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ElizabethO
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posted January 12, 2013 05:37 AM
  
When:1) A guy you go out initially with to a visit to the museum ends up spending the whole day with you. And 2) When you order from a restaurant, he has whatever you have. Sorry if this is a dumb question... will elaborate later once I've slept, lol. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 12, 2013 02:31 PM
1. He likes you.2. He's a bit of a wuss. Or maybe he just likes what you ordered. ------------------
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lalalinda
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posted January 12, 2013 04:00 PM
1) There is the potential for a good relationship here
because you share common interests and you are developing your friendship first. 2) as for him ordering the same as you, maybe he has
a Mutable Ascendant and he likes to try different things,
or as Randall said maybe he has the same tastes as you. sounds like a fun date  ------------------ "For all those who believe, expect a miracle.”
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ElizabethO
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posted January 12, 2013 08:47 PM
Well, the thing is that it wasn't a date... To start off with I guess. I asked him to go the museum with me and he agreed even though he doesn't really find the museum too interesting. Then we went to get food and spent two hours in the restaurant talking. That's when he got what I got. In fact, he had me order what we would eat and even the drinks. He made a few suggestions here and there but mostly he told me to choose. We split the bill in half. We then walked over to a jazz bar but it was closed. Then we went to a bar where we sat and talked over one beer for another two hours then played pool. The whole time he sent me mixed messages, flirting w me but mentioned a cute girl at the end of the bar? When I had to take the train home we hugged and that was that. I'm just confused.IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted January 12, 2013 10:00 PM
For now I would look at this as a beautiful friendship. I'd be happy with that. In the future who knows, maybe.------------------
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PixieJane
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posted January 12, 2013 10:45 PM
It could just mean he liked what y'all were talking about and enjoyed the company, and he may have had you order for him because he didn't know anything about what the food was like there. (Another option is that he's either mentally lazy or he's badly afflicted with Libra indecision that would take him a half hour to decide on his own.)Or maybe he likes dominant women and he was hoping you were ok with (perhaps even enjoyed) being in charge. In this case maybe even pointing out another girl was done in the hopes of you laying claim to him, "establishing territory." At least a few men really get off on that. Or maybe going to a museum and all that was a good way to get out of the house awhile, maybe even avoid some chore, so he made it last as long as he could. Or maybe he was studying you for some reason, from curiosity to a college project. (My favorite is imagining him as someone not really of this world either shapeshifted or "riding the body" involved to make observations for its home world or dimension.  ). Anyway, that's off the top of my head based on what was shared. IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted January 13, 2013 12:04 AM
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PixieJane
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posted January 13, 2013 03:04 AM
^^Huh. I thought they had a nice time.  IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted January 13, 2013 04:21 AM
^^ We did actually have a very nice time. I am confused, and I won't jump to condemning him. I just wish I knew what his intentions were... Next time I see him I'll just have to come out with what I'm thinking and ask for answers. I'm sure an Aries would appreciate that approach?IP: Logged |
Alma Sun
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posted January 13, 2013 12:59 PM
"The whole time he sent me mixed messages, flirting w me but mentioned a cute girl at the end of the bar?"
^ It sounds like he's testing you. How does he behave with other female friends?
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ElizabethO
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posted January 13, 2013 05:05 PM
He's a lot more casual with his very few other female friends. With me he's... different. Edgier.IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted January 14, 2013 11:29 AM
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mirage29
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posted January 14, 2013 11:40 AM
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Alma Sun
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posted January 14, 2013 12:49 PM
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Originally posted by ElizabethO:
He's a lot more casual with his very few other female friends. With me he's... different. Edgier.
Yeah, maybe he's into you lol. I had an Aries friend do that to me as well (flirted with my friend to get a reaction). That friend later told me he was trying to make me jealous. ------------------
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 14, 2013 05:08 PM
He sounds like an absolute waste of time. Just move on with your life. That's my advice as a man.IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted January 14, 2013 08:39 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
He sounds like an absolute waste of time. Just move on with your life. That's my advice as a man.
