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Topic: extreme jealousy
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stopandstare
Knowflake Posts: 228
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 09, 2010 02:10 AM
 
i know this is a topic that gets brought up a lot and has been beaten to death, but what are your guys' thoughts about extreme jealousy? like irrational, crazy, omg are you serious jealousy? i had a long conversation with my friend who admits to being insanely jealous. i always knew he was jealous but not scary mean jealous. he told me an incident about how some guy hit on his girlfriend and he went bonkers on her. how he expected her to react a certain way and because she didn't, he went bonkers. like completely bonkers. i was shocked because...he's my friend and we laugh and joke around and then he can act irrational and crazy over something that is obviously irrational and crazy. i'm a very typical moon in gemini girl. i understand logic and do not understand irrational and extreme emotions. i am not comfortable with emotions and people acting stupid based on emotions. yelling at someone for something they did not start (the guy hit on her, not the other way around) is no grounds for getting in a fight over. that to me is stupid and illogical and should not have happened. i get hit on a lot and he's been there when things like that happen and he sees how i react. i don't react the way that he expects his girlfriend react. if i were his girlfriend and i reacted the way i always react, he would've gone bonkers on me. when things like that happen, i freeze or just stand there or don't know what to do. i have a hard time with strangers just coming up to me and talking to me. it's like someone is talking to me in a foreign language and i don't know how to respond. anyway, he told me how everyone gets jealous and i would probably feel the same and i was like um...no.... i have a lot of self respect and high self-esteem in me to get that jealous. i understand feeling envy and jealousy but i don't get yelling and being angry over stuff like that. i also don't take things so overly serious. the only thing astrologicaly i can see my friend having that may point towards jealousy is having venus in the 8th house. he also has moon in taurus in the 1st house. other than that, not sure...i know he has low self-esteem in "keeping" a girlfriend. but....hmmm.....i seem to attract very jealous friends as well it appears but that's another story. IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 759
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 09, 2010 05:52 AM
I find jealousy of any degree, ridiculous, illogical, and a waste of time.------------------
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Dervish
Knowflake Posts: 453
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 10, 2010 02:58 AM
I avoid those people who are that extreme and advise others to do the same. They're a crime of passion waiting to happen.I mean that if they think it's normal and get like that regularly, as opposed to someone having a one time crazy fit, especially under extreme circumstances, and realizing how crazy they got (hopefully with some shame) afterward. IP: Logged |
comica23
Knowflake Posts: 830
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 10, 2010 08:11 PM
Jealousy is a normal feeling, it often happens due to insecurities, being afraid of losing something or being left out. If people can be more compassionate about each other's feelings, then these kinds of issues might often be easier to solve. Although on the other hand, it's up to each of us to decide how to act upon our feelings, that by no means they can be an excuse to hurt others.IP: Logged |
stopandstare
Knowflake Posts: 228
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 14, 2010 12:10 PM
thanks for your responses,i totally understand being jealous and insecure and all that. but what i don't understand is when people take it to the next level of being borderline psycho / could be domestic violence. or in general, be completely irrational about it and fight about it. i get it if your bf/gf is actively flirting with someone. but i don't get it if some random stranger approaches your gf/bf and wants to flirt with them. why would you get angry at your bf/gf when they didn't start it? that to me is irrational and to get into a huge fight over that is...my mind cannot compute that. it's like trying to tell me 2+2=5 and i don't get it. i also don't get how someone can go beyond that kind of jealousy but go closer towards a possible, as dervish put it, a crime of passion. i intellectualize my feelings so maybe that's why i don't get it. but in general, i don't get it. i questioned my friend on his motives and his reasons and they weren't good enough for me. i felt like an english teacher grading an essay and his points were not proven well enough for me. IP: Logged | |
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