posted January 15, 2005 04:28 PM            

Thank you

I just know how hard us Archer peeps can be on those that love us and even harder when we are unevolved....You know, we don't have the lower part of Horses body for no reason..Sometimes we think more with our "rear" than our brains.

posted January 15, 2005 04:39 PM              

That's really good that you're feeling better, I hope you keep focusing on healing yourself. When I have things on my mind, it always makes me feel much better when I write them down. It gets all the feelings out, so I'm able to breathe easier. With break-ups and hurt, I'd write a letter and pour out all the things I wouldn't be able to say in person. Then, I'd either rip the paper or burn it scattering the ashes in the wind... It always brought me peace and closure. Hope that helps, and listen to Natasa and Pidua they are really wise and good.

posted January 16, 2005 10:25 AM            

"One more thing-
I always advise people that get involved with Saggies to try and find one over the age of 25. Make sure the Sag is prepared for a commitment, because before that age most of us do NOT see us in that type of relationship."

and

"It is hard to say goodbye - I know it hurts. Yes we Archers can be very entertaining, but in our unevolved stage that is as far as we go. We are not healthy for those that are more evolved."

I was building what I thought was a wonderful friendship and the foundation for what lies beyond friendship with a Sag with Aries Rising and a Leo Moon. Since I have Leo Rising I thought I could deal with Fire and not get burned. But then I made the mistake of telling this 46-year-old Sag that he'd passed all the litmus tests I had for a more serious relationship and he told me there would NEVER be anything more available from him than friendship. Since it would kill me inch by inch to just be friends and watch him go out with other women, I told him I had to back out of our friendship. He was amazed and hurt that I would depart because he would only give me a part of himself.

Anyway, 25 isn't an age when Sags become more able to commit, some of them never reach it! This happened around Thanksgiving, and only now in January have I returned to center and feel whole again. Love, not time, heals all wounds. I survived this with the love of my friends and my cats, and I'm stronger now for this "rejection".

I hope you're doing a little better every day now, maya. I'm sending some energy vibes your way......
'zala

posted January 16, 2005 03:52 PM            

My ex-hubby never married until me. I was 30 and he was 46 - even then he couldn't give himself to our relationship (he was a Virgo) and it ended.

Then again- I have dated men that were very into relationships, but they didn't see "able to really commit"...LOL..or it could have been me

posted January 16, 2005 04:11 PM              

You will have to separate the two, and then become grounded in a reality with someone who can give you both at the same time.

I hope you do this, because personally I never stopped wanting to live with someone, I realize now the reason I left my ex was to find a replacement not to be independent. Otherwise I will get used to the way it felt around him, sad, withdrawn and numb.

I really feel with your Fire mars and venus, you need that comfort. I met a Leo moon, Sag mars, Venus in Gemini, Cancer Sun lately, and this guy really knew the concept of affection and comfort. Not a lot of earth there, but massive amounts of TLC which made me smile.

You need to smile too, find smiles around you and smile back, go light on the affection.

If you need to email me please do, as I am going through the same over a Gemini. I am going to start shopping/dating again, and I am looking for someone who wants to know ME, and wants to live with ME, not someone else. If he doesn't want to live with me even for a little while, then he's not ready to give me anything.

I urge you to hang our with married and committed couples so that you can see healthy relationships.