Registered: Sep 2013
posted November 24, 2013 02:33 AM
I am a Leo female and I broke up with a Libra male a few days ago, and although it hasn't been that long I feel confused, there is a part of me that feels like I did the right thing, and a part that feels like I might have overreacted, the reason I broke up with him is because I got tired of the unsure vibe he was giving me, one minute he would make me feel like I he wanted to be with me, calling/texting me, spending time with me, being affectionate blowing off his friends for me etc.the next he wouldn't say two words to me the final straw for me was when he went nearly a month of hardly saying anything to me, he would take hours to answer my text(if he ever did text back) or say he would call me back and don't,or promise to do something with me and break it and when I confront him his response is "I forgot" or "it slipped my mind" and then he told me he has a "good friend" that is a female he says he isn't attracted to her, doesn't want to have sex with her or be with her but if he did he knows he could, yet wants me to believe she's just a "good friend" like a sister he claims because she moved to a different State when I questioned him about how does he know he can and how that would work he said "I can visit her and she can visit me" he also said they talk all the time about everything, yet with me he doesn't I even told him one time that he is so secretive.
Anyway after he told me that and everything else I finally told him that as much as I love him that I couldn't keep hurting myself and couldn't be with him anymore, I said that I am not emotionally/mentally attached/attracted to any other man, yet he is to another woman that a man wouldn't say he knows that he can sleep with his female friend unless there was some type of attraction there and they talked about it, I also told him that I am not an option that if his only reason for being with me is because he knows I'm loyal and won't cheat on him then to me that's not good enough, because if he can't trust me enough to talk about everything to me not another woman then what's the point of saying u want to be with me and to not keep me around because I'm a sure thing, that this hot&cold vibe he keeps giving me isn't fair because he knows for sure that I want to be with him but I'm no longer sure about him wanting to be with me, and that as much as I love him I can't sit around while he has me at his beck & call doing whatever it is he wants to do, and that I will not sit back and accept him being emotionally involved with another woman that if I couldn't have all of him then I wanted none of him.
Okay so the reason I am confused is because I don't know if I did the right thing by breaking up with him. I will admit that the main reason I broke up with him was due to this other woman, to me the fact that he can talk more to another woman and trust her more then he trust me really did hurt me and I am the type that if I feel I am going to compete for a mans attention I'd rather just walk away however I am sure he has never slept with anyone else while with me, even during his disappearing act idk but I am sure of that and I know women whose s/o has cheated on them in all ways and they fight to keep their relationship and I'm wondering if I should have done that(not physically)and not let my emotions get the best of me, or did I really make the right decision considering the fact that he felt it okay to let me know he can have sex with another woman if he wanted to, I mean it's not like I didn't know that as I can do the same, but I would have never said that to him especially if that someone is a so-called friend and I was trying to convince him to believe that.
Something else I would like to add we were involved with each other a few years ago and things ended, we both moved on I got married and divorced during that time, we finally got back together and he not I started initiating future talk with me he brought up marriage, kids, house, vacation, cars, etc. I told him that he didn't need to bring up these things to me because it didn't phase me as I have already been married, I am a mother, only thing I never had was a house and that if we got married and had kids together I'd be happy but if we don't I'd still be happy, I asked him if he really feels I'm the one for him and he said yes, I asked him why he feels that way and he said "we're compatible", and "that he knew I genuinely liked him for him that I didn't always want him to spend his money on me and that I was OK with us just hanging out at his or my place spending time together because I just wanted his time" he mentioned that before we split yrs ago that I use to travel over an hour to see him bring him food and sleep on the floor with him I did tell him that I am a jealous type and that I don't like to be lied to, that he shouldn't tell me what he thinks I want to hear and to be sure he means it and more than once he said yes. And I can't understand how he switched up so much on me, I know I wasn't the perfect g/f I do sometimes have an attitude problem, but I gave him his space, if he told me he was with the guys I would say have fun, if he let me know he just wanted to relax by himself I wouldn't bother him until he contacted me, when he wanted sex I gave it to him, he could ask/tell me to do something and I would do it.
I'm sorry that I made this so long but I would like to know from ppl that are Libras, or have dated Libras did I do the right thing by breaking up with him or does it seem like I overreacted? Also do Libras()mainly men)eventually realize that the hot&cold behavior toward their s/o or being to flirtatious can damage they're relationship, or do they not care because they have other women that want them? And lastly when u call a Libra(again mainly a male)out on their indecisiveness or break up with them over it do they realize what they did and try to come back or do they not care?
I"m a Leo-Rising/Sun/Moon/Venus/Mercury/Jupiter. Cancer-Mars
He is Libra-Sun/Aqua-Moon/Scorpio-Mercury/Virgo-Venus&Jupiter/Sag-Mars
Yes the truth does hurt,
but I'm a big girl, I'll
accept and get over it.
It's the pretty little
lie I'll never forget.