posted October 18, 2018 12:42 PM              

Because If something as simple as texting first causes him to lose interest , is he really a guy worth keeping ? I’m sure if someone’s that flaky , he might not be super open minded and it’ll ultimately affect the rest of ur relationsip.

Tbh, anything preventing urself from doing what u want within normal boundraries is essentially playing a game. I personally don’t want to start of a healthy relationship with that. I can’t stay in a relationship or pursue a relationsip where I can’t be myself and I have to worry about little things like texting when really people involved should be focusing on the connection.

Trust me , u can’t do anything wrong in the beginning with a person ur suppose to meet and get involved with. Because even if u suck at the texting and make a wrong move , he will come back around . Universe does funny stuff like that.

posted October 18, 2018 07:52 PM            

I somewhat regret cancelling what I sent, but I'm disappointed that he has yet to say anything to me.

posted November 09, 2018 04:50 PM            

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Originally posted by furrybunny:
I have some rules when it comes to intial dating phase but bottom line is , u should feel free to do whatever u want. If u want to text or call do so. Obv know the difference between normal communication and obsessive. 😂 don’t show any negative emotions in text like neediness and desperation. Obv do it in person if u really need to 😂

Because If something as simple as texting first causes him to lose interest , is he really a guy worth keeping ? I’m sure if someone’s that flaky , he might not be super open minded and it’ll ultimately affect the rest of ur relationsip.

Tbh, anything preventing urself from doing what u want within normal boundraries is essentially playing a game. I personally don’t want to start of a healthy relationship with that. I can’t stay in a relationship or pursue a relationsip where I can’t be myself and I have to worry about little things like texting when really people involved should be focusing on the connection.

Trust me , u can’t do anything wrong in the beginning with a person ur suppose to meet and get involved with. Because even if u suck at the texting and make a wrong move , he will come back around . Universe does funny stuff like that.

Had this convo with a friend last week 😂

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posted December 31, 2018 06:37 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
I'm okay with whatever lol, if they don't and I wanna talk to them, I do, if they do, great. Even if they are p!!ssed at me, I do. I don't think I have ever waited for someone to text me first, well some don't respond even when I text them for a long time, they have life ofcourse and some ice me out, nothing quite p!sses me off like getting iced out though, I just am left with a mehh feeling towards them, nothing is quite hurtful like getting iced out in my experience, hate is far better, and next time the ones who ice me out text me, it just creates apathetic feeling towards them in me, although I might respond.

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posted September 21, 2019 01:46 PM            

But I certainly would be flattered and impressed by someone who went through the trouble to 'initiate' contact. Even if not interested, I would reply kindly ~~uh, ~depending!? LOL.

Anony!!! You are SUCH an interesting soul!
Heck. I wouldn't be surprised if you kept a lot of women on that lonnnng heart-string of yours?!!!

posted October 22, 2019 06:46 PM            

But assuming this is about finding love rather than merely getting laid then it should be immaterial. Y'all should end up seeing each other as people rather than as objects to fulfill each other's needs, at which point mutual respect should come in no matter who got the ball rolling. (And I'd be looking elsewhere other than the clubs, bars, and dating sites as the vast majority of all that is so fake, and look instead where I can find others with mutual interests that we can bond over besides sex.)

And on a side note, it's pretty twisted when guys are told to not sexually harass and not be creepy while at the same time putting the pressure on them to always initiate the contact. This is why I don't put full blame on the guys who have sexually harassed me (at least not in every case), because not only are they encouraged to be relentless harassers by other men, but also by women! Therefore, why wouln't some think I was just playing hard to get or "testing" him when I say no (and mean it)?