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juniperb Moderator Posts: 762 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 02:40 PM The wiki leaks got me to thinking of telling others secrets or shared information you don`t wish repeated. I know I have had it happen to me and have had a long hard path (Aqua`s like to talk) learning how much to say and who to. I have had an egg smeared face too many times . As I`ve matured, I find I even gauge my words with family members. Learning to trust is a life long learning process and I wondered what your criteria is for trusting anyone with shared emails, chats or every day conversations. How do you build that trust with another? juni ------------------ What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged
NickiG Moderator Posts: 2643 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010	posted November 29, 2010 02:44 PM i believe that me being a scorpio, i can "feel" that i can trust this person or not and so far my trust intuition has been right ------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged
scorpio17 Knowflake Posts: 601 From: Netherlands Registered: Dec 2009	posted November 29, 2010 02:48 PM Not easily. IP: Logged
juniperb Moderator Posts: 762 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 02:48 PM Thanks NickiG . So, for you it is intuition rather than a process of building up a trust over time. ------------------ What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged
NickiG Moderator Posts: 2643 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010	posted November 29, 2010 02:50 PM mostly yes...for some my intuition was a little fuzzy so it took time, and for some when my intuition was fuzzy it turned out i couldnt trust them ------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 02:57 PM I, personally, am not fussy about certain threads being in certain forums but this would be a great thread for Sweet Peas I will think about the question. It is a good one. ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
ghanima81 Knowflake Posts: 480 From: Maine Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 03:03 PM Good question, Juni. I'm with you. I used to "trust before you give me a reason not to" but as I mature, I keep things closer to home. It's hard indeed, but I trust my Venus and Moon to keep a lid on my my Sun/mars/merc. IP: Logged
BearsArcher Moderator Posts: 509 From: Arizona with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2010	posted November 29, 2010 03:17 PM Good question.. I have varying levels of trust depending on the person; length of time I've known them, my observations of them and relationship. I have had to learn the hard way because I have had things I have said thrown back at me or used against me. People have taken what I have said out of context, so I learned that less is more and if I want something out there then I better put it out there myself or just keep my mouth shut LOL.. The people I trust are as follows: 1) Mom- with limited information as she is the type of person to throw things back in my face to hurt me when she is angry. 2) Dad- I trust him implicitly. He has never betrayed me or used anything against me, but I do edit what I tell him because he's my dad LOL.. 3) Bear- my hubby- I trust with everything. He has never used anything against me and never would- it's not in his character. He has many secrets he cannot discuss because of the nature of his job and I respect that in him. He has also never betrayed his friends or family. 4) My best friend Leslie: She also keeps things to herself and is a great confidant- she doesn't judge and also confides in me and I don't judge her. As for other people- it really just depends and I find that more people confide in me than I confide in them. I listen and I don't talk about what they have told me. I find that being a part of various organizations it is better to be the quiet one and not fuel the flames of gossip. IP: Logged
juniperb Moderator Posts: 762 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 03:36 PM Amie Ann, I put it here because of the generalness of the question and Sweet Peas isn`t for the general posters. Make sense? ------------------ What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 03:39 PM I have no earth , am very mutable and tend toward disorder. I don't care where things are posted ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
juniperb Moderator Posts: 762 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 03:42 PM I surely agree maturity plays a factor. Like Pid, I ask myself if it would hurt someone or be taken out of context then I attempt to gauge the person. For me, first I have had to learn to trust myself and what is sharable then trust is earned and never given lightly. I am blessed to have a few to confide in and it makes the burdens of life lighter. ------------------ What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged
juniperb Moderator Posts: 762 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 03:45 PM HA! I just noticed the new quote button. Nice! ------------------ What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 03:49 PM I think( and I am not an expert in ANY realm of maturity lol) that you learn this by making mistakes. When you trust the wrong people and get betrayed, you REALLY suffer. It is like putting your finger in a socket. Next time,or the time after that, you don't stick your finger in the same socket. You,simply, learn by failing, I think. ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 2769 From: Ohio Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 04:04 PM I'm in a rush, but I don't trust as easily as some might think. I was once told that I trusted too easily, and was too honest, but my mother laughed when I relayed the first one to her (the second one she agreed with). I'm not usually one to deliberately hurt others, and people close to me, or those who have been around me for a while, will see that. I don't say something behind someone's back, that I'm not prepared to say to them directly. IP: Logged
Randall Webmaster Posts: 4410 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 04:07 PM By nature, people are untrustworthy. So, I trust very few. I always try to keep my word, and I never betray a confidence, even when I, myself, am betrayed, but I know not to expect the same from others. IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 04:10 PM Randall I want to ask you a question .I went in to shock, really ,when I was 14. I did not learn many lessons of maturity such as your post,above. HOW did you learn this lesson? Was it from failing? Was it from being betrayed and hurting badly so that you were careful the next time around? Thanks so much. ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
Cynnared Knowflake Posts: 671 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 04:22 PM Trust needs to be earned for me. Other than that I don't trust anybody. Maybe it's the earth in my chart.... IP: Logged
Randall Webmaster Posts: 4410 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 04:26 PM I learned through being betrayed over and over again. Still, I try to trust, because otherwise, I feel like I am betraying my humanity. IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 04:27 PM How would earth and trust be related, Cynn? Can you explain more,in words? Thanks. ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 4315 From: Pleasanton, CA Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 05:43 PM I pretty much hope for the best in everything. I know people can be either way, sometimes within the same person even (if a situation forces the behavior). The best thing to do, in my mind, is to establish your own integrity and goodwill. Then, if someone becomes untrustworthy on you, at least you've garnered some goodwill that will hopefully help you maintain your reputation. IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 05:55 PM I, seriously, am learning lessons like this,NOW, late lol ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 5020 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted November 29, 2010 06:06 PM I think Cap is a grounded sign for earth bound maturity. ------------------ It is either a lesson or a blessing ,Bruh. IP: Logged
juniperb Moderator Posts: 762 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 06:52 PM In a nutshell, I`ve learned, just because I know/feel something don`t mean I have the right say or repeat it. That keeps me between the lines while adhering to my own moral/ethical code. ------------------ What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged
pisces moon Knowflake Posts: 39 From: Registered: Aug 2010	posted November 29, 2010 06:56 PM quote: Originally posted by Randall: By nature, people are untrustworthy. So, I trust very few. I always try to keep my word, and I never betray a confidence, even when I, myself, am betrayed, but I know not to expect the same from others. That's pretty much me. Most people I don't trust as far as I can throw them, there are a few I trust a bit more but I don't ever trust anyone completely. As they say, your best friend today could be your worst enemy tomorrow. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 4311 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 29, 2010 07:38 PM I don't trust people easily. I'm very cautious. I don't know if it's just a natural suspicion or learned response. I trust my feelings about people. I've also found animals to be very good judges of character. Alternately, when people say they don't like animals, it raises red flags about them. IP: Logged

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