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starfox
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posted May 11, 2011 05:56 AM
  
A person can be the most important person in the world to you, for years and even they eventually leave. Your friends from childhood.
Your neighbours.
Your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband.
Your family.. Were we and they just pretending friendship all along? it seems so selfish that humans are so capable of tossing people aside as we choose. What real value did friendship or even love have in the first place when at the snap of a finger it no longer holds any weight? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted May 11, 2011 07:47 AM
Starfox  ------------------
Throw away your books and listen to your heart.Listen the closest when it hurts the most.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
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posted May 11, 2011 07:48 AM
Starfox ------------------
Throw away your books and listen to your heart.Listen the closest when it hurts the most.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Dee
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posted May 11, 2011 08:34 AM
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Originally posted by starfox:
A person can be the most important person in the world to you, for years and even they eventually leave. Your friends from childhood.
Your neighbours.
Your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband.
Your family.. Were we and they just pretending friendship all along? it seems so selfish that humans are so capable of tossing people aside as we choose. What real value did friendship or even love have in the first place when at the snap of a finger it no longer holds any weight?
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charmainec
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posted May 11, 2011 08:36 AM
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LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 09:52 AM
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Were we and they just pretending friendship all along? it seems so selfish that humans are so capable of tossing people aside as we choose.What real value did friendship or even love have in the first place when at the snap of a finger it no longer holds any weight?
I have the opposite "problem".
I do keep caring about family, old friends, old loves.....
Can one care too much???????????????
But yes, too often people just toss aside the meaningful rather than find ways to deal with and keep folks in one's life as circumstances and dynamics of life and relationships change. Life intrudes, people throw hands in air and say forget it, do no have time, do not like their mate, family, whatever, and well just say to hell with it.
Maybe there are times when that is all one can do.
I have known too many such situations, be it old loves,friends,family....
True close friends are rare so rare.
I just do not know any more but to just move on because I do not like complications, because of any friends or family.
I do not think there are any simple solutions.
It is like the story of the straw that broke the camel's back.
We cannot please everybody if we please ourselves so hard choices must be made,
a balance found or new perspectives and alternatives and yes, even letting go completely..........
LOL!
I am babbling and making no sense maybe.------------------
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~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
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bunnies
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posted May 11, 2011 09:57 AM
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/h/henrywadsw165427.html My father always used to quote this poem to me and that is basically how life is.
We are all just ships that pass in the night and having met sail on. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 11:03 AM
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Originally posted by bunnies:
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/h/henrywadsw165427.html My father always used to quote this poem to me and that is basically how life is.
We are all just ships that pass in the night and having met sail on.
Yes most often true.
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Ships that pass in the night, and speak each other in passing, only a signal shown, and a distant voice in the darkness; So on the ocean of life, we pass and speak one another, only a look and a voice, then darkness again and a silence.
Henry Wadsworth LongfellowRead more: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/h/henrywadsw165427.html#ixzz1M3YZ1fVm
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PlutoSquared
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posted May 11, 2011 11:08 AM
As a general rule, people who leave relationships fast probably are not investing much in them...Overly-social people stay very light-hearted and don't throw down roots; I would gather this is a reflection of their motivations, and maybe emotional depth. It sounds like you want something more long-lasting, Starfox... so, why waste your time on flighty types? They're not so hard to pick out... just look at their other relationships. Not to say that flighty people don't have nice qualities - only that you should sort of not put too much into them... as they will likely not understand the kind of pain they will cause when they leave, again and again. Personally, I don't make "quick friends" anymore. I look for those who are likely to value a friendship with me, and those who I have something in common with... I also check for certain traits that are really undesirable - like superficiality. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 11:24 AM
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As a general rule, people who leave relationships fast probably are not investing much in them...
I have opposite issue, staying too long, trying too hard.
Investing time does not always work in long run.
I feel I'd rather know right off any deal breakers than find out later and have a big mess to deal with.
To hell with pussy footing!
TRY TO BREAK IT!
