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Topic: 14 Things Every Fat Girl Absolutely Needs To Hear
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Desiring Shadows Moderator Posts: 2469 From: UNITED STATES, BABY Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 16, 2014 10:06 PM
Click me!------------------ My Chart! "People aren't perfect that's why pencils have erasers." -Wolfgang Reibe "Everyone wants happiness, no one wants pain. But you can't have a rainbow without a little rain." -Zion Lee "Be the type of person you want to meet." -Anonymous IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 9571 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 17, 2014 12:26 AM
Can I add something to the list?IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 9571 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 17, 2014 12:38 AM
I'm sorry.. But that article really ****** me off.. Am I the only one who can see the blatant double standards at play? Ugh.. Theres so much to say about how messed up this article is. I will write more when I get off of work.IP: Logged |
PixieJane Moderator Posts: 4657 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 17, 2014 12:51 AM
I don't know why doctors still use BMI, which is as scandalous for a doctor to use (or it should be, and will be one day) as phrenology. Even those who make a case for using BMI will often say it's not used correctly and the BMI can't tell the difference between fat & muscle or how that weight is distributed (which can make for huge differences in weight and health between people with the same BMI score). I mention it because not only are doctors still using it improperly and way too much but I've heard of schools combating obesity (which came about in large part because of school lunches and all that sitting around at school, but that's another topic) will send "BMI report cards" home (and if doctors overuse and wrongly apply BMI then schools are even more prone to it). Here's 10 reasons why it's bogus As for me I was in a PE class that subjected us to that. Only I and another girl were "healthy" by BMI standards (which not only made the other girls feel fat but also caused them to torment the two of us, and to this day I wonder was the coach who used BMI on us really that inexcusably ignorant, or was she cruel to all of us on purpose?). But the thing was, both me and the other girl who were "healthy" by BMI standards were under doctor's orders to gain weight! I don't know much about the other girl other than she was being treated for anorexia. But as for me I was so thin that I had delayed puberty, didn't have enough fat or something to go through the changes. (I probably weighed more than I looked as I was so athletic and did a lot of hard farm chores for several months just before taking that BMI test which meant I had muscle on me which weighs heavier than fat, but BMI won't take that into account.) And if the BMI tells an entire large PE/gym class that the only 2 girls of a healthy weight are the same 2 girls under doctor's orders to GAIN weight then obviously it's flawed (and an adult should know that by looking at us). Of course the coach herself didn't take the BMI test (at least not in front of us), and given her size she'd definitely would've failed it if she had, which is one reason why I suspect she did what she did out of cruelty than ignorance. IMO, BMI needs to be done away with completely, and that so many doctors rely on it shakes my confidence in the medical community. And as for this thread, if BMI says you're obese...well maybe you're just healthy after all. Consider all BMI scores invalid (even when they're right I consider it a coincidence, as in "a broken clock is right twice a day" way). IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 9571 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 17, 2014 01:08 AM
I couldn't help but notice that the article seems to encourage overweight women to hold out for "hot guys"... If this was an article about overweight men and they were encouraged to hold out for hot girls women would come out of the woodwork to shame fat guys and tell them that they need to get in the gym and quit being entitled pricks..IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 9571 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 17, 2014 01:14 AM
Oh... And I especially loved the part where it said fat chicks deserve to be worshipped.. If that's not entitlement I don't know what is.IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad Moderator Posts: 988 From: The Harvest Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 17, 2014 06:37 AM
No, the article does not say that. But we see what we think..  ------------------ ~the raving one dancing in the nude~ IP: Logged |
Catalina Knowflake Posts: 1835 From: shamballa Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 17, 2014 12:13 PM
Not read the article but why shouldn't fat girls deserve everything slim girls deserve? Why is being fat "imperfect" while being underweight is praised? The fact is some huge women have that "je ne sais quoi" and some don't. why does society look down on anyone's shape? IP: Logged |
