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Topic: Aquacheeka
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 31115
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 21, 2012 10:30 PM
  
Lonake
Randall has taught me to ignore people who ride my butt. It is a really hard lesson BUT you will gain great personal power from it. When someone rides you, ignore. Talk to me or someone else but force yourself to ignore. The person will get theirs somewhere down the road. It will not fail. Know that. They are harassing other people the same way they are harassing you. True power is not to let someone pull your chain!!!! xxxxxx------------------
Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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aquaguy91
Knowflake Posts: 1316
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 21, 2012 10:31 PM
I Would just like to say that i kind of agree with aquacheeka, i have also have found lonake abrasive at times, but not knocking her though,i think we should all learn to be a little nicer,myself included,this is a site that deals with controversial subjects so we all arent going to agree at times, lets all try to turn the other cheek and agree to disagree.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 31115
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 21, 2012 10:36 PM
Being a Mod will force you to grow, Lonake. The ultimate in power is to not let people pull your chain.People will try.It is an ongoing fight. True power is not letting someone do it. It is very hard and I have not mastered it by a long shot but I aspire to. I do make small baby steps but you need support. I am available for you, Lonake. I am not saying I am perfect because I am very flawed but I have made great strides from listening to Randall about ignoring! It is a very powerful modality. It can save you a lot of stress. That person you ignore will go on to feel the pain with someone else. You don't have to be the one to teach that person. Life will. It will be very empowering for you.I have gotten pretty good at it and it has really helped me to have more self esteem. I am not perfect though and do lose it but I try to follow Randall's wise advice. ------------------
Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 3142
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 21, 2012 10:40 PM
aquaguy -The rules here allow a lot of freedom of self-expression. That's what makes LL what it is.
If people have to censor things and basically 'walk on egg shells' whenever they post something, it would kill the vibe. & You are right that everyone can be (and has been) abrasive at times. But I don't mind. I mean - we're all human. IP: Logged |
Lonake
Moderator Posts: 7272
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 21, 2012 10:41 PM
Dear Ami, I appreciate your efforts for peace, but I am her sole target and she deserves every bit of nastiness back that she meters out to me. Like I said, she shouldn't have opened the door. People have to learn that there are consequences for such.IP: Logged |
Lonake
Moderator Posts: 7272
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 21, 2012 10:44 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
abrasive
Yea BB said I'm direct or some-such. Maybe so.
Or *maybe* I'm just not telling them what they want to hear.
I notice some people get very *precious* with their charts.
That's something that can't really be accounted for at all times.
It can only be accounted for *when I am looking directly on their chart and commenting.*
See the difference?*************** And honestly, it's made me leery of commenting on charts for that reason. I've cut that down lately, since I've returned after a break. In fact, I've just decided not to comment on a chart that I was going to, a new one. As a result of this discussion.
I have another one I'm commenting on and I've had no problems, and you know why, cos the lady is honest with herself and *not defensive.* She is going through big changes and she can pull up her big girl panties and deal with it. Kudos to her, too.
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 31115
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 21, 2012 10:46 PM
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Originally posted by Lonake:
Dear Ami, I appreciate your efforts for peace, but I am her sole target and she deserves every bit of nastiness back that she meters out to me. Like I said, she shouldn't have opened the door. People have to learn that there are consequences for such.
I hear you, Lonake! ------------------
Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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aquaguy91
Knowflake Posts: 1316
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 21, 2012 10:48 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
aquaguy -
The rules here allow a lot of freedom of self-expression. That's what makes LL what it is. If people have to censor things and basically 'walk on egg shells' whenever they post something, it would kill the vibe.
& You are right that everyone can be (and has been) abrasive at times. But I don't mind. I mean - we're all human.
And i agree %100 i was simply pointing out that i have seen it. But i also think people shouldnt take things so personally,i have had alot of people take things personally that i post where i simply stated my opinion or experiences or views and people get mad when i meant no harm,just giving my perspective,we should all be more considerate.IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
Knowflake Posts: 917
From: Boston
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 21, 2012 10:52 PM
I agree with both Faith, Aquaguy91 and Aquacheeka. Abrasive behavior and instigating disputes, isn't ok. No one however should be chastised for behaving a certain way especially if they're not aware they are behaving this way. However that kind of behavior is inexcusable especially in the dispute had been resolved and once again the cat is being dragged repeatedly back out of the hat to stir up more disputes. Knowing someone isnt an excuse to defend them if they behaving badly. But we all need to learn so we can grow and we can't grow if we're not made aware of our flaws or negative tendencies. Myself included because I can be forthright and opinionated and I've been made aware of this. It just becomes something to work on within myself. Lonake, you don't even seem willing to hear constructive criticism about how you behave with others. On this board people don't mind not holding back when criticizing each other, but evidently swallowing criticisms about ourselves becomes alien and we write them off as lies instead of taking a closer look at ourselves. We just have to be kinder to each other. And I admit that I can personally be very short with Ami Anne, but out of respect to her I'll bit my tounge from now on. Can we just practice being better people? IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 17603
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 21, 2012 10:52 PM
For whatever reason, you two rub each other the wrong way, so in your exercise of free expression here, just make a concerted effort to avoid directly responding to one another. IP: Logged |
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