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Topic: peeople come and go from your life
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LEXX
Moderator Posts: 6209
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 14, 2011 09:52 PM
  
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Originally posted by pixelpixie:
Yeah- Things change, people change- new interests come in and out. I love the Reason Season Lifetime rule.
Relationships evolve, and so do we as people- if we have evolved beyond what we sought to be and focus on during that important time, it is not to be shallow toward that experience, it is to be reverent toward it, that it helped us to grow beyond where we were when we entered that time. We've 'graduated'.
Some of my best friends growing up will always be in my heart. Always.
They are suspended there in my 10 year old girl, 15 year old girl, 22 year old girl memories. They are a part of me.Sometimes this happens in love relationships too.. marriages and long relationships are tough...the synastry of unions must be nurtured. The other things that make up our psyche must be nurtured.... nothing is static. Lessons sometimes sting, but if we can move with the river of life, all of us- all of our components, and theirs, as things change, you can continually evolve together and be new and wonderful people relating always.
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LEXX
Moderator Posts: 6209
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 14, 2011 09:53 PM
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Originally posted by charmainec:
There are those that lay foundations in our lives for a much greater purpose we realize at the time.When those foundations are solid they leave so that we can build onto that.
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abcd efg
Knowflake Posts: 410
From: India
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted May 15, 2011 01:00 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4xqMa7gPIA Here is an old song (1955) from our Indian film. On how ppl meet and depart leaving us to bear the sorrow when lonely. I know most of us here will not understand the language but i thought since music has no boundries it can be enjoyed anyway.......The first is in a light mood, in the initial part of the movie when they meet and are going in their different ways. And the later when they have fallen in love and are to part. (If i remember correctly, its been ages since i saw the movie). Correct me pl if i am wrong.
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 8664
From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 16, 2011 09:31 PM
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charmainec
Moderator Posts: 2437
From: on the other side of the rainbow
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 26, 2011 04:23 AM
Someone once said, "When the Universe closes one door,it opens another."This is true even though any sort of loss is painful  IP: Logged |
insideintrovert
Newflake Posts: 22
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Registered: May 2011
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posted May 26, 2011 01:03 PM
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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
As a general rule, people who leave relationships fast probably are not investing much in them...
BINGO! This is so true and I see this in some of my friendships. No time is invested and it seems like the friends drop off the face of this earth. I have been the type who has always kept in touch. I just said GOODBYE to friends that I have known for almost 20 years. They don't have any time for me and when I phone they would get extremely angry at the distraction. I thought they were good friends. Time to move, let go and live my life. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 10080
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 26, 2011 01:38 PM
I think if you look at Death as the ultimate loss,it helps when you lose friends.
We can't hang on to anything ,really,not even the greatest and most perfect love  ------------------
"Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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starfox
Knowflake Posts: 301
From: London England
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted May 26, 2011 07:10 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I think if you look at Death as the ultimate loss,it helps when you lose friends.
We can't hang on to anything ,really,not even the greatest and most perfect love
Memories
Flee and
Are no more:
All are empty dreams
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saronna
Knowflake Posts: 321
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted May 26, 2011 09:43 PM
it depends if you are Nellie Fargo? Nellie doesn't go to Al-anon but stays stuck on with glue from the beinging of creationIP: Logged |
tenny22
Newflake Posts: 9
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Registered: May 2011
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posted May 30, 2011 09:00 PM
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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
As a general rule, people who leave relationships fast probably are not investing much in them...Overly-social people stay very light-hearted and don't throw down roots; I would gather this is a reflection of their motivations, and maybe emotional depth. It sounds like you want something more long-lasting, Starfox... so, why waste your time on flighty types? They're not so hard to pick out... just look at their other relationships. Not to say that flighty people don't have nice qualities - only that you should sort of not put too much into them... as they will likely not understand the kind of pain they will cause when they leave, again and again. Personally, I don't make "quick friends" anymore. I look for those who are likely to value a friendship with me, and those who I have something in common with... I also check for certain traits that are really undesirable - like superficiality.
Feeling the pain currently, I totally agree with this... but it's hard to see that shallowness if it's hidden...
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