OH THANK GOD YOU REPLIED! Seriously, I was hoping you'd say something.  I'm starting to get very frustrated, and it makes me wonder why I should put so much work. While I'm all for equal rights, I want to be woo'ed! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 14, 2013 08:49 PM
I want to be woo'ed![/B][/QUOTE]i'm still trying to figure out what that means lol IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted January 14, 2013 08:52 PM
^ Romantic gestures. A compliment. A kiss... at least LOL. I'm pretty easy to satisfy. IP: Logged |
T
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posted January 14, 2013 11:07 PM
I agree with YTA. Don't waste much more (if any) of your time.Guys won't make things very confusing when they really like you (unless they are immature). IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 14, 2013 11:11 PM
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Originally posted by T:
I agree with YTA. Don't waste much more (if any) of your time.Guys won't make things very confusing when they really like you (unless they are immature).
not defending that guy or anything but lots of girls want what they call "mystery". guys who are upfront ans simple are often considered boring. IP: Logged |
T
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posted January 14, 2013 11:21 PM
I think that's a myth.I've never wanted mystery in a man. I'm not into wondering, waiting, or guessing about a guy and what he wants. Would rather get right to it. lol In case you havent noticed, most women love to talk. lol Not sit at home and wonder about someone. There gets to a point where sometimes "mystery" is really just a guy playing head games or stringing someone along. Maybe give it some time, but not too much and come out and ask him what's going on with him and where he's at. Don't give you power away and waste your time. Talk to him and decide what to do from there. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 14, 2013 11:36 PM
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Originally posted by T:
I think that's a myth.I've never wanted mystery in a man. I'm not into wondering, waiting, or guessing about a guy and what he wants. Would rather get right to it. lol In case you havent noticed, most women love to talk. lol Not sit at home and wonder about someone. There gets to a point where sometimes "mystery" is really just a guy playing head games or stringing someone along. Maybe give it some time, but not too much and come out and ask him what's going on with him and where he's at. Don't give you power away and waste your time. Talk to him and decide what to do from there.
well you are a rarity then because every time i hear a woman talking about a man they like they are always confused, saying things like" what did he mean by that? or why doesnt he ever call me ?etc. my mom came right out and told me that she likes mystery and she hates when men are upfront and state their feelings/intentions early on. after hearing that i notice the same thing in most womens actions, they are always obsessed with the guy who keeps them guessing.
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T
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posted January 14, 2013 11:53 PM
Ugh! How could someone like that? I'd never want to sit around wondering those things. I think i'd just get ****** and not talk to him anymore. lol Besides being immature, I'd find it mean, mindgaming (possibly sociopathic) kind of behavior and wonder what he was trying to hide. It's really disrespectful thing to do to someone. Sorry your mom puts herself through that kind of thing.I think most women mean they like the "mystery" at the beginning of a relationship is - the getting to know a person part. Who the heck wants a guy that isnt putting any effort into you or hiding things and treating you like crap? That type of behavior would make me run the other way - red flags. Anyway, don't want to derail Elizabeth's thread. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 14, 2013 11:55 PM
@T , you were right about one thing though, when we(men) really like a woman, there is no mystery. but thats the problem, lots of girls get invested in these "mysterious" guys and end up getting hurt because they arent really mysterious at all, they just arent into the girl.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted January 14, 2013 11:58 PM
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Originally posted by ElizabethO:
I'm starting to get very frustrated, and it makes me wonder why I should put so much work. While I'm all for equal rights, I want to be woo'ed!
Just out of curiosity, what if he's not into you that way? For example, what if you ask if he "likes like" you and he laughs saying he's monogamous...with his boyfriend. Would you still want to spend time with him? And if it doesn't make a difference, that is you're happy spending time with him regardless or romantic and/or sexual interest, then why the rush? Is there someone else you'd hook up with right now if he's not into you that way? IP: Logged |
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