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Topic: What Is The Key/Secret To Happiness?
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Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted January 13, 2011 09:35 PM
  
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GypseeWind
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From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
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posted January 14, 2011 01:41 AM
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Lonake
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posted January 14, 2011 02:12 AM
I think happiness is a choice.
You either want to be happy or you don't.People living in the most impoverished sad conditions can walk around being happy. When I think of unhappiness I think of people like that, people who face horrible living conditions, and who make a choice to say, no matter what, I am going to choose to be happy and make the best of it, and to effect change wherever I can. There really is no other choice.
When you crumble you waste your resources, thus holding you back even further from your aims.
If you do this often enough, in retrospect, you can see how self-defeating it is. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
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From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
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posted January 14, 2011 02:25 AM
Right on Lonake.After years of depression, and endless meds, I cured myself.
The cure is as you say, the strong desire to WANT to be happy, that's it!
No special powders, potions or incantations.
(and No, I am not judging those that take meds, I understand that some people need them)
for myself, I just got TIRED of being bummed out. So, I forced myself to stop.
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Lonake
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posted January 14, 2011 02:33 AM
I was diagnosed with major depression and none of the meds worked for me, I just quit.
Then after some yrs of struggle I came to the above conclusion.
But if someone would've told me that earlier on I would've plugged my ears cos I was bent on destruction.
Now I've opened my eyes, and see that there are a lot of people who are like I was, hell bent on destroying themselves.
And there are a lot of people who face horrible things and make the decision to say 'eff you, you're not gonna control me' (in not so many words  ).That's so amazing, so happy for you!  IP: Logged |
coconutcancermoon
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From: A Place of Pure Love
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posted January 14, 2011 07:12 AM
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted January 14, 2011 08:17 AM
The teachers on my Kundalini yoga Dvd, Ana Bret and Ravi Singh,said something similar to what Lonake is saying.
They gave the "cure" for depression.They said that the cure was to "be yourself".
A depressed person is lost to himself and hence to life.
His depression comes from the simple fact that he is not expressing his genuine self.
It may be a simple fact but it is light years away from the person whose self is locked away under layers of distortions about who he is.
It is ,mainly,locked away under the single fear that he is NOT OK i.e.good enough.
I think the cure for depression is to force yourself to BE yourself.
It is very,very hard. However,in those magic moments that you do, you have peace .------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
You must face the dregs of Nessus to touch the love and beauty of Neptune.
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Ami Anne
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posted January 14, 2011 08:58 AM
After I wrote this,I realized that I am very much myself on LL.
I would never be this "messy" in real life 
However,I want my LL self and real life self to merge.
Then,I won't be depressed,any more.------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
You must face the dregs of Nessus to touch the love and beauty of Neptune.
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Randall
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posted January 14, 2011 11:22 AM
We all have blessings in our lives. Things can appear unfavorable on the surface and be for our greater good--we just have myopic vision and can't see far enough to view the positive direction the "unfortunate" circumstance is taking us. Things can always be worse. So, happiness is about living in the moment...not regrets over the past and not longing for some future yet to be. It's a common dis-ease called "I'll be happy when-itis." I'll be happy when I get married. I'll be happy when I get that new car. A better job. Lose weight. Win the lottery. You name it. But things and situations don't make us happy. If you chase happiness, it will elude you. Choose to be happy in the NOW, because the Eternal Now is all that we have and all that we own.------------------
"Cooking is like love. It should be entered into with abandon or not at all." Harriet Van Horne IP: Logged |
SunChild
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posted January 14, 2011 04:37 PM
Randall said it!  I love the way you word things Randall.
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Its an interesting thing. Seeing Kuan Yin relating to a flower so intently. She's not just looking at it; she's interacting with it
Im seeing how the act of relating to a flower appears to be so simple. Yet, it takes a tremendous amount of courage to make such a simple act important. Now, the lotus is floating away. IP: Logged |
AbsintheDragonfly
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From: Gaia
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted January 14, 2011 04:44 PM
The little things in life...walking, breathing, eating, dressing yourself...cake...puppies and kittens, flowers, a picture drawn by a toddler "FOR YOU MAMA!"IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 16, 2011 07:33 PM
Thanks, SC! Awww...Abs, that was beautiful. ------------------
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Randall
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posted January 26, 2011 08:43 PM
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juniperb
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posted February 19, 2012 11:00 AM
Sunshine  and the promise of spring.------------------
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~ IP: Logged |
SaggiMC
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 19, 2012 11:19 AM
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Originally posted by charmainec:
The answer is simple. Cake.