If it is for real it cannot be broken!  IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 11:27 AM
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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
As a general rule, people who leave relationships fast probably are not investing much in them...Overly-social people stay very light-hearted and don't throw down roots; I would gather this is a reflection of their motivations, and maybe emotional depth. It sounds like you want something more long-lasting, Starfox... so, why waste your time on flighty types? They're not so hard to pick out... just look at their other relationships. Not to say that flighty people don't have nice qualities - only that you should sort of not put too much into them... as they will likely not understand the kind of pain they will cause when they leave, again and again. Personally, I don't make "quick friends" anymore. I look for those who are likely to value a friendship with me, and those who I have something in common with... I also check for certain traits that are really undesirable - like superficiality.
I agree.
Just have to put folks each into certain category and devote the most time to the one(s) you sync with best on all levels. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted May 11, 2011 11:48 AM
I was stung by someone who became more superficial - and I became expendable as a result. They didn't start out that way - that's what I liked about them. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 11, 2011 12:18 PM
Very few people are capable of long-term friendships. Some are just here to teach us things anyway and then will naturally move on, because once we learn those Lessons, we will grow apart. Be careful what you share with others, no matter how "close" you think you may be. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 12:25 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Very few people are capable of long-term friendships. Some are just here to teach us things anyway and then will naturally move on, because once we learn those Lessons, we will grow apart. Be careful what you share with others, no matter how "close" you think you may be.
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Dee
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posted May 11, 2011 04:48 PM
A Reason, a Season, or a LifetimePeople come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on. When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Author Unknown
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LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 06:26 PM
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Originally posted by Dee:
A Reason, a Season, or a LifetimePeople come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on. When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Author Unknown
http://www.yuni.com/library/docs/631.html
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SunChild
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posted May 11, 2011 06:28 PM
LOVE that poem.
My mum and step-dad walked out on our whole family, not quietly or peacefully either! There are small times when I can't accept it (probably allowing emotional release), then there are many times when the wisdom of my Higher Self comforts me in understanding.
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Let go of trying to control this situation, and allow the divine infinite wisdom to flow through your higher self.
~ Doreen Virtue
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LEXX
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posted May 11, 2011 07:13 PM
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abcd efg
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posted May 12, 2011 09:46 AM
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starfox
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posted May 12, 2011 06:19 PM
Dee thats a nice poem.  I just get a bit despondent sometimes. I try to live by the rule of 'treat others as they treat you'
but so many people don't care to reciprocate in that.
Perhaps I'm just another melancholy old capricorn, I see how good things could be but never become. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted May 12, 2011 11:04 PM
Yeah- Things change, people change- new interests come in and out. I love the Reason Season Lifetime rule.
Relationships evolve, and so do we as people- if we have evolved beyond what we sought to be and focus on during that important time, it is not to be shallow toward that experience, it is to be reverent toward it, that it helped us to grow beyond where we were when we entered that time. We've 'graduated'.
Some of my best friends growing up will always be in my heart. Always.
They are suspended there in my 10 year old girl, 15 year old girl, 22 year old girl memories. They are a part of me.Sometimes this happens in love relationships too.. marriages and long relationships are tough...the synastry of unions must be nurtured. The other things that make up our psyche must be nurtured.... nothing is static. Lessons sometimes sting, but if we can move with the river of life, all of us- all of our components, and theirs, as things change, you can continually evolve together and be new and wonderful people relating always.
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charmainec
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posted May 13, 2011 05:44 AM
There are those that lay foundations in our lives for a much greater purpose we realize at the time.When those foundations are solid they leave so that we can build onto that.------------------
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No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.Nelson Mandela
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Betty Boop
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posted May 13, 2011 05:53 AM
I've made my peace with this - with losing people - after my first experience with death (because people can also disappear through death).
I see it as a normal part of life now. They're always in my heart. I don't feel like physical distance means much. I've moved a lot and lost a lot of friends - specially my childhood friends. But I do remember them and I do care about them ^ I think it's impossible to maintain anything over time. Nothing lasts eternally. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 14, 2011 07:10 PM
Every loss creates a void, and nature abhors a vaccum...so the Uni-verse fills it...and Life goes on. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted May 14, 2011 09:31 PM
quote:
Originally posted by starfox:
Dee thats a nice poem. I just get a bit despondent sometimes. I try to live by the rule of 'treat others as they treat you'
but so many people don't care to reciprocate in that.
Perhaps I'm just another melancholy old capricorn, I see how good things could be but never become.
{{{hugs}}} Yeah....Sigh.------------------
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
~It is far better to regret wrong paths taken than to regret the paths not tried~Giselle
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