AriesLilith Knowflake Posts: 635 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 17, 2014 07:04 PM
Women comes in different shapes and yet some women with bigger build can be beautiful too, it's just we are too used to the cultural standard of the models with same body type and clothes at the stores generally favoring the same body type that we might not realize the beauty of other shapes.With this said, on the other hand I don't think that it's healthy to encourage unhealthy overweight, just as it is bad to encourage unhealthy underweight. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 8534 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 17, 2014 08:31 PM
What AriesLilith said.Nice to see you, by the way. =) IP: Logged |
AriesLilith Knowflake Posts: 635 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 18, 2014 01:07 PM
quote: Originally posted by Doux Rêve: What AriesLilith said.Nice to see you, by the way. =)
Thank you! I've been away for a while but always ended up comig back to LL. IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer Moderator Posts: 4010 From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Feb 2012
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posted June 19, 2014 12:23 PM
I did not like the article. There is a vast difference betwixt fat but still fit; and morbidly obese arm flab draping extra chins and all. Acceptance is one thing, but glorifying morbidly obese as beautiful and a good thing is just so wrong in so many ways. I have/do considered myself attractive and loved/love myself; whether morbidly obese or anorexic. Yes; have been at both extremes; 88 pounds to 425 pounds. I still found love and did not hate myself. However; seriously; the person who promoted the "14 Things Every Fat Girl Absolutely Needs To Hear" is not being realistic. She is very out of shape to say the least and not very old by the looks of her; yet has draping arm flab like a 400 pound plus older woman. Sure, accept her, love her; but do not condone and enable her by telling her that she and other very flabby women are perfect. Really? Perfect? Honey you are a mess physically no matter how much you want to make everyone say you are perfect. Sure, enjoy your life and if you want to be or are morbidly obese; then do not let being very fat stop you! But "perfect" Get real! If one has more than 40% body fat; then one is not perfect but a time bomb of ills waiting to happen.The BMI is a terrible way to test for fat/thin.  The electrical impedance test is much more accurate.  At 200 pounds my lean mass was 152 pounds. That meant that I could weigh like 180 pounds and be considered lean and fit. >>>Yet the standard BMI charts said I was supposed to weigh about 119 pounds!  I would have had to lose 33 pounds >>>muscle<<< to be that weight!  Or 61 total pounds.  The standard BMI does not take into account one's lean mass (all the body, bones, organs, muscle etc.) vs the fat mass alone. I expect there might be folks who disagree with me and my views; but to glorify and endorse morbid obesity and or anorexia; is just so very wrong. I am not saying be mean and nasty to the extremes some folks are; but do not try to promote that either is wonderful perfect yippie look at us we are gorgeous crap. Pleasingly plump, robust, and so forth can indeed be quite lovely and even still very healthy! But severe obesity is an entirely different issue and should be treated as a disease/illness and not ridiculed, but be treated as a medical issue which it is. Rant over for now. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 8534 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 19, 2014 12:55 PM
Lexx  I agree with you completely. Ps. Hope you're doing okay. 
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Ceridwen Moderator Posts: 13277 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 19, 2014 01:16 PM
Lexx,  I agree. (and I am talking as someone who is, or at least was, morbidly obese. It was NOT healthy) IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014 Moderator Posts: 3245 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 19, 2014 04:23 PM
People can be beautiful in all sizes, it's not about beauty, it's about the fact that being overweight is unhealthy. I don't like this article.IP: Logged |
AriesLilith Knowflake Posts: 635 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 19, 2014 05:29 PM
I have been very thin, perhaps anorexic when I was young and sometimes I was joked at (in a non mean way thought) or been told to get fatter as it is not healthy. Now I'm better alrhough still a bit underweight, and I still prefer others to have encouraged me to take care of myself rather than drive me to dellude myself.Of course, one thing is to encourage to be healthy and another is to be cruel. And some people might have health issues that do affect their weights and losing or gaining weight might not be easy for them. Yet it's still important for our loved ones to encourage healthy ways. In the long term it is actually more cruel to let them be and later have serious issues. If a loved one has certain flaws, it's preferable to be honest with them, with both empathy and honesty, in order to encourage improvement. IP: Logged |