but what about chocolate?  TOP TWENTY REASONS WHY CHOCOLATE IS BETTER THAN SEX: 1 You can GET chocolate
2 If you bite the nuts too hard the chocolate won't mind
3 Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft
4 You can safely have chocolate while you are driving
5 You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to
6 You can have chocolate even in front of your mother
7 "If you love me you'll swallow that" has real meaning with chocolate
8 Two people of the same sex can have chocolate without being called nasty names
9 The word "commitment" doesn't scare off chocolate
10 You can have chocolate on top of your workbench/desk during working hours without upsetting your work mates
11 You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped
12 You don't get hairs in your mouth with chocolate
13 With chocolate there's no need to fake it
14 Chocolate doesn't make you pregnant
15 You can have chocolate at any time of the month
16 Good chocolate is easy to find
17 You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle
18 When you have chocolate it doesn't keep your neighbours awake
19 With chocolate size doesn't matter; it's always good
20 Perhaps you know a 'chocoholic' who would appreciate this funny fax. IP: Logged |
SaggiMC
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From: UK
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 19, 2012 11:21 AM
A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.
Change is inevitable ... except from vending machines.
A fool and his money are soon partying.
Plan to be spontaneous tomorrow.
If you think nobody cares about you, try missing a couple of payments.
Bills travel through the mail at twice the speed of checks.
Borrow money from pessimists-they don't expect it back.
A conscience is what hurts when all your other parts feel so good.
Experience is something you don't get until just after you need it.
For every action, there is an equal and opposite criticism.
No one is listening until you make a mistake.
Success always occurs in private, and failure in full view.
If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried.
Who is General Failure and why is he reading my hard disk?
What happens if you get scared half to death twice?
I used to have an open mind but my brains kept falling out.
I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder.
Why do psychics have to ask you for your name?
When I'm not in my right mind, my left mind gets pretty crowded.
24 hours in a day ... 24 beers in a case ... coincidence?
If I worked as much as others, I would do as little as they.
When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy.
Hard work pays off in the future. Laziness pays off now.
Everyone has a photographic memory. Some don't have film.
If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.
Support bacteria-they're the only culture some people have.
Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
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charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 20, 2012 06:03 AM
Nothing beats cake. ------------------
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Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.
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anongrl10
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posted February 20, 2012 07:31 AM
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PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 21, 2012 02:07 AM
I am usually happy. Even when I do get sad or grim I know it's a moment that will pass and that keeps it from bothering me too bad.How do I stay happy? I'd say a lot of things, which I'll sum up here: 1. Good friends that I can share happiness with (which increases it for us all) and sadness with (which decreases it for us all). I'm also drawn to friends who know how to make me laugh (and enjoy my own sometimes warped sense of humor). 2. Not worrying about the small stuff, remembering what's important. 3. Exercise and sauna, which helps in so many ways, from getting rid of toxins that cause depression & sickness, creating endorphins which increase happiness, to general health and fitness. I also avoid (but indulge occasionally) any type of junk or fast food. 4. BALANCE. For example, a healthy bit of virtue & vice, which I see as a good thing (but unhealthy when either virtues or vice become obsessive). Work & Play is another. 5. Being forgiving as I can of myself and others and remembering that every rose has its thorns. This isn't anything "spiritual" that many people make it out to be, this is simply a means to preserve my happiness (and my relative sanity) by not endlessly ruminating on stupid stuff I've done or wrongs that were done to me (intentionally or otherwise). Obviously, this doesn't mean letting people take advantage of me, nor does it mean refusing to learn from my mistakes. 6. Libraries. (The internet has a similar appeal to me, but given that I'm Libran that should be no surprise.) 7. Setting realistic steps to goals with a willingness to learn & adapt. I could add other things, but I'll stop there. I may add more later. IP: Logged |
sand
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posted February 21, 2012 06:11 AM
chocolate cake = win winIP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 21, 2012 06:41 AM
quote:
Originally posted by sand:
chocolate cake = win win
Quite! ------------------
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Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.
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Yin
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posted February 21, 2012 09:21 AM
quote:
Originally posted by GypseeWind:
... I just got TIRED of being bummed out. So, I forced myself to stop.
Best decision I EVER made.
Yuppidy, yup, yup. IP: Logged |
juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
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posted February 21, 2012 02:17 PM
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Originally posted by Yin:
Yuppidy, yup, yup.
And a few more Yups from here! For today, having enough money to purchase Thunderbirds meds and still buy a Fat Tuesday treat for me; a paczki ------------------
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~ IP: Logged |
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