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Faith
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posted May 12, 2012 11:16 PM
  
This thread has turned my world upside down. I had no idea that many young men could be interested in older women. I thought it was just my brother and Ashton Kutcher (their birthdays are close) and that's about it.'Went to the mall tonight and I saw this buff young man with his attractive "mother" walking along enjoying their affectionate mother-son relationship (?!?!?!) or whatever that was! Before this thread, I would have thought, aww, it's sweet when young men like their moms. NOW I have to try and see if there is a resemblance to justify the "mom" assumption.
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posted May 13, 2012 04:01 AM
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Originally posted by Yin:
Speaking as an older woman now (yikes), people younger than me look like kids. So not sexyThis. I'm 40 and if I weren't married I couldn't imagine dating someone younger than 35. I've always liked men older than I am. I think the only time I dated someone younger was when I was 21 and I dated someone 18 for a short while. Not saying it would be impossible for me to really get into a younger guy if I were single... It's just never happened.
__________________________________ I've never dated younger, not even a year or two.. Blame it on Saturn in the 7th. "Younger" equals unattractive & usually, immature to me. Though I'm sure there are mature younger guys out there....somewhere.... Even when i'm an older sexy babe, I'd never date younger. Don't think I could deal with the bs or feeling like i'm dating a son. No thank you. I'll take gray hair, wisdom and wrinkles over that, any day of the week.  IP: Logged |
T
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posted May 13, 2012 04:07 AM
It must be Saturn in the 7th because I want nothing to do with younger men. And i know I wont when i'm older either. Who would find a little punk with his hat cocked to the side sexy anyway (unless you were the same age as him)? What does he know about life....or how to love a woman?  Why bother? *edit & okay, maybe he's not a teenage punk and is simply a genuinely nice teenage or twenty-something year old kid with nice abs. So what? Who over 23 years old could hang around with people that young? nevermind even think about sleeping with them? TV is making this big thing out of cougars, but only the dumb b*tches fall for it. I think it's gross. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted May 13, 2012 05:12 AM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
A lot of younger women, at least around here, look so outright sloppy. Pajamas in public
Years ago I swore never to go into another Walmart but then after years of not going I was dragged there by someone else and felt terrible...until I saw a woman (my guess was she was about 20, and this was back in 2009) wearing pajamas and clogs. That was freaking awesome.  Still, never went back to Walmart again, though people have pointed out I can still see Walmart shoppers at the "people of Walmart" site (I'd post a link but when I just visited my Avast had to block a malicious code so I won't). quote:
Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Granted, older women (not all, but a fair number) tend to have more money than younger women
I used to dress pretty wild, often with clothes from a thrift store that I mixed and altered, until 22...it's hard to say because I did have SOME style, but it was very unorthodox, and I liked expressing my individuality (which to me included independence from designer labels, which I considered buying to wear to be paying to be a corporate billboard)...to me it was a mix of I had bigger things to worry about than spending a lot on clothes and keeping up with fashion yet I also wanted to express my individuality so I designed my own clothes, including patching up ratty jeans with patches of rainbows, cats, etc, that I made myself (which I thought showed off my creativity and resourcefulness). Someone gave me a military trench coat that I really went crazy with (coincidentally the SPLC had warned the public about many of the images I put on it as being "hateful" though my meaning was completely different). I also liked keeping my hair short until I was 22 (though I did grow it out for Granny before, and my 'rents didn't want to pay for hair cuts, though I'd eventually get a friend to cut it for me, at least after the disastrous time I cut my own hair) because it was a lot easier to take care of given my very athletic hobbies as well as being outside so much (which if not short like a boy then got in my eyes and tickled my nose, sometimes even getting in my mouth--and yeah, I knew all about scrunchies, etc, but there always seemed to be hair that got loose and it was just easier to take care of short hair), particularly riding in the back of a pickup or riding in a car without AC (which in Texas heat means window down and trying to catch a breeze which tangles up long hair, and again with hair in the eyes). But then I got into a relationship with someone who wanted me to look a lot more feminine and so I lost my overtly tomboyish ways, stopped dying my hair (I usually had 2 colors at least, black and blue being favorites), let my hair grow out, and basically started dressing like a lady. Not only did I find it unexpectedly fun but society started treating me like an adult (up until then I even got carded getting into an R-rated movie, even at 22!) and I got a lot more business as people apparently thought I looked more responsible and trustworthy, so I stuck with it. Though interesting enough it didn't change how often strange men flirted with me, harassed me, and openly running their eyes up and down my body but it did change what kind of men found me intriguing. All in all I don't think it's better or worse, just interesting, and tells me there's more than one standard of beauty out there (though I imagine what tends to attract them is what they imagine I'm like from my appearance more than just I'm visually appealing to them). IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted May 13, 2012 12:24 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
This thread has turned my world upside down. I had no idea that many young men could be interested in older women. I thought it was just my brother and Ashton Kutcher (their birthdays are close) and that's about it.'Went to the mall tonight and I saw this buff young man with his attractive "mother" walking along enjoying their affectionate mother-son relationship (?!?!?!) or whatever that was! Before this thread, I would have thought, aww, it's sweet when young men like their moms. NOW I have to try and see if there is a resemblance to justify the "mom" assumption.
