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Topic: 911 : KnowFlake in Shock!
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fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 10, 2009 10:56 PM
 
Hi, I'm fatinkerbell, and I didn't get my dream job!! I know this happens to everyone but why must it happen to meeeee? Seriously guys, you know that feeling when you've been like thinking positive and the outcome is negative ... then you go in your head - is it me? Did I not believe enough? Why, if I did everything right, did the result desired not materialize? Is it karma? Am I being taught a lesson? If so, what IS the lesson for goodness sake? Or does it all mean nothing? Is it just random? Should I not take it personally?
Any inspiring thoughts will be most welcome ...------------------
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GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1916
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 12:40 AM
Gulp.
You wanted positive feedback? I was just going to commiserate. I think this is one of the drawbacks of the ole' Sag Sun, cause we go into just about EVERYTHING thinking positive, and so when we crash we are so shocked! I know whatcha mean, boy do I ever. But hey, you know you will bounce back, we always do. And you know the old "when God shuts a door he opens a window" theory. So, just look at it as there is a BETTER job, than your dream job. An even DREAMIER job, that you just don't know about yet, so you had to pass this one up to get there. Or, you could just hexx the person who dared not hire one as obviously qualified as yourself, make their hair fall out or something, J/K!!!!!!! IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 793
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 12:54 AM
Sorry to hear about not getting the dream job, but never mind that, I cant even get a rubbish job, never mind dream one. I guess its how the world goes.Who cares about learning/searching/looking for answers, just get drunk instead. IP: Logged |
fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 01:05 AM
I'm gonna go with the hex ... there was this one lady among the interviewers who seemed unimpressed by moi ... may her kimchi taste horrible for a week! Actally kimchi always tastes horrible but it is very much loved here in Korea ... pickled cabbage in an extremely hot chilli sauce, served cold. It's only purpose ... to release endorphins through the amount of pain in creates on your tongue ... But for Korea, the hotter, the better. So my hex on this horrible person, whoever he or she might be, who rejected moi (!!!!!!) is: may your kimchi be BLAND for a week.So there. Gypsee I hate being a Sag sometimes ... no matter how many times this happens to you (bubble bursting) and no matter how many times you promise yourself 'never again will I get soooo over excited about unhatched chickens', it ALWAYS happens again. Sometimes I wish I could just STOP believing in the fairy tale. I'm nearly 37 now and if it hasn't happened yet it'll probably never happen (me growing up I mean). Of course another revenge would be to eventually rise in the world of academic TESOL and then have the pleasure of becoming an expert in the field of teaching second language writing and then having the opportunity to snub the IDIOTS who didn't hire me when they had the chance! Coffee ... I guess I should be grateful for what I have right now : / ------------------
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fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 01:07 AM
o ps Coffee, unfortunately my drunken days are over because I'm like rehabbed! All I can do is smoke. And sleep. So I'll smoke a lot. ------------------
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Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 793
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 01:28 AM
You went to rehab and still smoking? Theyre not very good are they?  Your life, but no need to get revenge. Thats for the bad people. Thinking it is fine though. I do that a lot. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1916
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 01:55 AM
Actually smoking is all they let you do in rehab and most people smoke more after anyway.Tink, Tink, Tink,....what to do with you! okay, saggie secret time, your 37, I'm 43, so I have a few years on you. YOU WILL NEVER STOP, there is no saggie rehab. You will built an even bigger bubble next time, just to show them, HA! Try and break THIS one you miserable, blankity-blanks. That is the way it goes, m'lady. But look at it this way, Jupiter graced us with enormous strength. Who else can survive so many slaps in the face and pop back up??? Some of the sh$t we go through would drop others to their knees for a looonnnnngggggg time. So, be happy that you are resiliant, it tis a gift!! Now, to hexx or not to hexx-that is the question. Meh, personally, I would use your energy and your fairy wand for loftier purposes. Always conserve your hexxing strength for the opposite sex. It usually comes in handy there...lol. Just think, when whoever they did hire, turns out to be a dismal failure, they will regret ever turning YOU down, but, in true SAG style, you will be long gone, onto bigger and better things, no???? YES!!!! IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
Moderator Posts: 2944
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 03:00 AM
I empathise with you not getting what you wanted. I'm going to come out with the usual philosophical tripe that it just wasnt' the right thing for you and the right thing will come. Because I actually believe that.IP: Logged |
Deux*Antares
Knowflake Posts: 674
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 05:08 AM
Eh, it's a near hit. A near hit is actually a good thing. It means you are now closer to what you want. It is the universe's way of giving you a glimpse of the real deal, something better that's waiting for you out there. Cheer up! Is my progressed sun in Saggi showing? IP: Logged |
blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 1196
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 05:19 AM
It's random. The reason for the employer's final choice was unlikely to be anything to do with how positive was your thinking. Unless you came across as apathetic and unmotivated. That happened once to a friend of mine who was quiet and shy. But...ultimately she went onto another career path and I think underneath it wasn't really what she wanted. IP: Logged |
Unmoved
Moderator Posts: 1142
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Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 04:25 PM
I am sorry sweetie!
I really wanted this for you!
