thread in this boring people story is that all of these boring people are either good friends of mine or people who have sought friendship in me first. does being a boring person magnet make me a boring person too? i'm not sure. however, from my point of view, boring to me is someone who isn't willing to talk about everything and anything honestly or have their own opinion. i'm a very opinionated person and i like to be honest in what i say. i can talk forever about anything.

i have a friend who i've practically ditched, though i think she is a dear person, only because whenever we hang out, all of the conversation begins and ends with me. she is very private and quiet. she also doesn't have much of an opinion on anything. that to me is boring. with my other boring friends, i find i am able to get them to talk about anything and they have opinions. so i don't think they're boring though most people do. maybe it's because they're quiet people and many people confuse being quiet as boring.

posted November 22, 2009 06:28 PM         

The type of people who bore me are the "one note" type people who are typically obsesive about one thing, from NASCAR or football to a political issue or party to a philosophy or relgion to a certain type of music. These can be from the really ignorant to the PhD graduate. If they talk ONLY about one subject all the time, and turn every conversation into their pet topic, then I can get bored and spend time trying to avoid them more often than not, even if it's a topic I normally find interesting. But then radios often "kill" songs for me that I might like by playing them once an hour or more, and my favorite foods can become bland to me if eaten everyday.

posted November 22, 2009 07:57 PM         

what are these clowns gonna do about it?

posted November 22, 2009 09:22 PM         

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Of course from the opposite point of view the quiet people probably don't think of themselves as boring

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Some of them do (out of those I know, and that includes myself ~ I know I can be boring); others just don't like the subjects of conversation, and/or don't think they should have to play up to the louder people, or be like them. I don't think they should have to, either. They can all be very shy, and with time, might open up more, and have a laugh. If they're being judged on first meeting, they will probably feel more uncomfortable, and not be so fast to talk. In that case, comfort is a two-way street.

posted November 23, 2009 02:29 AM         

From a bartenders point of view, (believe me, you cannot do this job properly if you are not an observant people watcher) the people that are the most NON-boring when they come in, are the ones that are the most tedious going out.

It's the quieter types that may loosen up after a few cocktails that I always find the most interesting. Hence my attractions to Scorps, Virgos, and Caps. Cause you know, if you come in all animated and bubbling over with verbage, where is the alcohol going to take you? Usually, not always, but usually, it will make you opposite.

posted November 23, 2009 06:56 PM         

let me also add however that these boring friends of mine, if i think back to how we went down that long route of becoming good friends such that we can talk about anything....man it was a looooonnnnnnnngggg journey. it was like talking to a wall. pulling teeth. i don't blame my other friends for fleeing and leaving me behind because these boring people need a long head start before you can even say hi.

one boring friend, i remember sitting in university class with her and asking her about a question and she literally just smirked at me and shrugged her shoulders and turned away from me. so...i can understand why some of my friends are turned off by this behavior. these boring people, though they can be ever so quiet in front of strangers, can come off rude. i think because i grew up very shy and scared of people that i can understand and have a lot more patience, but i've also grown up and matured and learned to take responsiblity for my own behavior and try to at least meet people halfway and be polite at least.

teasel: yeah i agree about them not being able to entertain themselves for 5 minutes. i don't know what it is. i've left friends with these people and then the next day they don't want to come back and/or they get upset with ME for leaving them in that situation. it's like i'm not the one who made them quiet people.

fatinkerbell: thanks for your replies yes i see what you mean by the leos not liking how the spotlight wasn't on them but they had to work hard to shine the light on someone else. and yes i guess i can switch from boring to non boring. i don't know what it is. all i know is i'm game to talk about whatever and do whatever. i'm flexible. however, like everyone else, i do have a threshold too and if i feel like i'm the only one who has an opinion or shares my thoughts and feelings, then i have to leave. i don't care if you're boring but you better be willing to share just like i am. it's a two-way street.

dervish: one of my boring friends actually described those druggies and drunkards you speak of as boring! that's ironic isn't it? he told me how he stopped hanging around that crowd in school because he said they were boring. all they did was get high or drunk and he didn't want to be around them anymore.

gypseewind: thank you for the insight. yeah i sometimes think people make up for it by drinking or doing drugs. though i can't judge or i don't know for sure because i don't do that stuff.