Older women are hot,they age like fine wine.
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teasel
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posted May 13, 2012 01:38 PM
I like someone who is thirty years old - but I would feel weird dating him. I do know of someone who is with a younger man, and they now have a baby girl. He was only supposed to be a fling, but he wanted to keep seeing he, so... It feels weird to me, but if my sister can marry someone twenty-three years older than she is, and society sees that as just fine? then I'm not going to sneeze at an older woman/younger man pairing. I really am tired of having that be so common - husband can be ten/twenty years older with no problem, but older woman = desperate? no way. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 13, 2012 07:45 PM
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so common - husband can be ten/twenty years older with no problem
Really? No problem? hmm I'm not sure where you get that. It's true that it is more socially acceptable for the man to be older - but when we are talking about a difference of 20 yrs.. or more - it is VERY frowned upon (VERY!).. and the people involved are socially demeaned to be a 'money grabber' or 'an old man who is only in it for the sex'... ummmm I could think of other things.
It's pretty disgusting. There is discrimination in younger girl - older guy.. cases as well. ------------------
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Odette
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posted May 13, 2012 07:49 PM
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if my sister can marry someone twenty-three years older than she is, and society sees that as just fine?
I don't know where you sister lives... but maybe we should elope there - if people are so nice and accepting. In my social circle and in my situation - people would metaphorically "stone him" for being with me. That's why I would prefer to never be with him. Because I care too much to see him hurt by nasty people. IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted May 13, 2012 07:50 PM
Brotip: "Half your age plus 7 bro, any younger & you're being creepy."  IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted May 14, 2012 08:49 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
It's true that it is more socially acceptable for the man to be older - but when we are talking about a difference of 20 yrs.. or more - it is VERY frowned upon (VERY!).. and the people involved are socially demeaned to be a 'money grabber' or 'an old man who is only in it for the sex'... ummmm I could think of other things.
It's pretty disgusting. There is discrimination in younger girl - older guy.. cases as well.
Definitely! I speak from experience! IP: Logged |
amowls**
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posted May 14, 2012 01:36 PM
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Originally posted by T:
It must be Saturn in the 7th because I want nothing to do with younger men. And i know I wont when i'm older either. Who would find a little punk with his hat cocked to the side sexy anyway (unless you were the same age as him)? What does he know about life....or how to love a woman? Why bother? *edit & okay, maybe he's not a teenage punk and is simply a genuinely nice teenage or twenty-something year old kid with nice abs. So what? Who over 23 years old could hang around with people that young? nevermind even think about sleeping with them? TV is making this big thing out of cougars, but only the dumb b*tches fall for it. I think it's gross.
I have Saturn in the 7th (even conjunct my DSC as a matter of fact) and I could NEVER see myself dating someone older than me by 10 years. I've already stated that I could see the flipside, me being 40 and dating a 20 year old. I don't like old men, I find them creepy to be honest. They remind me of my dad... EW. I can't even call my dad daddy because I think it sounds too sexual. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted May 14, 2012 02:22 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Really? No problem?hmm I'm not sure where you get that. It's true that it is more socially acceptable for the man to be older - but when we are talking about a difference of 20 yrs.. or more - it is VERY frowned upon (VERY!).. and the people involved are socially demeaned to be a 'money grabber' or 'an old man who is only in it for the sex'... ummmm I could think of other things.
It's pretty disgusting. There is discrimination in younger girl - older guy.. cases as well.
My sister has experienced a little bit. We live in the U.S. and he lives in Canada. It just seems as though much of an age difference where the woman is older, and there's a problem, whereas it's considered 'normal' to have it the other way around. I had 53 year old men hitting on me on a dating site, when I was 35/36, Men my age tended to be aiming for women ten + years younger - maybe eight, but over thirty was pushing it. It seems to me that people are much more accepting of older man/younger woman, unless she's a teenager. My sister only experienced some weirdness at first, with people thinking that she could do much better. She also looked like a teenager, even whens he wasn't one, so they got a little weirdness from a couple of teenagers, and my sister got some 'looks' from older women. My only problem is something unrelated to age (with him).
