posted September 09, 2014 09:13 AM            

If you do end up sharing more, you get people assuming that you think that everyone must care. I had something like that happen recently, and it simply wasn't true, but their glee in being nasty is what bothered me. I commented on one thing, for the first time in months, didn't give lengthy updates on anything in my life, but they acted as though I had.

So where do you draw the line? I have been feeling more hermit-like, and closed-off, partially because I feel better when I live that way, but it's also safer. But if I had remained closed off, I wouldn't have made friends.

posted September 09, 2014 06:45 PM            

Yeah, belongs more in SPITR (though I do understand the nature of rambling off topic).

It sounds to me like you can't tell the difference between people. I don't have that problem with my friends because I almost never get that close to the bad apples you describe in the first place, and if I do then I put them at a distance when I find that's what to expect from them. That's where I draw the line myself, by deciding which ones I'm close to and which ones I keep at a distance and therefore don't have to worry about what you described. And it's fairly similar (though more complicated) with my family.

posted September 09, 2014 10:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
What's a Narcissist?

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And applied to the "#1 princess" hologram

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Entitlement: Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an "awkward" or "difficult" person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.

Exploitation: Can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.

Bad boundaries: Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist there is no boundary between self and other.

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Glibness/superficial charm

Grandiose sense of self-worth

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posted September 10, 2014 08:37 AM            

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posted September 10, 2014 09:24 AM            

Not really, at least not in the case of genuine narcissists. They're pretty much of the philosophy that there's no such thing as bad publicity, only in their case it's not about cynical manipulation for profit (as entertainers will often do, but it's strategy for them, not narcissism) but rather a need for personal attention (lacking attention is like lacking air for them), and their relationships tend to be dysfunctional and filled with co-dependents so they're no stranger to scandal (that's part of what makes this funny, unless filthy rich they'd never have the fans of Hatsune Miku, and even Paris Hilton isn't exactly popular, save by the press). It's people who aren't narcs who fear the wrong sort of attention...well, I suppose the "group narcissists" (that is, they're narcissists but for their clique, corporation, church, etc) might not want to fail to measure up to group standards, not sure about that one.

Oh! Another fun one, from the Simpsons, Mr. Burns sings It's a High to be Loathed:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SRrAELby068

posted September 16, 2014 09:07 PM            

That's not the case. It was the subject matter, one I believe was a thread on sociopaths (there were two of them and it was one that counted as one of the two).

In no way was this thread meant to be directed at anyone here. It was meant to be a fun thread, especially as some complain of all the drama and/or spiritual posturing and I thought this escaped both and would thus be enjoyed. I forgot to put on my LL hyperviglant glasses that are constantly scanning for personal attacks and seeing them everywhere where none was intended. I should've been clearer.

1. LL is Scorpio

2. LL is Scorpio

3. LL is Scorpio

4. LL is Scorpio

5. LL is Scorpio

6. LL is Scorpio

7. LL is Scorpio

There, I typed that out (and said it out loud as I did so) 7 times (not pasted it) in the hopes it helps me to remember that there is no thread so fun or innocent that it won't be scanned for personal attacks (with constant false pings).