I can definitely identify with the feeling of having your hopes destroyed by a negative outcome. As Gypsee said, although I may not be a Sag, I do have dear Ol' Jupiter right on the AC, so I can totally relate.Hey, let's just say that things happen for some unknown reason but be mindful of the fact that it is not because something was lacking with you, sweetie. You were more than qualified for the job, so just hold fast hope that better opportunities will come around. I also do the same in my world. Love you, tinkerbell  {{{hugs}}} Deux - I love what you said. It made me cheer up too. IP: Logged |
Lyra
Knowflake Posts: 135
From: London, UK
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 06:12 PM
Don't worry, we are in a peculiar economic time at the moment. I missed out on a good job too, and took another one (a cr*p one) - for a week - which didn't work out. So I do sympathize. Try to think of there being better things around the corner, and that your life does not necessarily depend on impressing what ultimately amounts to a very small number of people (in proportion to the rest of society), at one particular firm. People try to give you all sorts of tips to impress and to win jobs. It's really competitive, but try to be true to yourself whatever position you apply for, because if you are not 100% honest with yourself, I can guarantee you won't be happy in the job either. Keep your chin up and don't worry, you will find your niche, probably in an unexpected way! That's the way I look at it anyhow. Love, Lyra. IP: Logged |
fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:08 PM
Coffee!------------------------------------ You went to rehab and still smoking? Theyre not very good are they? ------------------------------------ LOL!!!! I never thought of it that way! I want my money back!! : D ------------------
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fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:16 PM
Gypsee:------------------------------- Tink, Tink, Tink,....what to do with you! okay, saggie secret time, your 37, I'm 43, so I have a few years on you. YOU WILL NEVER STOP, there is no saggie rehab. You will built an even bigger bubble next time, just to show them, HA! Try and break THIS one you miserable, blankity-blanks. That is the way it goes, m'lady. -----------------------------------
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! NOO NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Why why why why why?????
No Sag rehab? No rehab for hope. I hate that!! If I keep hoping that one day I can give up hope and it turns out I can't, that means there's no use hoping is there? So isn't that a cure for hope??
Anyway, at least I have some fun moments to remember the interview by, with my Sag blurting probably not really helping ... for instance ... they were like 'OK start your demo lesson' and I was like 'Right, I've got 15 minutes, don't I' (taking off my watch and getting ready to present my perfectly timed and perfectly rehearsed lesson) ... and the interviewers (4 of them) are like : 'No! Five minutes!' ... and I'm like 'What, are you tired?' (because they'd been interviewing since 2pm and I was on at 5 ... I meant it totally honestly and with concern for them but in retrospect it might have been a dumb kind of utterance ... : ) ------------------
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fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:21 PM
Deux and Peace Angel ... you are SOOO preaching to the choir ... but I needed to hear it anyway ... It. Wasn't. Meant. To. Be. The universe really is a trickster and I should be used to it by now, but really, it always feels like I'm Charlie Brown and Lucy is holding the football for me to kick and she promises this time she won't pull it back and have me land on my a s s but every time it's the same joke ... What can you do? You have to keep on trusting the universe. It's not like you can leave it. No getting off this ride .... ------------------
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fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:25 PM
Blue,Unmoved and Lyra ... thanks for the support and CPR guys ... I'm feeling better already! You're right Blue Moon, there is an element of randomness to life ... That's hard for me to accept because I want EVERYTHING to make sense but some things just don't ... Unmoved... I think Neptune had me going, like you said ... It was the feelings that were rising up in me of happiness and anticipation and joy that had me totally deluded ... I mean what's with that! A hex on Neptune! (Oops, ok I take that back ... eeeek here come the waves ...!!!! ------------------
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stopandstare
Knowflake Posts: 180
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Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:25 PM
fatinkerbell i'm sorry you didn't get it! i've been there before. and yeah the feeling is terrible. you doubt yourself because how can you not when you think you put your best of the best out there and you get shut out? but may i ask if you have another job? if you do not, then yeah i can understand you feeling even more upset. the whole process is very mentally exhausting. it's hard when something you want and need is not entirely in your control. or at least it doesn't feel that way. you can only do what you can but if they don't like you or wanted to hire a friend or an internal candidate...nothing you can do about it.i've been through this so many times that i'm over rejection in job interviews now. but luckily i have a great position now, but nothing came easy. IP: Logged |
fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:27 PM
Lyra you're totally right ... looking back I know I was 100% ME in that interview, and I guess I should heed my own signature
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fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 359
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 07:34 PM
Stopandstare ... I do have a job ... the percect job in a way cos I get paid to do nothing. It's the doing nothing part that got me wanting to get to a job where I'd be teaching more. I'm in a Korean public school and mostly my Korean co-teachers teach alone so I spend 90% of the nine hours I have to be at work every day alone in my office left to my own devices. Last year I got up to 35 million chips in Facebook poker. (I've lost it all again ... but the point is ... I had time to win 35 million imaginary poker chips when I should have been allowed to teach English ... see what I mean?) Maybe things will gradually change at my current school ... I certainly hope so. The good part of it is that if my contract gets renewed with this school I will get to see the little first graders who started when I started grow up to horrible mean old ugly third graders : ) It's amazing how much teenagers change between the ages of 12 to 15. And on the good side, I've only just started to manage winning over the especially recalcitrant students so it's actually possible for me to teach them stuff instead of just playing mind games with them.
Now I just hope my school renews my contract. I feel like I cheated on them by applying for a different job... eeek! ------------------
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Dervish
Knowflake Posts: 369
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Registered: May 2009
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posted December 11, 2009 11:19 PM
I understand that a lot of times there's already a person chosen to fill the job slot, but because of legal reasons, a company will cover itself by holding open interviews and then claiming to have picked the one they'd already picked from all the other applicants. In which case you never had a chance anyway (not unless the one who already has the job were to get into a major accident or something so that a search for new applicants became sincere).But even without that...I'm sure there are many other people who believe really hard, do everything right, etc. It seems to me that it should be assumed that they also have a fair chance at the job, too. I bet many of them are also crushed, and the one picked probably thinks the universe works just fine, at least until the next disappointment comes of course. IP: Logged |
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