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PixieJane
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posted May 14, 2012 04:07 PM
I knew someone who said she would only date guys who were in their 20s (not that she did, this was only IF she ever started dating again) because her experience with guys her age (late 30s) and older was that they were lazy slobs who had to be taken care of and expected women to be their mom, maid, and sex toy without any needs of her own (some men provided financial security, but she saw such an arrangement as whorish). I was 17 when she told me that (and this was before I ever heard of "cougars") and I wished her luck on that. However, my experience has mostly been that guys my age weren't much better (though I presume they're more likely to have fab abs and are more virile, though they may need some training in putting it to good use  ). I recall that when I was 17 I wondered why it was almost always men who had multiple wives than the other way around, but after having lived with a few men I decided it was because taking care of one man was enough work without adding any more. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 15, 2012 03:53 AM
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lazy slobs who had to be taken care of and expected women to be their mom, maid, and sex toy
So many people generalise.
There are others saying stuff about young men being stupid, no emotional depth and what not. I just think age is a number.. and I don't like discrimination of any sort.. I'm egalitarian. @The woman you mentioned: Whatever Trevor! IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 15, 2012 03:59 AM
amowls - My parents had me when they were quite young, so my dad is actually only 2 years older than the guy I fell in love with. They are completely different people. There is no similarity whatsoever. They also have so many things opposite & square in their charts -- My dad is an Aquarius with Capricorn Mercury and Taurus AC. He is a Leo with Cancer Mercury and Scorpio AC. They have squared Mars signs in Aquarius & Scorpio. They are like chalk and cheese.. He could never in a million years remind me of my dad. When I was younger I would've said the same thing... because I would've thought of men that age - as being "all the same".
But now I realise how discriminating that is. Everyone has their own soul & their own personality. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted May 15, 2012 11:16 AM
I dunno, I like men who are my age, maybe slightly older. Always have. I don't like younger at all, and huge age gaps make me extremely uncomfortable.IP: Logged |
MoonWitch
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posted May 15, 2012 01:45 PM
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Im not gonna lie,if i lived on your street i would be flirting too, you are hot,and this is coming from a 21 year old.
Well shucks! I am very flattered
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posted May 16, 2012 04:37 PM
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Odette
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posted May 16, 2012 05:45 PM
She stole it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  IP: Logged |
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posted May 16, 2012 11:34 PM
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Originally posted by amowls**:
I have Saturn in the 7th (even conjunct my DSC as a matter of fact) and I could NEVER see myself dating someone older than me by 10 years. I've already stated that I could see the flipside, me being 40 and dating a 20 year old.I don't like old men, I find them creepy to be honest. They remind me of my dad... EW. I can't even call my dad daddy because I think it sounds too sexual.
I don't like "old men" either, amowls. Especially not "creepy" old men & At least not in the way you are implying. Who likes guys that remind them of their fathers or grandfathers? No one. Just because someone has grey hair and nice crows feet or wrinkles, does not mean they remind someone of their father or are automatically "creepy". Some people fine an older physical appearance and MATURITY experience & wisdom (being the keywords) attractive and it has nothing to do with what you were talking about. When you get older, maybe you'll understand. Your age is showing. I probably would have written something like that when I was 15 years old too though.
& point was, young guys usually equal immaturity, inexperience in all areas of life and self. It's not their fault and over time that will change and they will grow into themselves. I would just never want to date younger because of those reasons I don't care what their bodies looked like. Can't do it. Most young people, 20-somethings, the way they talk, dress, act make me groan. I can't take too much of it. There's a time and age when young people are still developing their egos and finding out who they are and I don't find that age/time sexy AT ALL. They are still goofy and awkward at that age. You don't find that as much with older men. I like confidence. & not the teenage/twenty something kind of "confidence".
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posted May 16, 2012 11:35 PM
What's creepy is you think the word "daddy" sounds sexual.IP: Logged |
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posted May 16, 2012 11:49 PM
& young guys usually equal immaturity, inexperience in all areas of life and self. It's not their fault and over time that will change and they will grow into themselves. I would just never want to date younger because of those reasons I don't care what their bodies looked like. Can't do it. Most young people, 20-somethings, the way they talk, dress, act make me groan. I can't take too much of it. There's a time and age when young people are still developing their egos and finding out who they are and I don't find that age/time sexy AT ALL. They are still goofy and awkward at that age. You don't find that as much with older men. I like confidence. & not the teenage/twenty something kind of "confidence".IP: Logged |
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posted May 16, 2012 11:53 PM
The most unattractive guy I've known was a guy in his 40's who pretended to people he was in his 20's. Now that's creepy.  IP: Logged |
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